Allowing Significant other to wear letters......

[delta_heaven22]

Okay, im not sure if there is another thread about this somewhere but I HAVE to ask!!!! My fiance and I were having a discussion about letting your sig.other wear your letters.

for example: his frat brother doesnt mind letting his girlfriend wear his t-shirts around the house or his Kappa jacket when she's cold...etc....On the other hand my fiance is like HELL NO...he loves me dearly but he would rather go to the store and buy me something right then to wear if i didnt have anything. They tease his frat all the time about his girlfriend wearing Kappa para but he still lets it go on.

I thought it was a little over board but got to thinking that maybe he's right. I wouldnt want to see him in my DST ever (not that he would want to) but you know what i mean. Not only that but it goes both ways....would you let your mom or your dad wear your frat/sorority hat or t-shirt...etc.

Tell me what you think...i really want to know!!! (sorry its so long )

[KAPPAtivating]

Something kinda similar happend to me a couple of months ago. My brother, who is 20, will often go in my closet and get a shirt if he needs one. When he told me he needed a shirt, I told him to go get one and he comes out with one of my NUPE shirts. My first instinct was to snatch him out of it, and it must have showed on my face because he said, "I can't wear this one?" I calmly explained why he could not wear that shirt, or even touch my kane. He then understood and apologized.

[jojapeach]

I was mad in an evil way when I returned home to find one of my brother's guests sipping out of a SGRho cup. I politely asked for her cup and poured her drink in a new cup. There were no Greeks around, but she wasn't a member, so she wasn't going to keep it going.

Wearing my para??? Negative. Not even my Mom. The closest I ever came to that was allowing my niece to stay warm with my jacket on top of her at a step show in a chilly auditorium.

[marquise1911]

My dad was wearing one of my shirts and when I asked him to take it off he had a fit!!! But I was persistant and he had to take it off. SORRY! The only time I ever let someone else use my Kappa umbrella, was when I let my SGRho sweety go to her car in da rain. .

[mulattogyrl]

No one is wearing my letters. That's just not an option.

[marquise1911]

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

No one is wearing my letters. That's just not an option.

DAYMN RIGHT!!!

[ZebraNupe]

I absolutely HATE when females come over to my house and always try and play around and touch my Kanes, this one chick tryed to sneak one out the door, I almost pushed her down the steps of my porch! Females are always fascinated with my Kanes because they see how much each one means to me. Always wanna play!

[1flypoodle]

I'm a negative on family and spouses wearing my para if they are not a member. I can recall a time I was at school and I left one of my SGRho tanks back home. My sister calls me one day and tells me that my mom took my shirt out of my room to wear that day. So i freaked and told her to put my mom on the phone. I made such a big fuss about it she changed her mind about wearing it. She said she wanted to wear it because it matched what she was putting on.

[tld221]

my mom, for WEEKS now, has been asking me to put my SGR keychain on her keyring. NOT!

explaining to her why = me being saddity

plz, my own soror almost got at me for wearing her jacket, so i wouldnt even think about wearing someone else's or using someone's para. one of my AKA friends had me over and gave me water in an AKA glass. i was like, are you sure? she was like, its cool dont worry, thanks for asking.

but not everyone's cool like that you know?

[ZetaStorm]

My Zeta cups and glasses are on display and it's pretty obvious that they are ornaments. What use to really aggravate me was when people wanted to touch my cat & Zeta figurines and also my paddles. Look but do not touch! I now have my off limit items under lock and key. As far as my man wearing my letters. Now that would be a serious problem. I would think something was seriously wrong with him. My Sorors can use my jacket/umbrellas, etc. Anyone else knows better than to even go there.

[Marie]

So here's a question. Would you let your mom/dad/husband/wife go without rather than letting them use any of your para? I mean, I understand not restricting items when there are other options clearly available. However, if it was raining, and the only umbrella available was yours (w/letters), or if it was cold and the only jacket/blanket available was your (w/letter) would that make a difference?

[Senusret I]

If you don't want anyone to use it, then lock it away.

I know I've mentioned this elsewhere on the board but someone needed to use an umbrella because of a sudden rain. I let the girl use my Alpha umbrella, told her to be careful with it, and told her that if ANYONE gave her any problems, to tell them they could see ME. Cuz I'll be damned if being an Alpha precludes me from being a gentleman.

[SummerChild]

My beau is not particularly partial to salmon pink or apple green so it's not an issue with me. LOL. No seriously, I wouldn't let him or even a woman wear my letters. And if it's raining they can get under the umbrella but I'll have to hold it myself.

ETA: I would drape my 6 year old niece in my jacket if that's all that she had and it was freezing cold and raining on us (this actually happened at a nighttime baseball game this spring - I had to take off my jacket and put it on her, but fortunately it was not an Alpha Kappa Alpha jacket).

SC

Originally Posted by delta_heaven22

Okay, im not sure if there is another thread about this somewhere but I HAVE to ask!!!! My fiance and I were having a discussion about letting your sig.other wear your letters.

for example: his frat brother doesnt mind letting his girlfriend wear his t-shirts around the house or his Kappa jacket when she's cold...etc....On the other hand my fiance is like HELL NO...he loves me dearly but he would rather go to the store and buy me something right then to wear if i didnt have anything. They tease his frat all the time about his girlfriend wearing Kappa para but he still lets it go on.

I thought it was a little over board but got to thinking that maybe he's right. I wouldnt want to see him in my DST ever (not that he would want to) but you know what i mean. Not only that but it goes both ways....would you let your mom or your dad wear your frat/sorority hat or t-shirt...etc.

Tell me what you think...i really want to know!!! (sorry its so long )

[bakingpoodle]

Something similar happened to me before I became greek. My boyfriend was a Mason and I was drinking water from a Mason glass. He had a fit and explained to my why I couldn't drink from it. I understand now that I am greek myself.

[I_Pi_6Klub]

Well, I dont think it would kill me if my lady where something (t-shirt only. Hell naw not my jersey or the one I had made), but it has to be inside out and as long as it is not out side of the house and other people kant see her wearing it, I wouldnt mind. As far as family. If it isnt my kid (lil boi only) then HELL NAW dont toukh my SHIT. LOL