Pinning girlfriends? Opinions.... - Page 5

GreekGirl604 · #61 08-19-2004, 10:16 AM

I hope I don't upset anyone by this...

I'm on the fence as the the whole issue, it does seem that you shouldn't be wearing letters unless you've earned them. However, personally I would love to be pinned/lavaliered by Beta. I have known most of them since high school and I hang out with them way more than my sisters. I know a lot about their pledging and their nationals, mostly from being around so much. These guys are like my brothers. I feel more comfortable with them than with my own sisters, and (for various reasons too lengthy to get into in one post) care more about their house than my own. They have all joked around from time to time that they should lavalier me as a whole house, like at their formal or something. If they ever did I think I'd cry. I would cherish those letters more than many people I know do their own.

AXOjen · #62 08-19-2004, 12:17 PM

His letters may not mean the same thing to me as they do to him.... but they still mean a lot to me. I don't understand how a girl can say his letters mean nothing to her.

We were lavaliered and then engaged... pinning was pretty uncommon in his chapter. They said it was because of not wanting to give away their pins but we girls suspected it was because they didn't want to be tied to a tree.

Even though I had my own letters I loved wearing his, too. I still am proud to be a Sigma Chi wife and I care about his brothers as if they were my own... brothers-in-law, maybe?

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #63 08-19-2004, 12:23 PM

agreed. I was two weeks away from being lavilered into Kappa Sigma when we broke up. He had the lavilere and everything.

It would've meant a lot to me not because I know what "KS" or "AEKDB" stand for, but because I know how much they mean to HIM. Same reason why I always tried to be sweet to his brothers -- even the ones I didn't like -- because they were important to HIM.

It would've been an honor to wear them -- for a fraternity to think I was a good enough example of the kind of girl they all wanted to date to give me a lavilere.

emleepc · #64 08-19-2004, 01:23 PM

I would love to be lavaliered or pinned by my Kappa Sigma man. It would truly be an honor wto have this happen. I already proudly wear his letters, and also love all of his brothers like they were my own. It seems sometimes, at least at my alma mater, that lavaliering your girl was this kiss of death for the relationship, so a lot of guys didn't do it. But so many times, it works out beautifully. I would be elated if my guy shared that with me!!!

Rudey · #65 08-19-2004, 01:29 PM

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Originally posted by emleepc
I would love to be lavaliered or pinned by my Kappa Sigma man. It would truly be an honor wto have this happen. I already proudly wear his letters, and also love all of his brothers like they were my own. It seems sometimes, at least at my alma mater, that lavaliering your girl was this kiss of death for the relationship, so a lot of guys didn't do it. But so many times, it works out beautifully. I would be elated if my guy shared that with me!!!

If he doesn't do it, let me know and I will do it. I'm an AEPi and we love ADPi.

WOOOO GO ADPi!!!!

-Rudey
--Rudey is spreading Greek love!

texas*princess · #66 08-19-2004, 02:00 PM

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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
It would've meant a lot to me not because I know what "[font=symbol]KS[/font" or "AEKDB" stand for, but because I know how much they mean to HIM. Same reason why I always tried to be sweet to his brothers -- even the ones I didn't like -- because they were important to HIM.

AGREED!!!

:::huge round of applause for you:::

I have no desire to know what anyone's letters mean, or his motto or anything, but just knowing that it is something that is so important to him, would make it mean a lot to me too.

emleepc · #67 08-19-2004, 02:39 PM

I totally agree with everything HotDamn said.....I couldn't have said it any better.

Thanks Rudey!

Shima-Mizu · #68 08-20-2004, 02:13 AM

My boyfriends fraternity lavalieres, but does not pin. It's seen as the pre-engagement, I want to marry you, type deal. Now, if my boyfriend were still on campus and at school this year, that might be a possibility, but seeing as he isn't, we no longer really talk about lavaliering, just the actual eventual engagement instead, heh.

MysticCat · #69 08-20-2004, 12:34 PM

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Originally posted by emleepc
I would love to be lavaliered or pinned by my Kappa Sigma man.

When I was, oh, probably in high school, talk came up at home of college and GLOs, and I asked my Kappa Sig dad if I could see his badge. His response was, "you'll have to ask your mother; I gave it to her." She went and pulled it out of a special place in her jewelry box -- this would have been about 30 years after he pinned her. They both clearly saw it as a very romantic thing.

Lindz928 · #70 08-20-2004, 12:58 PM

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Originally posted by MysticCat81
When I was, oh, probably in high school, talk came up at home of college and GLOs, and I asked my Kappa Sig dad if I could see his badge. His response was, "you'll have to ask your mother; I gave it to her." She went and pulled it out of a special place in her jewelry box -- this would have been about 30 years after he pinned her. They both clearly saw it as a very romantic thing.

Aww, that is so sweet.

emleepc · #71 08-20-2004, 01:11 PM

WOW!! That's is so very special. I'm getting all teary, and tingly inside.

If only......

kateshort · #72 08-20-2004, 04:00 PM

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Originally posted by Shima-Mizu
My boyfriends fraternity lavalieres, but does not pin. It's seen as the pre-engagement, I want to marry you, type deal. Now, if my boyfriend were still on campus and at school this year, that might be a possibility, but seeing as he isn't, we no longer really talk about lavaliering, just the actual eventual engagement instead, heh.

They might not now, but they used to-- I've got the pin to prove it!

Do they still give you letters if you get lavaliered?

trojangal · #73 08-23-2004, 01:35 AM

If you are serious, then find out what is appropriate for your chapter and campus.

I wanted to share my experiences...

Where I come from, we know it's a serious relationship when the girl is lavaliered, then pinned. Or.."taking them home to meet Grandmother!!.."

Where I went to school, it was a big deal in the relationship when the girl recieved a lavalier.

I know...I started dating a TKE my sophomore year, and in my jr. year, he lavaliered me...that winter, he "pinned" me, as was their tradition at the campus. It was also the same time that he asked me to marry him. I remember that during Spring Break, he let me wear his letters when we went to Miami for Spring Break. We were on the campus of one of the Community colleges, and several of the brothers saw me wearing the shirt, and came up to talk to us. Great experience!

We were engaged through January of my senior, then we ended up breaking up. The whole situation was very stressful. We didn't speak for several months, and a few months after graduation, I found his pin packed away. I sent it back through a brother of his who was also a mutual friend, along with my lavalier he had given. me. Well, he called me when he got it back, and we talked. He told me that he was going to mail the necklace back to me to keep as a memory of all of the good times we had. I still have it, tucked away in my jewelry box, along with good memories.

Good luck, and I hope that this special lady cares enough about you to recognize the importance and honor of you sharing your letters with her.

Kevin · #74 08-23-2004, 03:29 PM

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We were on the campus of one of the Community colleges, and several of the brothers saw me wearing the shirt, and came up to talk to us. Great experience!

TKE colonizes at Community Colleges?

trojangal · #75 08-23-2004, 06:16 PM

I believe it was Miami-Dade community college if my memory serves me right...it's a HUGE campus in Miami with two locations and right next to several other campuses, so there apparently was a lot of chapter support.