Raining on someone's recruitment parade

[melongirl]

To further add "what ifs"...

talked to a greek friend who was in my sorority at an SEC school in the 70's. Her subdivisions is full of transplants from other parts of the country.

She spoke to two mothers in her subdivision over the weekend whose daughters were rushing at Auburn. The mothers had already picked the sororities for the girls before they set foot on campus. The mothers only secured recs from certain houses and had "tent talked" their daghters into only certain houses before they got to campus.

My friend said when she "enlightened" these transplanted mothers, the look of horror on their faces were priceless. She said it reaffirmed to her its better to let your daughter decide to go where she feels comfortable.

P.S. none of these girls went into prefs with a full card of invites. (ie they didn't maximize their options)

I find this a disturbing trend.

p.s. these mothers weren't greek & didn't have a legacy connection to pass on.

[leesek]

A few years ago, my daughter and her best friend went through recruitment at different SEC schools. Friend's recruitment was the week before my daughter's. EVERYONE thought Friend would just sail through....she is cute, outgoing, smart,etc, all the things one would think all the sororities would be fighting over. My daughter is also cute and smart with lots of outside activities but is somewhat shy, so I was a little worried. As it turned out, friend got dropped by all sororities for pref after attending 6 parties the day before. Of course her Mom and family, she was a legacy, were devasted ( much more than she was) they wanted to go get her and bring her home to attend a school closer to home this was a trend in their family even in grade school. So, my daughter goes into her recruitment scared to death by Friend's experience. She had a great time, called me after Open house just ecstatic about the fact that she was able to go into each house and carry on conversations with strangers!!!! She decided that if her experience ended up like her friend's she was already a winner because "I just didn't know if I was going to be able to do it or not!"
My moral.... some parents don't allow their children to fail at anything, they always try to bail them out. I on the otherhand think that it is better for children to learn that you will not succeed at everything always and it is better to learn to acept your disappointment with class and learn from all experiences weather they are good or bad!!
Also my daughter did find a home, it wasn't her first pick at the time. But it was the right one for her!!!

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by NutBrnHair

In another life I visited many campuses. Most recently I spent two weeks at Univ. of Alabama during their recruitment.

Well bless your heart, you must just be the only national officer on GC or something.

[carnation]

OK, this snarkiness has gotten out of hand. I'm appalled at some of you who are insulting posters who are concerned with these issues because you don't understand them...and with your letters in your name yet. Obviously, Greek life means a lot to some people. Get over it because it won't change..and why do you care anyway? You should be supporting Greek life, however it differs from your idea of it.

There are many GCers who are SEC alums or have children rushing there or at other competitive universities or, like NutBrnHair, have served the Greek world for a long time. If you don't understand us, we don't really care. Thank God that there's a place like GC where we can air our concerns and get support from each other, even if most of it comes from pms.

I think that the ugly posts have long since gotten pointless, so I'm closing this.