Around the Block Twice

[polarpi]

Hypothetically, I wouldn't want to know "the number", just because if he were to ask me back what mine was, I'd feel pretty uncomfortable saying that mine was nil unless I was pretty certain that this guy is the one I'm interested in exploring a relationship (sexual or otherwise) with....but maybe that's just my "little miss prim & proper" side admitting this

[FHwku]

36 in 5 years (esp. being college years) is hardly promiscuous. roughly 7 guys a year. 1 per month and 3/4. besides, it's NO ONE ELSE'S BUSINESS, w/ the exception of her doctor. i think, if he's asking, he's probably insecure about it. so if someone asks you, lie. come up with some ridiculous formula:

[X]= number of sexual partners
[Y]= number you tell the person who's asking

the square root of [X] is equal to [Y].

or tell them it doesn't matter. it's who you're with that counts.

[wrigley]

At least American society has evolved some, no longer is there such a stigma if a woman is no longer a virgin until her wedding night. I agree with previous posts, as long as your practicing safe sex, then that's your business. No one elses.

[33girl]

I don't want to do the thing that Brian Boitano does.

[cash78mere]

the number definitely matters to me...and i don't really know why.

my current boyfriend isn't exactly sure...somewhere between 10-15.

it bugs me more that he doesn't know the exact number moreso than the number itself.

he knows my number.

[James]

Him not knowing just means he doesn't keep score. . some guys keep lists.

Which would you prefer? And 10-15 is REALLY mild lol.

Originally posted by cash78mere
the number definitely matters to me...and i don't really know why.

my current boyfriend isn't exactly sure...somewhere between 10-15.

it bugs me more that he doesn't know the exact number moreso than the number itself.

he knows my number.

[absolutuscchick]

Originally posted by James
Him not knowing just means he doesn't keep score. . some guys keep lists.

Which would you prefer? And 10-15 is REALLY mild lol.

I would think its weird if someone cant even keep track when its at 10-15...but thats just me.

[Kristin AGD]

Originally posted by absolutuscchick
I would think its weird if someone cant even keep track when its at 10-15...but thats just me.

It just means there are few people in the past you forget about. A memory from the past that isn't vibrant enough to think about every day, every week or even every month. Now and then you go, "oh yeah, i forgot about that guy...".

I have been seeing people for well over 10 years. My number is not all that high. But I couldn't tell you for sure what it was.

[BabyP]

LIE LIE LIE................just say they are the third one........its funny, my ex husband was the first but he didnt believe me oh well.......

[astroAPhi]

Man, I missed out on a good time at Maggiano's.

[ISUKappa]

Kind of late, but I'll chime in. Theoretically, numbers shouldn't matter. As long as they were being safe. I respect those who have decided to wait or have few partners and I don't think poorly of those who are in the double--and maybe even triple--digits. It's up to you to figure out what you're comfortable with.

In women especially, numbers aren't always indicative of that person being a nymphomaniac or a slut. There could be many other factors working that we aren't privy to. She could have self-esteem issues, a bad "reaction" to a sexual assault, psychological isses or a host of any other personal issues that made her (or him) react differently in sexual situations.

I don't know my husband's number, nor does he know mine. He does know that some things happened while I was in college that affected me and how I related to guys where sex was concerned. He still loves me, and that's all I need.

[adpialumcsuc]

I don't think a number matters. And it isn't something that I would even care to share with my husband (not that it is high because it isn't). He knows that I have been with more then just him but he doesn have a number nor will he. I also don't know his and really don't care to know either. What was done before we met is really of no concern of mine. As long and we were both playing safe I could care less. He was a couple of very serious relationships so I know it was happening but don't really want to know for sure.

[wishinhopin]

I personally could give a crap about a guy's number, but I hesitate to give him mine. I'm ok with it, and it isn't particularly high at all, but there are a whole lot of people who feel that like 3+ is a bit much. So I prefer not to reveal such info until I know that he would be comfy handling the truth. I think that lying about it somehow makes me feel (not that everyone should feel like this, but this is how I feel) that it's something to be ashamed of, and it absolutely isn't. Most people have learned alot- sexually and emotionally- from their past experiences, and if they've been safe and have been tested recently, it's all good.

I read an article in Glamour where a guy said the best number for a girl was 7:

1 guy she lost her virginity to
2 commited relationships
2 one night stands
2 mistakes

Interesting huh?

Personally I think the following quote is very apt for many people and situations, I heard it on Queer as Folk: "Promiscuous is anyone who's having more sex than you"

[James]

Glamour is being REAL generous with that number. Among the guys that care most get a little wierded out by over 3 partners, even when they should intellectually know better i.e. the girl is older.

I am not saying that over 3 would be a deal breaker, there really aren't many deal breakers when a man has some tail in his line of sights, but somewhere he notices it.

We used to definitely characterize women differently by amounts of partnrs and it used to be the difference between the gals you dated and the gals you brought home to mom.

I agree with that quote by the way from queer as folk although I would sustitute the word lucky for promiscious.

Originally posted by wishinhopin
I personally could give a crap about a guy's number, but I hesitate to give him mine. I'm ok with it, and it isn't particularly high at all, but there are a whole lot of people who feel that like 3+ is a bit much. So I prefer not to reveal such info until I know that he would be comfy handling the truth. I think that lying about it somehow makes me feel (not that everyone should feel like this, but this is how I feel) that it's something to be ashamed of, and it absolutely isn't. Most people have learned alot- sexually and emotionally- from their past experiences, and if they've been safe and have been tested recently, it's all good.

I read an article in Glamour where a guy said the best number for a girl was 7:

1 guy she lost her virginity to
2 commited relationships
2 one night stands
2 mistakes

Interesting huh?

Personally I think the following quote is very apt for many people and situations, I heard it on Queer as Folk: "Promiscuous is anyone who's having more sex than you"

[Munchkin03]

The way I see it, is that you could have sex with one person and be unsafe and be a harbinger for STDs, or you could have 20 partners a year and be totally careful. So the number really doesn't matter as long as you're practicing safer sex.