D9 stereotyping..

[IncontRHOllable]

Hey sorors, I just had to tell yall this. I ran into an old friend of mine that I have not seen in like 8 years. Anyway, I was wearing my SGRHO jacket, after catching up on where we've been and what we've been up to, the conversatoin turned to my jacket and went like this:

him: You SGRHO
me: (beaming with all kinds of pride) Yes
him: Why you choose SGRHO? You look more like a Delta
me:
me: and what the heck does that supposed to mean? (mind you that I'm sounding/looking real po'd and my blood pressure starting to rise..)
him: Naw naw naw that's cool don't get me wrong but I thought SGRHO was for fat girls cuz most SGRHO's in XYZ state where I live are big
me: (still boiling) Yeah I know they are BRIGHT INTELLIGENT and OH SO GAWGEOUS
me: Watch yo tongue when it come to my SoRHOrs, watch yo tongue
him: Oh naw naw I didn't mean no disrespect..

Man if I was white my skin would've shown all kinds of red like the smilie.
and what the heck does a Delta look like? Better yet, what does a Zeta or AKA look like? My point is that all of us are beautiful. The School Daze stereotypes was just movie hype. From my experience, stereotypes for D9 sororities don't exist or am I missing something? If this is already a thread, kindly direct me to it because my search did not bring up any such results. Thanks.

[PrettyBoy]

Unfortunately, yes they do still exist.

[Educatingblue]

I see this mostly with non-Greeks. I often hear people at work and other places say, "So you're the ones who..." I think most people like to fit everything in a neat little category for their own convenience. Now most D9 orgs have a very diverse membership so it is difficult to say we are all this religion, denomination, ethnicity, shade, body type, or have XYZ type of hair.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by Educatingblue

I see this mostly with non-Greeks. I often hear people at work and other places say, "So you're the ones who..." I think most people like to fit everything in a neat little category for their own convenience. Now most D9 orgs have a very diverse membership so it is difficult to say we are all this religion, denomination, ethnicity, shade, body type, or have XYZ type of hair.

The various sterotypes are interesting. Let me guess. Are you brown-skinned, with short hair, and a studious (geeky) look? That's the sterotype I always heard about us - LOL.

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

The various sterotypes are interesting. Let me guess. Are you brown-skinned, with short hair, and a studious (geeky) look? That's the sterotype I always heard about us - LOL.

Thank you sistergreek because for the life of me I could not figure out what the heck a Delta supposedly looks like. The funny thing is that he is not the only person who has said that I look like a Delta. You are right I am brown skinned, very studious looking and my hair is long but since I'm a napptural it looks short. Within the D9 the stereotypes do not exist because as someone stated we have all shades and sizes. News flash to me that obviously they do for nongreeks and now I'm wondering if the "stereotypes" affect people's decision on which org they pursue. And where the heck did the SGRHO's are for plus size come from? Don't get me wrong sisters there is Nothing wrong with a Pretty Honorable Admirable Tenacious woman.

[proud2bSigma]

Originally Posted by IncontRHOllable

Thank you sistergreek because for the life of me I could not figure out what the heck a Delta supposedly looks like. The funny thing is that he is not the only person who has said that I look like a Delta. You are right I am brown skinned, very studious looking and my hair is long but since I'm a napptural it looks short. Within the D9 the stereotypes do not exist because as someone stated we have all shades and sizes. News flash to me that obviously they do for nongreeks and now I'm wondering if the "stereotypes" affect people's decision on which org they pursue. And where the heck did the SGRHO's are for plus size come from? Don't get me wrong sisters there is Nothing wrong with a Pretty Honorable Admirable Tenacious woman.

Thanks for that I am a Plus size woman. And quite stunning. the stereotypes I heard was that Zetas are plus size and unattractive.(not true) I have never heard that about SGRHOs When I was a nongreek most of the stereotypes were circulated by nongreeks.

[MsRaidiance522]

Stereotyping does still exist. I have been a member of Sigma Gamma Rho for 2 weeks and three days. A friend of my sent me an email to congratulate me. About half way through the she begin to ask me why did choose sgrho. She began to tell Sgrhos on her campus are hoes, ugly, and confrontational. and That sgrho was a very small org. and that i would meet all my sorhors at one regional. She preceded to tell me that I wasn't like that and that Aka would have been better for me. Because I was pretty, smart, and friendly.. and that i should have followed the path my sister and she had went down. I told her that i chose the best sorority for me the last created the best designed, the sorority that has best gpa nationwide... and that quality is better than quantity... I asked her did she know the sgrhos on her campus personally she said no.. I told to keep my sorhors out her mouth.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by MsRaidiance522

Stereotyping does still exist. I have been a member of Sigma Gamma Rho for 2 weeks and three days. A friend of my sent me an email to congratulate me. About half way through the she begin to ask me why did choose sgrho. She began to tell Sgrhos on her campus are hoes, ugly, and confrontational. and That sgrho was a very small org. and that i would meet all my sorhors at one regional. She preceded to tell me that I wasn't like that and that Aka would have been better for me. Because I was pretty, smart, and friendly.. and that i should have followed the path my sister and she had went down. I told her that i chose the best sorority for me the last created the best designed, the sorority that has best gpa nationwide... and that quality is better than quantity... I asked her did she know the sgrhos on her campus personally she said no.. I told to keep my sorhors out her mouth.

Congratulations!

[MsRaidiance522]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Congratulations!

Thank you!

[BlueReign]

Originally Posted by MsRaidiance522

Stereotyping does still exist. I have been a member of Sigma Gamma Rho for 2 weeks and three days. A friend of my sent me an email to congratulate me. About half way through the she begin to ask me why did choose sgrho. She began to tell Sgrhos on her campus are hoes, ugly, and confrontational. and That sgrho was a very small org. and that i would meet all my sorhors at one regional. She preceded to tell me that I wasn't like that and that Aka would have been better for me. Because I was pretty, smart, and friendly.. and that i should have followed the path my sister and she had went down. I told her that i chose the best sorority for me the last created the best designed, the sorority that has best gpa nationwide... and that quality is better than quantity... I asked her did she know the sgrhos on her campus personally she said no.. I told to keep my sorhors out her mouth.

I'm glad you told her Soror!

I'm pretty, smart, AND confrontational. I wonder what that makes me.

Honestly, I am told by mostly stupid men (who mainly perpetuate this nonsense stereotyping) that I fit the stereotype of AKA.

The only comments I hear from women -- and other greek women in my local NPHC chapter at that -- is that we are so small we all know each other. My pet peeve is other greek women in my area (DC/Baltimore) who are surprised that we have so many graduate chapters in this area. I even had one neo Zeta ask me if I was able to "find a chapter"? Whatever?

My response: For the record, there are 6 graduate chapters in the DC area alone, not including the Baltimore area chapters. This is a greater metropolitan area with a large black population, what did you expect?

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by MsRaidiance522

She began to tell Sgrhos on her campus are hoes, ugly, and confrontational. and That sgrho was a very small org. and that i would meet all my sorhors at one regional. I told her that i chose the best sorority for me the last created the best designed, the sorority that has best gpa nationwide... and that quality is better than quantity... I asked her did she know the sgrhos on her campus personally she said no.. I told to keep my sorhors out her mouth.

First of all Congratulations SoRHOr!! Secondly, she said what!
I would have been too mad to respond at first because I would have been trying to cyberslam her on the concrete. She had the audacity to open her mouth like that about my SoRHOrs... I am glad you let her know to keep her mouth OFF SGRHO's. This is yet another example of a sistergreek ( so sad ) perpetuating the stereotypes. One thing that I learned coming into this great sisterhood is that class goes a longgggggg way and class DOES NOT include down talking your sister/brother greeks. SGRHO's keep it tight, classy and sexy, that's why SGRHO is the only RHOad.

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by IncontRHOllable

Hey sorors, I just had to tell yall this. I ran into an old friend of mine that I have not seen in like 8 years. Anyway, I was wearing my SGRHO jacket, after catching up on where we've been and what we've been up to, the conversatoin turned to my jacket and went like this:

him: You SGRHO
me: (beaming with all kinds of pride) Yes
him: Why you choose SGRHO? You look more like a Delta
me:
me: and what the heck does that supposed to mean? (mind you that I'm sounding/looking real po'd and my blood pressure starting to rise..)
him: Naw naw naw that's cool don't get me wrong but I thought SGRHO was for fat girls cuz most SGRHO's in XYZ state where I live are big
me: (still boiling) Yeah I know they are BRIGHT INTELLIGENT and OH SO GAWGEOUS
me: Watch yo tongue when it come to my SoRHOrs, watch yo tongue
him: Oh naw naw I didn't mean no disrespect..

Man if I was white my skin would've shown all kinds of red like the smilie.
and what the heck does a Delta look like? Better yet, what does a Zeta or AKA look like? My point is that all of us are beautiful. The School Daze stereotypes was just movie hype. From my experience, stereotypes for D9 sororities don't exist or am I missing something? If this is already a thread, kindly direct me to it because my search did not bring up any such results. Thanks.

I'll never understand this. What is the point of talking negatively about someone's organization AFTER they've already joined? Obviously they found something in their organization that they liked and you telling them that their organization is "bad" will not change anything. Here is where I have to question the friendship or the motive of the person who's doing the trash talking whether it's a family member or not. If this person is just an acquaintance then chances are the person just likes to be negative (especially regarding things they don't understand or know too much about) and if this person is supposed to be a "friend," this is where I would have to question the person's friendship. How can this person be a true friend? Even if they don't particularly care for your organization, they should just suck it up and be happy for you because you're happy...isn't that what really matters anyway...that you're happy? What do they think you'll do?...denounce your organization because THEY say it's not right for you? I'll never understand this one.

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

I'll never understand this. What is the point of talking negatively about someone's organization AFTER they've already joined? Obviously they found something in their organization that they liked and you telling them that their organization is "bad" will not change anything. Here is where I have to question the friendship or the motive of the person who's doing the trash talking whether it's a family member or not. If this person is just an acquaintance then chances are the person just likes to be negative (especially regarding things they don't understand or know too much about) and if this person is supposed to be a "friend," this is where I would have to question the person's friendship. How can this person be a true friend? Even if they don't particularly care for your organization, they should just suck it up and be happy for you because you're happy...isn't that what really matters anyway...that you're happy? What do they think you'll do?...denounce your organization because THEY say it's not right for you? I'll never understand this one.

The sad thing is, I really believe that he did not mean any harm with his question because he really believed that SGRHO is just for fuller figured girls, according to him that's all he has seen in his state. I'll let him slide because of his ignorance but my problem is more with members of the D9 who feed these stereotypes by trash talking another org when they know good got dawg well () that them stereotypes are nothing more than an urban legend.

[proud2bSigma]

Its hard being a full figured woman especially when you are a member of a d9. Its also very difficult to hear my sorors get angry when someone makes a comment about SGRHO being for big women. I know most people think that being fat means you are unattractive so that is why everyone is up in arms about the so called sterotypes. What I would like to hear is instead of my smaller sorors taking these comments as a insult, say So what I have some full-figured sorors but we are all beautiful.

Lets not let these comments divide us into "the attractive SGRHOS" and "the unattractive SGRHOS" We all LOOK GOOD trust me

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by proud2bSigma

Its hard being a full figured woman especially when you are a member of a d9. Its also very difficult to hear my sorors get angry when someone makes a comment about SGRHO being for big women. I know most people think that being fat means you are unattractive so that is why everyone is up in arms about the so called sterotypes. What I would like to hear is instead of my smaller sorors taking these comments as a insult, say So what I have some full-figured sorors but we are all beautiful.

Lets not let these comments divide us into "the attractive SGRHOS" and "the unattractive SGRHOS" We all LOOK GOOD trust me

Well said soror. And let's not forget that there are full figured women in ALL the D9 sororities and in the African American community in general. However these ladies are dealing with their weight...whether they are proud to be big and beautiful or whether they are trying to reduce their size, remember that the PERSON is inside and that person should be respected and never made fun of by anyone. Defend your sorors...don't let ANYONE say bad things about them! I don't care if the whole damn chapter has full figured women!!! Don't let the physical superficiality of many men (and women) be an imposition to the whole sorority...and this goes for all D9 organizations.