Facebook... "Dirty Rushing"? - Page 5

vickitoria · #61 05-06-2007, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by AOE2AlphaPhi

All the girls in sororities have to unfriend the Rho Gammas for the semester they're disafilliated at our school. I still figured out my Rho Gammas' affiliations by looking at pictures my friends who were in their sororitites had though.

Same here, except this year our Rho Gams have taken off their entire wall, their "view more pictures" and most of their photo albums.
Also, our Panhellenic is policing facebook to make sure there arent any violations. There is supposed to be NO contact whatsoever... and this year that includes being friends with any PNM.

ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl · #62 05-07-2007, 02:44 AM

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Originally Posted by vickitoria

Same here, except this year our Rho Gams have taken off their entire wall, their "view more pictures" and most of their photo albums.
Also, our Panhellenic is policing facebook to make sure there arent any violations. There is supposed to be NO contact whatsoever... and this year that includes being friends with any PNM.

We thought that would be too much trouble...and the friends would give it away. That's why we have dummy profiles set up for them. Part of the logic behind making sorority members "unsearchable" is that a PNM can't find them and message them then unless they are friends (which isn't allowed). Honestly though when it comes down to it you have to just trust the girls on both sides...if they want to get around it, they will, and if there were no facebook they would have found a different way to dirty rush.

DMCBlondie · #63 05-09-2007, 01:49 AM

At my school its required that all women in sororities make their facebook profiles private. We don't want PNM's making judgements based on information they find because it may not reflect the whole chapter. We are not allowed to accept any friend requests until recruitment is over. PNM's should make their profiles private too. I know individuals that have used facebook to judge PNMs. I would advise PNM's to put up a pretty picture and make it private! The same goes with myspace.

guardedbystars · #64 05-14-2007, 08:16 PM

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Originally Posted by AXiD670

If Susie Sorority is friends w/ Rachel Rushee on facebook, she could post comments on her page like, "So glad you were at skit night tonight, you'd be a great fit! See you tomorrow!!!" that could be considered dirty rushing.

Actively seeking out potential new members during recruitment and adding them as friends on facebook might also be considered dirty rushing.

I'm not sure, but if some schools wanted to be super-strict about facebook, if chapter members who were previously friends w/ the potential new members were posting comments on their page during recruitment, that might be considered a violation, even something as benign as "Hi!" or whatever.

My entire chapter have our Facebook profiles on private (at least, we were urged to do this -- although, mine has been private from beginning because it's creepy).

I was close with one of our PNMs and I wasn't allowed to talk to her on facebook or IM because we weren't sure if it was dirty rushing or not, we just wanted to be safe. The thing about this is that it is really easy just to copy and paste something all over the internet and to spread it.

I also saw said PNM at the bar near campus and I felt so bad because she wanted to tell me everything/how she was feeling about rushing and I couldn't be there as her friend... but it paid off because she joined our house!

AGDLynn · #65 06-21-2007, 05:56 PM

From Panhellenic..

We are asking all of you to adhere to the requirement below in order to clearly define facebook when it comes to closed contact and to protect the identities of our Rho Gammas.

No sorority women should be friends with potential new members, not even orientation leaders. Please let your orientation leaders know that they should simply explain to the women that because they are in a sorority, they are not allowed to be friends on facebook with them to keep recruitment fair.

Also, all sorority women need to alter their privacy settings on facebook. Everyone needs to go to "privacy," then select "profile," and then select "only my friends" for every single blank. Then select "save." We are having everyone do this instead of having to take down all of their pictures that have Panhellenic Exec or Rho Gammas in them.

Please make sure that profile pictures do not have any Panhellenic Exec or Rho Gammas in them either.

UGAalum94 · #66 06-21-2007, 06:00 PM

AGDLynn,

That really does seem like a good idea since then nobody going through recruitment is going to use facebook pictures to profile the groups either.

What about women who are already facebook friends with PNMs? All it does in these cases in make facebook dirty rushing invisible to others, right? (Or are they supposed to "de-friend" them?)

AGDLynn · #67 06-21-2007, 06:35 PM

They'll have to ask the Panhellenic people, lol.

Seems that when Greek Life was doing some checking, they found out some of the privacy guards weren't protecting what they thought the guards were..

lollik313 · #68 07-17-2007, 02:35 AM

All sorority women are required to make their Facebook profile's invisible from the months of April - September (Bid Day)

And they must abide by the following contact rules:

Facebook (and other internet sites):

You should have no contact with potential new members over the Internet. This includes but is not limited to, “poking” them, messaging them (Such as on AOL instant Messenger), or “friending” them. If a potential new member contacts you, you may reply to her with the following phrase:

“At this time all of the Sororities have agreed upon certain rules, one being that we are asked to not speak with you over the internet until the end of Sorority Recruitment. Thank you for understanding.”

***You must “de-friend” any potential new members on Facebook. This means that you must “de-friend” any incoming freshmen women that you may know or are currently friends with. You must also “de-friend” any upperclassmen that are considering going through Recruitment. If you are friends with upperclassmen who are positive that they will not go through Recruitment, you may stay friends with them. Also, as discussed in the Recruitment Roundtables, the only family members you may stay friends with are siblings.***

33girl · #69 07-18-2007, 11:34 AM

Those rules are only for Miami. Your school might have other similar rules - check with the Greek life office if you're concerned.

FSUZeta · #70 07-18-2007, 05:13 PM

shommy, you might visit the panhellenic website of your school-often the recruitment rules are listed, so you know exactly what is what.

a word of advice pertaining to continuing to communicate with your sorority friend via facebook: be careful. members of the other sororities on your campus might be randomly checking pnms facebook accounts and see posts between you and your sorority friend. they then might assume that you are zeroing in on your friends sorority and that you won't give the others a chance. it might effect your recruitment.

FSUZeta · #71 07-19-2007, 04:51 PM

lol......politeness counts!!

seriously, good luck with your recruitment!

KKGgoesthere · #72 07-19-2007, 08:16 PM

I don't know if someone said this yet cause I didn't want to read EVERYONE's posts haha but make sure if a PNM even MESSAGES you on FACEBOOK you don't message them back (if you are required to keep your profile private). If you message them back they are able to view your profile for like 20 days after, which defeats the privacy purpose. If a PNM does send you a facebook message, perhaps you can get their email address from their profile, and send them an email so as not to seem rude. But you also need to be careful about what you say to them in the email.

For example:

PNM: Hi, I noticed that you were listed as a Beta Beta Beta. I am going through recruitment and really want to be a BBB! Can you give me some tips on what I should wear? What makes BBB so great at this school?

Response: Hi, thanks for your interest! It's great that you are going to go through recruitment! I am going to forward your message to Panhellenic (or the Greek Counselor) and hopefully they can help you out!

or something like that.

Good luck everyone!

I"Urushee · #73 07-27-2007, 05:48 PM

what would a pnm need to "clean up"? if there are any pictures with alcohol, even if you arent drinking?

adpiucf · #74 07-27-2007, 05:55 PM

Anything that implies unladylike behavior.

Being in photos where you are surrounded by alcohol, even if you don't "look" like you have been drinking, carries this implication. Being in a photo where you are holding a cup could also imply alcohol.

You may know what you were or were not doing, but anyone viewing your page might form other opinions. Clean up your page with those people in mind.

alum · #75 07-27-2007, 06:13 PM

We, the advisors look carefully at the pictures in photo albums. In fact, we just asked two girls to untag themselves from a picture because at first glance it looks as if they each have a wine bottle in each of their hands. In reality it is the top of a golf club and you can see they are on a minigolf course. But since most people aren't going to examine the pictures as closely as we did and we didn't want people to think we have a bunch of alcoholics each with their own bottle of wine, we asked the girls to delete the pictures.