Sorors, SFs, One & All

[CrimsonTide4]

Looks like that time of year is back upon us. Please read this thread and maybe it will help this fall's prospectives.

[miss priss]

This thread IS truly inspirational! I personally am having problems coping with the idea of MIP....let me explain...I come from a lonnnnnnng line of XYZ members and they are having a line in which I have been informally invited...everytime that the subject of MIP comes up I get fearful because it reminds me of the first MIP I attended..socially accepted, grades caused rejection.(I had the overall but not the semester G.P.A. and yes my overall was more than minimum)...I spent too much time on NOT being humble and focus on what was important....At the time I was bitter and angry plus hurt and confused...moreso at myself because I felt that I should have known better... recently I feel "pressured" because of the anticipation that my mom and other family members are EXPECTING me to do this.....Don't get me wrong I want to, it's just that I am nervous...to put it frankly I just fear the rejection....

[JinglesSpr99]

Nice Topic!
I feel like I got the best of both worlds. I am a charter member of an undergraduate chapter. So we were pledged by the alumnae chapter. 8 members of my line were pledging the alumnae chapter. And 8 of us were for an undergrad chapter. So we ranged in age from 19 to 51! The 51 year old made tried before but Delta was in her heart and she felt the time was right to try again. All I can say is be you and if you really want it keep trying and have patients.

[Krisco]

Miss priss, the fear of rejection is a completely natural emotion. I too had that fear when my time came. But I did prevail, I was so happy because I'd been waiting for it seemed so long! Don't let your fears get in the way though, if you believe in yourself others will also. That belief is no guarantee of your acceptance, but it wil give you a sense of peace about the entire situation. And recognize that ALL humans get discouraged and rejected at various times in our lives. Take me for example, I wanted to be a cheerleader IN H.S. but I didn't make the squad, I tried out for the drill team and Made it, I met a great person in my life that I would have otherwise never truly known from that rejection. It was only God's way of intervening, humbling me and setting me up for his great blessing. When we get rejected, somtimes its our fault, sometimes its not. Don't worry if its not, just keep improving on what you do have, try again and let God be your guide on the mission. Whatever happens live a fun, fulfilling life, and when your head seems to drop and heart slowly sinks with it, find you an activity, a person, a goal to focus your attention on, the blues go away with the desire to see OTHERS excel and prosper.

[miss priss]

It seems so much easier said than done...I mean my family members are DIE HARD members of this org. They are so die hard that they have a special room and car dedicated to it. OFF Limits of course. When they speak to you somehow, XYZ org. WILL come up. They went to the nationals this summer(yes they were delegates and one is a ug advisor) and brought back those cute MY MOM IS.....t-shirts. They always talk about "THE BOX"....and this all seems just to overwhelming....I just keep thinking if I don't make it I have disappointed them once again....
That L word prevents me too..... I have never wanted to mention it ...but somehow someway they always find out....I want to be known for me not "that's sisterfriends daughter" or "she THINKS she's in because she's so and so's child"...when I don't feel that way at all.

[Love_Spell_6]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
[B]Hello Everyone,
It is that time of the year again. Some prospectives are getting acceptance letters and others are being rejected.

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter?

For those who joined via the ALUMNAE chapter,
A. Did you apply for membership during your college years?
B. While waiting for the chance to join, what did you do in the meantime?
C. While others around you were becoming members, how did you stay focused on the mission of joining the sisterhood that you felt lead to pursue?

I joined the sorority through an Alumnae chapter, and I would NEVER trade my experience for anything! I did not apply as a collegiate member, and in hindsight, I am glad that I did not. I have friends to this day that did not get accepted (through alumnae and undergrad chapters) , and they are still trying. They definitely do not want to be "T-Shirt" wearers, they want to work!!! I stayed focused because the process judges each individually. Although we all just knew we'd be crossing those sands together, it was not up to us. After many tears, and long times where we didn't talk, we still have our friendship and they don't have to worry about searching for an ACTIVE Delta to help them in their process!

If a prospective wants to be a part of Delta for the right reasons, they must continue trying no matter how many times they're rejected. A rejection is not going to deter a determined woman.

Just keep your goal in sight and know that there will be plenty of work to do in DST if and when you arrive!!! And let me stress that there is so much work to be done!!!

[Gina1201]

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
For my SFs who are waiting/hoping to become a member what are you doing to keep your interests and to increase your attractiveness?

1. Keeping up on my grades. While I am seeking membership through an alumnae chapter, I do realize that this is still an important aspect.

2. Keeping up on my community service. I have so much fun doing it even if I balance it with school and work.

3. Networking. Trying to meet as many members of the alumnae chapter as I can. Not being bothersome, but just enough to let them know who I am. The members that I have met so far have been so helpful to me, that I could not thank them enough.

4. Overall, just keeping a positive outlook on everything! HE knows that there is a time and place for it all.

[GODswillbdone]

Hello everyone,

I know this is an old thread ,but I just wanted to get this out. I'm currently in professional school right now. I've been interested in becoming a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. for many years now. I have tried three times in the last 9 years now and I'm beginning to give it all up. I'm at the point now where I believe maybe this is not for me to do in this lifetime. As an undergrad, I tried twice. The first time, I believe it was my fault. I was too young and not prepared. The second time, I was offered and invitation for membership intake and it was retracted a few weeks before I graduated. The third time was through an alumanae chapter in a city in which I didn't know many members of delta. Over the years, I have watched many of my closest friends join the sorority. They are all wonderful and keep me encouraged. However, I've moved several times over the years to pursue my professional degree and I haven't had the opportunity again. Mostly, because there has not been any membership intake processes taking place. Most recently, a close friend of mine told me get everything in order for a potential intake. I did. Only for me to be disappointed again. She told me that the chapter decided to wait another two years before pursing membership intake again. Ok, really now. How long am I to wait? How many years? How many times must I put myself through this? Its hard for me not to become discouraged. I consider myself a focused individual. I've always supported Delta Sigma Theta. Everywhere I've gone, I've attended each chapter's various programs. I also have a long history of continuous community service. Not because I desire membership, but because I love participating in uplifting and helping my community. Even if this does not happen for me later in life. I will continue to love and support Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc.

May GOD continue to bless each of you!

[treblk]

Originally Posted by GODswillbdone

Hello everyone,

I know this is an old thread ,but I just wanted to get this out. I'm currently in professional school right now. I've been interested in becoming a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. for many years now. I have tried three times in the last 9 years now and I'm beginning to give it all up. I'm at the point now where I believe maybe this is not for me to do in this lifetime. As an undergrad, I tried twice. The first time, I believe it was my fault. I was too young and not prepared. The second time, I was offered and invitation for membership intake and it was retracted a few weeks before I graduated. The third time was through an alumanae chapter in a city in which I didn't know many members of delta. Over the years, I have watched many of my closest friends join the sorority. They are all wonderful and keep me encouraged. However, I've moved several times over the years to pursue my professional degree and I haven't had the opportunity again. Mostly, because there has not been any membership intake processes taking place. Most recently, a close friend of mine told me get everything in order for a potential intake. I did. Only for me to be disappointed again. She told me that the chapter decided to wait another two years before pursing membership intake again. Ok, really now. How long am I to wait? How many years? How many times must I put myself through this? Its hard for me not to become discouraged. I consider myself a focused individual. I've always supported Delta Sigma Theta. Everywhere I've gone, I've attended each chapter's various programs. I also have a long history of continuous community service. Not because I desire membership, but because I love participating in uplifting and helping my community. Even if this does not happen for me later in life. I will continue to love and support Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc.

May GOD continue to bless each of you!

Interesting post! I can understand being discourged, I can understand being hurt..what I can't understand is coming to public forum and airing out those feelings to members and non-members of the organization you love and support, like that is suppose to make us say, "aww we sorry, our bad". No one said that life was easy, especially, as you stated, knowing that you move a lot and have not gotten to build the foundation and bonds with a local chapter. Maybe you are focusing on the wrong things *shrug*, maybe you need to relax and wait another 9 years if that is what it takes. Maybe you need to focus on your professional degree and get that squared away, maybe you need to give it up and let it ride. If it's meant to be, then it will be. Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. is not going anywhere, but if you decide to give up..then so be it. Please know we will be alright!

[tld221]

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter?Collegiate chapter

For those who joined via the ALUMNAE chapter,
A. Did you apply for membership during your college years? Yes, during my junior year. but i did not become a member until my senior year.

B. While waiting for the chance to join, what did you do in the meantime? well, BEFORE i even felt like i had the chance to join, i went through a BGLO-mania of sorts. I didnt know black sororities existed (none were on my campus and the visibility was less apparent locally) until i started to research it. The more i researched, the more fanatic i became about greek life. i just could not WAIT to be greek... it was just a matter of which org i desired to be granted membership. that is what took my time to become an esteemed member of Sigma Gamma Rho 2 years later. i dont regret it NOW because i needed that time to figure it out for myself, but back then i was like, "why can't i figure out which org is best for me? i want to be greek now!" like everyone has been saying, things happen when they are SUPPOSED to happen.

C. While others around you were becoming members, how did you stay focused on the mission of joining the sisterhood that you felt lead to pursue?
most of the people who were becoming members around me were of other orgs. and it just made me want it more. though only a handful of black greeks were at my school, they were always together and were on their game with everything they did. even now, when i hear about people who crossed at my college (and in increasing numbers) im like, "ok, i can see that... but damn, who knew THAT many people were interested?" and they are RUNNING things at school now.

i kept felt like every semester, what was i doing wrong? my grades were on point, i was active on my campus and community. i guess looking back, i wasnt as forthcoming about my interest, and if the org doesnt even know you're interested, how can they let you know what events are coming up and even keep you in mind?

i stayed focused by pursuing other interests--i wanted to be an RA, so i did that (and its crazy cause almost every BGLO sorority member i know was an RA). i was working with a mentoring organization, and became a director of that org. i started working on my senior thesis. but i worked on being visible as an interest, but not to the point of being "OMG I LOVE XYZ PLEASE PICK ME!" but making sure i knew the who, what, where and when of each event, whether it was greek or not - if i knew a member of said org would be there, i was there! again, the visibility was limited, so even finding out that XYZ or ABC was doing an event was a challenge in itself.

in the end, what kept me focused was the desire that would not desist and also i was almost done with undergrad. i knew that if i didnt do it before i graduated, i wouldve been less inclined to pursue it as an alumna.

[TRYIN HARD]

Originally Posted by treblk

Interesting post! I can understand being discourged, I can understand being hurt..what I can't understand is coming to public forum and airing out those feelings to members and non-members of the organization you love and support, like that is suppose to make us say, "aww we sorry, our bad". No one said that life was easy, especially, as you stated, knowing that you move a lot and have not gotten to build the foundation and bonds with a local chapter. Maybe you are focusing on the wrong things *shrug*, maybe you need to relax and wait another 9 years if that is what it takes. Maybe you need to focus on your professional degree and get that squared away, maybe you need to give it up and let it ride. If it's meant to be, then it will be. Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. is not going anywhere, but if you decide to give up..then so be it. Please know we will be alright!

I read most of the posts in this thread and as a non-Delta/"wannabe" or whatever, I must say your comments were very insensitive. At one time in your life you were a non-Delta/"wannabe"/prospective or whatever, how would you have felt if you never made a line. I must also say that I attended a large HBCU in the south where competition was fierce to pledge. I did not actively pursue my interests because I was struggling financially, constantly switching my major, and almost transferred schools. Nevertheless, when the Deltas at my school finally crossed after being on probation for several years, I was astonished. I knew many girls on the line that smoked weed, constantly cheated in class, and DID NOT DO PUBLIC SERVICE! In fact many of them told me personally how they'd lied and gotten fake letters written indicating that they had done community service. Furthermore, so many of them are inactive now it is ridiculous. I guess I'm writing this to say, what happened to putting yourself in the shoes of others. I understand the greek "I've got what you want, so I'm better" attitude, but my goodness! I have never attended a rush, but would like to someday. I have had no luck in finding out about the activities for prospectives in my area, but hopefully one day I will, but if I encounter some of the negative personalities on this forum it is an organization I'd choose not to pursue.

[treblk]

Originally Posted by TRYIN HARD

I read most of the posts in this thread and as a non-Delta/"wannabe" or whatever, I must say your comments were very insensitive. At one time in your life you were a non-Delta/"wannabe"/prospective or whatever, how would you have felt if you never made a line. I must also say that I attended a large HBCU in the south where competition was fierce to pledge. I did not actively pursue my interests because I was struggling financially, constantly switching my major, and almost transferred schools. Nevertheless, when the Deltas at my school finally crossed after being on probation for several years, I was astonished. I knew many girls on the line that smoked weed, constantly cheated in class, and DID NOT DO PUBLIC SERVICE! In fact many of them told me personally how they'd lied and gotten fake letters written indicating that they had done community service. Furthermore, so many of them are inactive now it is ridiculous. I guess I'm writing this to say, what happened to putting yourself in the shoes of others. I understand the greek "I've got what you want, so I'm better" attitude, but my goodness! I have never attended a rush, but would like to someday. I have had no luck in finding out about the activities for prospectives in my area, but hopefully one day I will, but if I encounter some of the negative personalities on this forum it is an organization I'd choose not to pursue.

I'm just now seeing this and since my Soror and Sistergreeks have all chimed in..all I can type to you is...
we all have our opinions...

[NOWorNEVER]

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4


For my SFs who are waiting/hoping to become a member what are you doing to keep your interests and to increase your attractiveness?

1. I am working like you wouldn't believe on my grades and gpa. This is my first semester at a new school and I get a brand new GPA so there is no way in the world I'm messing up this go round.
2. I have involved myself in numerous activities: social, volunteer, civic, etc.
3. Praying for strength, a sound mind, FAVOR with everyone I meet, and for God to keep my eyes and ears alert to things going on around me.
Also, my interest now is different. I don't know who all here is religious, but since I have improved my relationship w/ God, I'm very relaxed and things do not stress me out anymore. It's weird but wonderful at the same time. At first I was sweatin' the deltas on the yard hard and breaking my neck to speak and whatnot....thought becoming a member would be the grrrrrrrreatest thing in the world....heart bout to jump out my chest every time I went to a forum or event (y'all know what I mean ) But now that I've grown, matured a lil bit more, realized that deltas are just people and not idols, and watched one of my best friends cross, I just think that if it's meant to happen, God will bring the opportunity. Don't get me wrong, my interest is still strong but I feel more at peace now.

Whats funny is that now I am informed of things going on w/ the chapter without even looking hard or asking, whereas before I was all hyped brighteyed & goofy and missing all kinds of good stuff. And how much more relaxed I am as members approach me and find out more about me. I don't know if anyone can relate...it's just late at night and I felt like typing what was on my heart.

[DIVA1177]

Originally Posted by NOWorNEVER

1. I am working like you wouldn't believe on my grades and gpa. This is my first semester at a new school and I get a brand new GPA so there is no way in the world I'm messing up this go round.
2. I have involved myself in numerous activities: social, volunteer, civic, etc.
3. Praying for strength, a sound mind, FAVOR with everyone I meet, and for God to keep my eyes and ears alert to things going on around me.
Also, my interest now is different. I don't know who all here is religious, but since I have improved my relationship w/ God, I'm very relaxed and things do not stress me out anymore. It's weird but wonderful at the same time. At first I was sweatin' the deltas on the yard hard and breaking my neck to speak and whatnot....thought becoming a member would be the grrrrrrrreatest thing in the world....heart bout to jump out my chest every time I went to a forum or event (y'all know what I mean ) But now that I've grown, matured a lil bit more, realized that deltas are just people and not idols, and watched one of my best friends cross, I just think that if it's meant to happen, God will bring the opportunity. Don't get me wrong, my interest is still strong but I feel more at peace now.

Whats funny is that now I am informed of things going on w/ the chapter without even looking hard or asking, whereas before I was all hyped brighteyed & goofy and missing all kinds of good stuff. And how much more relaxed I am as members approach me and find out more about me. I don't know if anyone can relate...it's just late at night and I felt like typing what was on my heart.

This is so true. God never gives you more than you can handle. If it's your time or season, then it will be so.

[candygirl]

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
For my SFs who are waiting/hoping to become a member what are you doing to keep your interests and to increase your attractiveness?

To keep my interest
1. I'm a graduating senior so I'm checking out the Alumnae chapters in the area's where I'm applying to graduate school.

2. Researching, Researching, Researching.

3. Establishing relationship with the women of my desired sorority. (This one really means a lot to me because I've never had a close relationship with a member. Its kind of depressing though. Especially when we go out and they're greeted by members. It never fails, someone always thinks I'm a member and I have to say "No I'm not a member." It just hurts my heart.

4. Surfing the net a looking at websites.

5. Talking to members about the organization. Sometimes this means the good and the bad. Many prospectives don't understand the dynamics of a sorority. So, when they're blessed with membership its overwhelming because they didn't have enough information. You'll never know the full scope of the organization but its important to get as much information as possible inorder to make a wise decision.

To increase my attractiveness
1. Completing my undergrad with a good GPA.

2. Remaining an active member in campus organizations.

3. Keeping up with community service endeavors and trying to find more opportunities.