Around the Block Twice
 

Not sure if this has been discussed and I don't feel like searching. la la la la

How many bed partners is too much? If you were dating someone and they told you a number, what number would they have to say in order to make you not interested in the person any longer?

I was discussing this with a friend of mine who had a little too much fun during her college days. :) I mean, the girl probably could've opened the top to a soda bottle with her tongue. She has since calmed down and met a guy a few months ago that she really liked. A conversation about her past came up and she told him her number. She never heard from him again.

I guess my next question is: should you be honest about your number?

I don't think numbers matter, personally i'd rather just not know - at least not in the beginning. I know that a lot of people make mistakes or have too much fun in college. I think once you are an adult that you should be able to make decisions about your sex life with and not be judged for it.

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More than 4/year, when out of a long term relationship, since she lost her virginity would be a lot, in my opinion. What was her number?

She's 22 and lost her virginity at 17. She's been with 36 guys.

What's her phone number?

Do you realize that there are porn stars who have been with fewer men?

Good Gawd!

bad, bad, bad

:)

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Well, if you plan on ever having sex with the person....Hell No. I always lie in the begining and tell them around 8 or 9. Later on down the road after I've put some time in a realtionship I let the truth come out. And the turth is....I don't know. I quit counting years ago. U should see the look on some of their faces. But at that point not much surprises the girl and usually I'm met with "I'm glad you told me now rather than earlier. I wouldn't have dated you other wise." I would seriously like to meet your friend, a bottle cap? Jesus, that girl has been given a talent. I don't know why any guy would leave her.

Anyhow, I think after you hit a certain age you shouldn't ask. 9 times out of 10 the response is just going to be a lie. Whether its less to make you look less dirty or if its more to make you seem more experienced, most people think their particular number is not the right one. And the truth is, there is no perfect number. Each person is different. On one hand you have the type of people who are like " I'm staying below 10" and on the other hand you have people like me who say " The more the merrier ". Granted I don't sleep around like that anymore, but I can't see how the hell I would have become as good in bed as I am had I not ran through so much a$$ during college. I seriously make women fall in love with me. I would have loved to have met you're friend back in the day if she was cute. I would so give her a run for her money. I've had the sex talk with my GF. She's a smart girl and I think she's caught on. At the same time I think there's more to her story than what she's let out. She's said she is expereinced.....but intially I could tell she wasn't as much as she made out. Still, I'm not complaining.

I lost mine at 15. Its been at least 4 yrs since I could recall the last number. 36 isnt that bad for living in Florida. Now, if she lived in a place like South Dakota.....thats basically the whole damn town in some parts.

I think a lot of time its a matter of when key information is revealed.

We all have baggage to one degree or another, some more unsettling. So when do you lay your cards down?

Most people don't volunteer negative information in the beginning because they don't want to be automatically eliminated by category.

You know how some poeple have wierd arbitray rules? Like I won't date someone who is/has _______. And they will try and avoid dating those categories. But they will date those people of they already like them . . . Odd eh? So people know that so they don't reveal their cards right away lol.

Society is harsh on women. And its mostly women that seem to uphold and dictate social norms . . whatever that means lol.

Ok I have gotten way off topic.

Its going to be kind of personal on how many partners bothers someone. And there is no good rule of thumb. I know guys that get bothered by anyting over 3. And some over 5. Thats all in the asbstract, as in a random conversation in general.

As far as deception. Look, we all keep secrets. We all shade the truth. The amount of partners you have is your business, its your partners business whether you have a social disease or kids because that might affect them directly.

So feel free to shade that truth as much as you might about your weight :)

If that seems kind of normal for South Florida . . I think I'll move lol.

ITs easy for me to have the Sex Talk being a virgin . . .

ZTANgel . . is she a reall good looking girl?

So James, you're saying that I should lose my virginity now and catch up with girls my age (24), and have like 5 partners? WIth all those diseases out there, and the risk of pregancy, it really isn't such a good idea to sleep around. The girl really should be tested for diseases if she's slept with 36 guys. Girls don't sleep around, not just because of what society dictates, but because we're smart and we don't want to get sick or have babies when we're not ready.

Sweetie, 5 isnt catching up. This isnt the Victorian era. You're a little behind the times.

I completely disagree!

In this age of STDs, deadly or not, I would hardly think it wise to rush out and do the wild thing with every Tom, Dick, and Harry!

My total is very low - and one includes my ex-husband!