J Lo and Ben: Did Ben Dump J-Lo?

[Questions404]

Originally posted by darling1
One would think that being this is her THIRD wedding she would opt for the less obvious approach.

The less obvious approach?? Why would she want to do something like that? She is getting more pub by postponing because of all of the hooplah . . . stop filming me, no cameras, stop, no . . . WHATEVER!! That broad wants attention and the things that she is doing right now surrounding her wedding proves that.

[darling1]

Originally posted by Questions404
The less obvious approach?? Why would she want to do something like that? She is getting more pub by postponing because of all of the hooplah . . . stop filming me, no cameras, stop, no . . . WHATEVER!! That broad wants attention and the things that she is doing right now surrounding her wedding proves that.

sho-nuff!!

[thesweetestone]

QUESTION OF THE WEEK: Uh, if Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck want their wedding to be such a secret, why won’t they – the international movie stars they are—just elope? You can’t get any more private than that. And it’s not like she – the bride—hasn’t walked down the aisle and got all done up before.

[CrimsonTide4]

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez, who just days ago were planning their weekend wedding, have split up, sources close to the couple tell PEOPLE.

The break-up comes in the wake of their decision Wednesday to postpone their Sunday wedding in Montecito, Calif., before as many as 400 guests. The couple blamed the delay on excessive media attention surrounding the event, but reports persisted that Affleck was having second thoughts about the nuptials. A PEOPLE source says it was Affleck who initiated the split.

While it was unclear whether the separation was permanent, Lopez was "devastated," according to one friend. The star was in tears, sources said, on Wednesday as she called guests telling them of the wedding's postponement.

Lopez, accompanied by friends and a bodyguard, went for a very public jog and swim -- at one point changing into a bathing suit behind a phalanx of towel-bearing guards -- Saturday afternoon along Miami's South Beach, not far from her 11-bedroom house in Miami Beach, where she flew solo on Friday from Los Angeles. Affleck was believed to still be in Los Angeles, though some reports had him heading to Las Vegas for tonight's Shane Mosely-Oscar De La Hoya fight.

The split caps a tumultuous summer for the couple, whose romance became public in July 2002 just days after she divorced Cris Judd. They have endured brutal reviews for their performances in the film "Gigli," while tabloid reports have accused Affleck of misbehaving with strippers during a late-night visit to a Vancouver nightclub (reports he vehemently denied). Lopez publicly stuck by her fiancee ("for me, it wasn't an issue," she told W magazine), and plans continued apace for their wedding -- his first, her third.

Ken Sunshine, Affleck's spokesman, said he had no knowledge of a split. Lopez' spokesman Dan Klores said he believed the couple was still together, but had not spoken to Lopez in several days.

During their time together, the pair -- who met on the set of "Gigli" -- generated worldwide attention, costarring in a sexy music video for her song "Jenny from the Block" and purchasing each other extravagant gifts, including a Rolls-Royce, a Harry Winston bracelet of white and yellow diamonds and 6.1 carat pink diamond solitaire Affleck gave Lopez as an engagement ring. Nevertheless, they thought of themselves as working-class kids -- she from the Bronx, he from Boston -- who shared similar values. As a teetotaler, Lopez was also seen as healthy for Affleck, who is a recovering alcoholic.

The couple will be together again -- at least on screen. Their second costarring vehicle, "Jersey Girl," is set for release next year.

[Sistermadly]

Maybe Ben woke up and smelled the J. Lo.

[Questions404]

Stop, stop, no filming me, we had to break up because of you guys, stop, no pictures, I would still be with him if if were for you . . . by the way, buy my new album, go to my new restaurant, try my new perfume, wear my new clothing line . . . no pictures, stop, please

[treblk]

Originally posted by Questions404
Stop, stop, no filming me, we had to break up because of you guys, stop, no pictures, I would still be with him if if were for you . . . by the way, buy my new album, go to my new restaurant, try my new perfume, wear my new clothing line . . . no pictures, stop, please

Bahhahahahahaha to funny

[oneinamillion]

They were already broke up. They just lied and said "the media did it". Ben got fed up with her; probably why he started hitting the town & clubs real hard.

[toocute]

Originally posted by oneinamillion
They were already broke up. They just lied and said "the media did it". Ben got fed up with her; probably why he started hitting the town & clubs real hard.

I don't know. I think it's all a big lie. I think they're off on some island right now married or getting married. Big publicity stunt.

[Steeltrap]

Originally posted by Sistermadly
Maybe Ben woke up and smelled the J. Lo.

As I've said befo, Ben.Lo, just say no to the J.Lo.Ho.

[prayerfull]

NO SURPRISE! One of Ben's friends probably whupped his but and knocked some dang sense into his head. Either that or J.HO called out Diddy while her and Ben were getting their groove on.

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by toocute
I don't know. I think it's all a big lie. I think they're off on some island right now married or getting married. Big publicity stunt.

It was mentioned that the late JFK, Jr and his wife did the same thing, but went to a small town in Georgia and got hitched.

Also, someone said, if they REALLY want to get married, it's not hard to do. All you have to do is get a judge or a minister to come to your house or a location and do the doggone thing.

[lostnfound117]

Originally posted by toocute
I don't know. I think it's all a big lie. I think they're off on some island right now married or getting married. Big publicity stunt.

i completely agree....it is to throw the press off of their trail!

[delph998]

I don't know...I think this could be true. J.Lo has some issues. It's quite obvious.

[Kimmie1913]

Not to be outdone, US weekly says they know why the wedding is off.

From mtv.com
After People reported that Ben and Jen were over, Us Weekly is coming around to tell us why.

In its relentless (and often triumphant) quest to trump the competition, Us Weekly's next issue cites Affleck's penchant for gambling, the overwhelming hoopla over the massive planned wedding, and his mother as some of the reasons why the 31-year-old actor said no-no to J. Lo. The six-page cover story arrives at newsstands Friday. ( Click for photos from the magazine.)

An argument on Monday prompted Wednesday's postponement of the wedding, scheduled for this past Sunday, the article claims. Although it's uncertain what Affleck and Lopez were fighting about, sources say that the spat served as the last straw in their 21-month relationship (see "Ben and J. Lo Broken Up?").

The magazine also claims Affleck spent Friday at the Hustler Casino in Gardena, California, an establishment owned by pornographer Larry Flynt. Witnesses told Us that he spent the night playing poker at a $10,000-minimum table, where he eventually left a loser.

All-night gambling episodes such as this and the one on September 1 at another Los Angeles-area casino, Us sources said, upset Lopez and may have caused an insurmountable rift in their romance.

Other instances that may have played a part in their breakup include Lopez's consultations with a psychic and Affleck's mother, Chris, urging him to call off the wedding so that he wouldn't forever live under constant media scrutiny. Already the fantastic circumstances surrounding the wedding (i.e. constant paparazzi surveillance and the need for decoy brides to throw them off), may have been too much to deal with.

The widely reported stripper incident that took place in Vancouver in July, which found Affleck partying all night and performing sex acts with strippers at a private party, was not a direct factor in the split. The magazine dismissed it as "speed bump," but one that may have all been part of Affleck's master plan. As Us points out, Affleck told Playboy in 1999 that he's prone to creating some incident in order to get out of a bad relationship.

While Affleck was up to his old tricks at the casino on Friday, all accounts put Lopez in Miami, where she was spotted by an Us spy the next day without her 6.1 carat pink diamond ring. She was out hitting the hotspots when the sun went down, but the apparent fun she was having only served to mask her broken heart.

"She wants to sit on the couch and cry," Lopez's friend told the magazine. "If she goes out, it's only because her girlfriends want to get her mind off the heartache."

The magazine does note that the breakup may not be permanent, but if it turns out that Lopez is in need of a shoulder to cry on, a familiar one is already available.

"She has my number if she wants to call me," Lopez's second ex-husband, Cris Judd, told Us.