This thing could go round and round forever. Having worked as a national volunteer for Alpha Xi Delta (although not having been involved with the UF stuff) I know that the lines of communication are not always as open as they should be. While things at UF did not go as the collegiate anticipated, I feel sure it didn't go as FHQ or the National Council anticipated either.
Someone made mention that national officer in general think of things from a business stand point not a sisterhood stand point. I think this is not necessarily true. I think they come at it from a sisterhood stand point until the business part gets in the way. If the group is spending tens of thousands of dollars a semester to in visits and help and the chapter still isn't doing well and can't support the chapter house - yes the business part comes in. Is it fair to all the other chapters that are paying their dues to put their money into beating a dead horse so to speak.
While I am not making excused for anyone on either side, I feel sure that there may have been some other things going on with this that G8Ralphaxi may not have known about, just as I'm sure there were things going on that the National Council and FHQ staff didn't know about.
As was said many times, we need to remember that our leaders are human and can make mistakes (if the president can get caught with his pants down and be forgiven . . . ) . We also need to remember that these women are VOLUNTEERS. They are thinking about their sisterhood, they are giving up their time, energy and probably money to help their national group grow and prosper.
I also would like to urge G8Ralphaxi to become an involved and active alumnae. If you were unhappy with your advisor(s) then what better reason - I know that's one reason I became an advisor and an now have to privilege to work as a national volunteer. I may not always be right, but I do the best I can with the information given to me and with the help of the women in the chapter.
I find it very sad that you still have bad feelings toward the national organization because of the actions of a few and define the whole by them. Supposedly, "time heals all wounds" and I hope so for G8Ralphaxi, because you cannot change anything on any level without being involved. As I said earlier, I hope you will become an involved alumnae, either with a alumnae association or with a collegiate group. Your experiences could be of tremendous help. I know that I cherish my experiences with the women I meet as an advisor as much or more than my collegiate experiences - I hope that someday this is the same for you.
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