A drama filled, rollercoaster Back to School themed recruitment! - Page 6

als463 · #1 09-10-2014, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by ASUADPi

Um why are we continuing to call ADPi "Rutgers". Why continue to pretend that we don't know that ADPi was "Rutgers".

We all know that older sister hated ADPi to the point that she resigned her membership.
We all know that the chapter is struggling as the house isn't full.
We all know that the chapter was dirty rushing.
We all know that PNM's have complained to greek life about said chapter.
And we all know that the OP hated going to the chapter.
Oh and we all know that the OP felt ADPi "robbed" her of being in USC (whoever that is) because older sister explained bid matching horribly.

I totally get ASUADPi's feelings of disgust by the OP. I have to admit that I find it really funny that the OP felt "robbed" by getting a bid to this particular organization. The campus I'm at has girls who feel "robbed" because they DID NOT get a bid from this wonderful organization. I agree with other posters who said that chapter was lucky not to have the OP and her negative biological sister.

AZTheta · #2 09-10-2014, 12:50 AM

I didn't know which school it was (never can figure these things out, don't even care). I didn't know anything about ADPi at said school. We ALL have struggling chapters.

Having a younger sister who was a freshman when I was a senior, I can certainly understand the OP's frustration. That's what I'm taking away from this thread.

MaryPoppins · #3 09-10-2014, 05:02 AM

HCTS so sorry that Recruitment did not turn out like you hoped. Sending you best wishes for school this year and for whatever you decide to do in the future,

PearlGirl13 · #4 09-10-2014, 08:20 AM

If this ADPi chapter is truly struggling they might be better off without these two ladies. One was a negative, grumbling sister who spread her negative views to a PNM and the other was a PNM who wasn't interested in giving the chapter a fresh look with her own eyes.

This chapter's best chance for a positive future is positive sisters.

Good luck next year, HCTS.

MaggieXi · #5 09-10-2014, 09:17 AM

I'm sorry this happened to you.
What I don't get, and haven't gotten since the begining is if your sister knew you didn't want to be a part of her organization, why she didn't tell her sisters this. She could say that she was abstaining from membership selection all she wanted to, but if she knew that this was going to make you unhappy, she should have had them drop you.

FSUZeta · #6 09-10-2014, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by MaggieXi

I'm sorry this happened to you.
What I don't get, and haven't gotten since the begining is if your sister knew you didn't want to be a part of her organization, why she didn't tell her sisters this. She could say that she was abstaining from membership selection all she wanted to, but if she knew that this was going to make you unhappy, she should have had them drop you.

Exactly Maggie! Older sis could easily have told her chapter that HCTS was not interested in Rutgers and that they should not invite her back to the next round. But maybe HCTS sister was actually not in good standing with the chapter, hence the behind the scenes rush job assignment, and the sister submitting her letter of resignation AFTER recruitment. I mean, if she was that unhappy, why wait?

I cannot speak on the membership selection for Rutgers, but I find it hard to believe that a member in good standing would be allowed to opt completely out of membership selection-perhaps she would be allowed to leave the room if she was a sitting sister whose own PNM sister was being voted on, but she would return for the other voting.

KDCat · #7 09-10-2014, 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Exactly Maggie! Older sis could easily have told her chapter that HCTS was not interested in Rutgers and that they should not invite her back to the next round. But maybe HCTS sister was actually not in good standing with the chapter, hence the behind the scenes rush job assignment, and the sister submitting her letter of resignation AFTER recruitment. I mean, if she was that unhappy, why wait?

I cannot speak on the membership selection for Rutgers, but I find it hard to believe that a member in good standing would be allowed to opt completely out of membership selection-perhaps she would be allowed to leave the room if she was a sitting sister whose own PNM sister was being voted on, but she would return for the other voting.

If Older Sister had done this, so that Rutgers dropped her before pref, and she went to pref at USC, she would have been guaranteed a USC bid.

It's a shame Older Sister didn't help her out.

33girl · #8 09-10-2014, 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by KDCat

If Older Sister had done this, so that Rutgers dropped her before pref, and she went to pref at USC, she would have been guaranteed a USC bid.

It's a shame Older Sister didn't help her out.

If they were so clueless as to not know that Older Sister was miserable enough to want to self-terminate, I doubt very much that they would have listened to her when she told them her sister wanted to be in a different group.

There are at least 3 sides to this story and the truth is somewhere pinging around in between.

ETA: I was just ready to say "this wasn't ASU, they only have 12 sororities" but then I realized ISK was referring to one of the chapter nicknames. Arrrrgh, as I said, confusing as balls.

snowflakemom · #9 09-10-2014, 12:59 PM

Ok my bet here is that the OP is actually the big sister in this story that is fabricating a story because her membership was canceled. Anyone else see this?

Nanners52674 · #10 09-10-2014, 12:59 PM

OP, did you happen wear sequin tights during recruitment one day?

amanda6035 · #11 09-10-2014, 01:08 PM

Yes.... sorry... I wasn't talking about the group ranking versus the PNMs preference. PNMs preference always comes first.... if she is high enough on the bid list

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I like the alphabetical bid lists because I don't like ranking "in general" but since it seems that it's possible that some campuses may be going to quota ranges to let the computer match the maximum possible PNMs based on their first choices before setting a firm quota number, then a ranked list is a better option....panhellenic has to have all the signed pref cards before the computer can even rework the numbers based on the chapter's rankings anyway.

I get the whole maximum placement thing.... but really.... 100/5 = 20.....juuuuust saying.

DubaiSis · #12 09-10-2014, 01:54 PM

I stand corrected. But still, putting her "top 10" instead of #50 still wouldn't have made a lick of difference. The other chapter had her somewhere below 50, so she still was not robbed of the better opportunity. If she had SIP'd, on bid day she'd have had no home. As it turns out, this would have been the better alternative. But it wouldn't have put her any closer to the bid she wanted.

HereComesTheSun · #13 09-10-2014, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

I stand corrected. But still, putting her "top 10" instead of #50 still wouldn't have made a lick of difference. The other chapter had her somewhere below 50, so she still was not robbed of the better opportunity. If she had SIP'd, on bid day she'd have had no home. As it turns out, this would have been the better alternative. But it wouldn't have put her any closer to the bid she wanted.

Thank you DubaiSis and everyone else for your input. This really put things in perspective.

The things I heard from my friends in sororities, my sister and even things on GreekChat were swirling all around my head and I had some misconceptions and I was misinformed by some of the people I knew. But now it all makes sense and I can see things clearer for what they actually are rather than how I wish they were.

Hopefully knowing what I know now will help me when I go through recruitment the next time around.

AOII Angel · #14 09-10-2014, 03:29 PM

My question is, what does she expect a member to say when a NM asks why she got your chapter instead of another? Something like that must have happened in order to have that conversation. I'm sure the member didn't know what to say.

IndianaSigKap · #15 09-10-2014, 05:49 PM

I am not going to throw gasoline on this fire. I do want to add some constructive criticism in case there is a real Here Comes The Sun out there who genuinely wants to go through recruitment next year. She mentioned earlier in the story that her grades were not as strong as they should be. The "bottom of the bottom" chapter ASU cut her. I have an inking I know who this chapter is and most likely in this case, and in many others, I will say that grades could have been a factor. Spend this year getting the best grades one can get, and hopefully the outcome will be different next go around. I believe there may be a re-colonization coming up in the next year or so, which would give her a second chance to be Greek next year.