Sorors, SFs, One & All

[Gina1201]

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
For my SFs who are waiting/hoping to become a member what are you doing to keep your interests and to increase your attractiveness?

1. Keeping up on my grades. While I am seeking membership through an alumnae chapter, I do realize that this is still an important aspect.

2. Keeping up on my community service. I have so much fun doing it even if I balance it with school and work.

3. Networking. Trying to meet as many members of the alumnae chapter as I can. Not being bothersome, but just enough to let them know who I am. The members that I have met so far have been so helpful to me, that I could not thank them enough.

4. Overall, just keeping a positive outlook on everything! HE knows that there is a time and place for it all.

[NOWorNEVER]

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4


For my SFs who are waiting/hoping to become a member what are you doing to keep your interests and to increase your attractiveness?

1. I am working like you wouldn't believe on my grades and gpa. This is my first semester at a new school and I get a brand new GPA so there is no way in the world I'm messing up this go round.
2. I have involved myself in numerous activities: social, volunteer, civic, etc.
3. Praying for strength, a sound mind, FAVOR with everyone I meet, and for God to keep my eyes and ears alert to things going on around me.
Also, my interest now is different. I don't know who all here is religious, but since I have improved my relationship w/ God, I'm very relaxed and things do not stress me out anymore. It's weird but wonderful at the same time. At first I was sweatin' the deltas on the yard hard and breaking my neck to speak and whatnot....thought becoming a member would be the grrrrrrrreatest thing in the world....heart bout to jump out my chest every time I went to a forum or event (y'all know what I mean ) But now that I've grown, matured a lil bit more, realized that deltas are just people and not idols, and watched one of my best friends cross, I just think that if it's meant to happen, God will bring the opportunity. Don't get me wrong, my interest is still strong but I feel more at peace now.

Whats funny is that now I am informed of things going on w/ the chapter without even looking hard or asking, whereas before I was all hyped brighteyed & goofy and missing all kinds of good stuff. And how much more relaxed I am as members approach me and find out more about me. I don't know if anyone can relate...it's just late at night and I felt like typing what was on my heart.

[candygirl]

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
For my SFs who are waiting/hoping to become a member what are you doing to keep your interests and to increase your attractiveness?

To keep my interest
1. I'm a graduating senior so I'm checking out the Alumnae chapters in the area's where I'm applying to graduate school.

2. Researching, Researching, Researching.

3. Establishing relationship with the women of my desired sorority. (This one really means a lot to me because I've never had a close relationship with a member. Its kind of depressing though. Especially when we go out and they're greeted by members. It never fails, someone always thinks I'm a member and I have to say "No I'm not a member." It just hurts my heart.

4. Surfing the net a looking at websites.

5. Talking to members about the organization. Sometimes this means the good and the bad. Many prospectives don't understand the dynamics of a sorority. So, when they're blessed with membership its overwhelming because they didn't have enough information. You'll never know the full scope of the organization but its important to get as much information as possible inorder to make a wise decision.

To increase my attractiveness
1. Completing my undergrad with a good GPA.

2. Remaining an active member in campus organizations.

3. Keeping up with community service endeavors and trying to find more opportunities.

[oneinamillion]

Originally posted by candygirl


3. Establishing relationship with the women of my desired sorority. (This one really means a lot to me because I've never had a close relationship with a member. Its kind of depressing though. Especially when we go out and they're greeted by members. It never fails, someone always thinks I'm a member and I have to say "No I'm not a member." It just hurts my heart.

This is exactly where I am, right now! I have bought tickets and attended events. It has been hard because I've had to take it upon myself to meet (by making the first move) members that knew NOTHING ABOUT ME and express my interest and my reasons. However, the silent auctions, other public events, and etc. have been fun I must admit but it's like this: I attend the public functions, I'm more than willing to put my money and time down for the cause, I surf the net religiously, I keep in contact with my contact person. I can only hope I am selected to be called when the time comes. I'm speaking from a grad point of view! .

[Honeykiss1974]

Originally posted by NOWorNEVER


1. I am working like you wouldn't believe on my grades and gpa. This is my first semester at a new school and I get a brand new GPA so there is no way in the world I'm messing up this go round.
2. I have involved myself in numerous activities: social, volunteer, civic, etc.
3. Praying for strength, a sound mind, FAVOR with everyone I meet, and for God to keep my eyes and ears alert to things going on around me.
Also, my interest now is different. I don't know who all here is religious, but since I have improved my relationship w/ God, I'm very relaxed and things do not stress me out anymore. It's weird but wonderful at the same time. At first I was sweatin' the deltas on the yard hard and breaking my neck to speak and whatnot....thought becoming a member would be the grrrrrrrreatest thing in the world....heart bout to jump out my chest every time I went to a forum or event (y'all know what I mean ) But now that I've grown, matured a lil bit more, realized that deltas are just people and not idols, and watched one of my best friends cross, I just think that if it's meant to happen, God will bring the opportunity. Don't get me wrong, my interest is still strong but I feel more at peace now.

Whats funny is that now I am informed of things going on w/ the chapter without even looking hard or asking, whereas before I was all hyped brighteyed & goofy and missing all kinds of good stuff. And how much more relaxed I am as members approach me and find out more about me. I don't know if anyone can relate...it's just late at night

I certainly can sistah! When you are given PEACE about a situation, things are different. Remember the "God takes care of His children".

[NiaX]

I went to a religious seminar at Ky. State Univ. this weekend and was shocked at the subject presented.

This program was presented by 2 ladies that denounced Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. They were members of Alpha Pi's Fall 2001 line, and they denounced their letters in June 2002.

A man by the name of Minister Fred Hatcher (sp?) spoke on GLOs (white and black) and Christianity, and why they don't mix. He has been speaking on this subject matter after denouncing Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc and the Masonic Order.
He said that you should not form a bond with anyone of unequal yoke (meaning faith) and that you should not join a GLO because the rituals of the GLOs require you to compromise your bond with Jesus Christ. He said that all the service that we do is in the name of the GLO and not Jesus Christ. Also, he pretty much stated that if you join a GLO, you are going to hell. But then, he was contradicting himself the whole time he was speaking too. And he try to down play Delta, Sorors. He was talking about Bishop Vashti Mackenzie, and a review she gave on a book. I mean dang, if she liked the book, she liked it. Who cares what position she holds, she is HUMAN like everyone else. Minister Fred, also a website and here it is:
http://www.1stBooks.com/Bookview/8065
The website may not work, so here is his email address: reprebres@cs.com



SFs, things do happen, and I don't try to persuade ANYONE's thoughts on anything, except for this:

You are your own person. Keep doing the things you do to keep your interest up and KNOW what YOU want out of the org you are choosing. Don't let ANYONE deter you from living your life. If you want to pursue DST or any GLO, do it, but only b/c you have taken that long hard look at yourself and can see how the org fits YOU, and not how YOU fit the org. Keep GOD and Jesus in all that you do and you will know if GLOs are not right for you.

Sorors, if this message gets deleted, I understand. But it has to be know what some people are saying nowadays.

Alright, stepping down now....

[naturalrose]

I just have to say this this was an inspirational thread! i am a undergrad senior and i found myself discouraged becauseeventhough my grades are great and i am involved in alot of community service activities ( maybe too much for my own good lol) i felt that i wouldnt be a good candidate just because i am a senior so i didnt attend rush... at first i thought it was a big mistake but i just found out i am leaving for the Peace Corps sooner than i thought so i wouldnt of been able to participate anyway. I am just staying positve and studying hard so i can come out with a great GPA. i cant help but feel lost because when i come back from my service ( 2 years) i feel like i will have to start all over again with showing interest... but like everyone said i just have to stay focused and in due time God will show me my path!!

[1908Revelations]

I joined Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated as an undergrad December 3, 2006 as a senior. Several people were concerned about attending rush as a senior, as I was. But had I not attended, I would have never know if I would be selected. Like everyone has said a million times before, if it is meant to be...it will be. I was on pins and needles waiting on my letter. I am not the best student in the world, so that means that I didn't have a 3.7 (far from it), but my service was stellar...that does not mean one can go to rush with a 1.0. My determination could have been a deciding factor in wether or not I got in. I love working in the community, because someone worked for us.

So, congrats to Sorors and fellow greeks!

Good luck to all of you sisterfriends!
Everything has a season!

[DIVA1177]

Originally Posted by NOWorNEVER

1. I am working like you wouldn't believe on my grades and gpa. This is my first semester at a new school and I get a brand new GPA so there is no way in the world I'm messing up this go round.
2. I have involved myself in numerous activities: social, volunteer, civic, etc.
3. Praying for strength, a sound mind, FAVOR with everyone I meet, and for God to keep my eyes and ears alert to things going on around me.
Also, my interest now is different. I don't know who all here is religious, but since I have improved my relationship w/ God, I'm very relaxed and things do not stress me out anymore. It's weird but wonderful at the same time. At first I was sweatin' the deltas on the yard hard and breaking my neck to speak and whatnot....thought becoming a member would be the grrrrrrrreatest thing in the world....heart bout to jump out my chest every time I went to a forum or event (y'all know what I mean ) But now that I've grown, matured a lil bit more, realized that deltas are just people and not idols, and watched one of my best friends cross, I just think that if it's meant to happen, God will bring the opportunity. Don't get me wrong, my interest is still strong but I feel more at peace now.

Whats funny is that now I am informed of things going on w/ the chapter without even looking hard or asking, whereas before I was all hyped brighteyed & goofy and missing all kinds of good stuff. And how much more relaxed I am as members approach me and find out more about me. I don't know if anyone can relate...it's just late at night and I felt like typing what was on my heart.

This is so true. God never gives you more than you can handle. If it's your time or season, then it will be so.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by naturalrose

I just have to say this this was an inspirational thread! i am a undergrad senior and i found myself discouraged becauseeventhough my grades are great and i am involved in alot of community service activities ( maybe too much for my own good lol) i felt that i wouldnt be a good candidate just because i am a senior so i didnt attend rush... at first i thought it was a big mistake but i just found out i am leaving for the Peace Corps sooner than i thought so i wouldnt of been able to participate anyway. I am just staying positve and studying hard so i can come out with a great GPA. i cant help but feel lost because when i come back from my service ( 2 years) i feel like i will have to start all over again with showing interest... but like everyone said i just have to stay focused and in due time God will show me my path!!

Just know that your org. of interest isn't going anywhere. And you will obviously bring a lot to it when the time is right.

[PhDiva]

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter?

For those who joined via the ALUMNAE chapter,
A. Did you apply for membership during your college years?
No because there was no undergrad chapter of SGRho at my school

B. While waiting for the chance to join, what did you do in the meantime?
I learned about SGRho while in graduate school (and I've been in school forever) but after I made my interest known, I finished my education, continued doing my community service work

C. While others around you were becoming members, how did you stay focused on the mission of joining the sisterhood that you felt lead to pursue?
I focused on making myself the best applicant possible by stepping up the quality and quantity of community service I was involved in, supporting public alumnae chapter events and staying connected to members of SGRho through our sorority's public message board.


My best advise for SF who wish to become sorors is to
(1) Be discreet and thoughtful about your interactions with members. You can show your interest without being obnoxious about it. I am a SF turned soror and no one here knew of my interest in SGRho. I purposefully kept my interest to myself, to the members of the alumnae chapter I was interested in joining and a few friends - one a Delta who tried to talk me out of pledging SGRho (LOL) and a SGRho who helped me get in contact with the alumnae chapter in my area.
(2) Do your service and make yourself the best applicant possible. If you haven't done much service, get to work. If your interviewing skills are sub par, have a friend help you.
(3) Live your life. I'm a neo and I love SGRho to the fullest but I am also about to be married, have a full time job as a college professor, and have family that I spend time with. Learn how to balance your desire to become a member with the other priorities in your life. Esp. when you pursue membership in a grad chapter, you will find women balancing multiple commitments (work, kids, school, sorority).
(4) Stay positive and know that God doesn't close one door without opening another one. If this year you are rejected from pursuing membership, treat that as a learning experience. Tighten up your application and your communication skills and try again. Our organizations don't want women who give up on the first try.

Best wishes to all,
PhDiva

[Wonderful1908]

I went undergrad on my first go at it.

However I agree 100% with what others have said, if you are undergrad and get rejected please keep striving. I am mature and old enough to know we really let go of some great canidates because of silly immature reasons. Remember sometimes the 19-20 year old mindset is just 2-3 years removed from high school

There were also some people though who just knew they had it and thats were discretion and humility are key, you don't have anything until you cross those burning sands!

[Little32]

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter? I joined a graduate chapter.
A. Did you apply for membership during your college years? No
B. While waiting for the chance to join, what did you do in the meantime?Got a Ph.D, served the community, generally continued to live a very happy and full life.
C. While others around you were becoming members, how did you stay focused on the mission of joining the sisterhood that you felt lead to pursue?I just knew that I wanted to become a member of my sorority and that I would patiently persevere until I got an opportunity.

To ALL BGLO Sorority members, what advice would you give those who were not chosen this year for membership?

First, know that membership in any sorority is a luxury, not a necessity. Your life will go on even if you are not accepted for membership at this time. I waited seven years for my opportunity to join My sorority and, as I said above, continued to live my life and do those things that were important to me.
Second, keep persevering. If sorority membership is meant for you, your opportunity will come again. But you have to be ready to take advantage of it when it arises.
Finally, K.I.M. You will probably never know the reasons why you were not chosen for membership at this time. It is not useful to spend a lot of time speculating, being angry or bitter. I know everyone feels these feelings at least initially, but wallowing in them for too long is counterproductive in every way.

[GODswillbdone]

Hello everyone,

I know this is an old thread ,but I just wanted to get this out. I'm currently in professional school right now. I've been interested in becoming a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. for many years now. I have tried three times in the last 9 years now and I'm beginning to give it all up. I'm at the point now where I believe maybe this is not for me to do in this lifetime. As an undergrad, I tried twice. The first time, I believe it was my fault. I was too young and not prepared. The second time, I was offered and invitation for membership intake and it was retracted a few weeks before I graduated. The third time was through an alumanae chapter in a city in which I didn't know many members of delta. Over the years, I have watched many of my closest friends join the sorority. They are all wonderful and keep me encouraged. However, I've moved several times over the years to pursue my professional degree and I haven't had the opportunity again. Mostly, because there has not been any membership intake processes taking place. Most recently, a close friend of mine told me get everything in order for a potential intake. I did. Only for me to be disappointed again. She told me that the chapter decided to wait another two years before pursing membership intake again. Ok, really now. How long am I to wait? How many years? How many times must I put myself through this? Its hard for me not to become discouraged. I consider myself a focused individual. I've always supported Delta Sigma Theta. Everywhere I've gone, I've attended each chapter's various programs. I also have a long history of continuous community service. Not because I desire membership, but because I love participating in uplifting and helping my community. Even if this does not happen for me later in life. I will continue to love and support Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc.

May GOD continue to bless each of you!

[treblk]

Originally Posted by GODswillbdone

Hello everyone,

I know this is an old thread ,but I just wanted to get this out. I'm currently in professional school right now. I've been interested in becoming a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. for many years now. I have tried three times in the last 9 years now and I'm beginning to give it all up. I'm at the point now where I believe maybe this is not for me to do in this lifetime. As an undergrad, I tried twice. The first time, I believe it was my fault. I was too young and not prepared. The second time, I was offered and invitation for membership intake and it was retracted a few weeks before I graduated. The third time was through an alumanae chapter in a city in which I didn't know many members of delta. Over the years, I have watched many of my closest friends join the sorority. They are all wonderful and keep me encouraged. However, I've moved several times over the years to pursue my professional degree and I haven't had the opportunity again. Mostly, because there has not been any membership intake processes taking place. Most recently, a close friend of mine told me get everything in order for a potential intake. I did. Only for me to be disappointed again. She told me that the chapter decided to wait another two years before pursing membership intake again. Ok, really now. How long am I to wait? How many years? How many times must I put myself through this? Its hard for me not to become discouraged. I consider myself a focused individual. I've always supported Delta Sigma Theta. Everywhere I've gone, I've attended each chapter's various programs. I also have a long history of continuous community service. Not because I desire membership, but because I love participating in uplifting and helping my community. Even if this does not happen for me later in life. I will continue to love and support Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc.

May GOD continue to bless each of you!

Interesting post! I can understand being discourged, I can understand being hurt..what I can't understand is coming to public forum and airing out those feelings to members and non-members of the organization you love and support, like that is suppose to make us say, "aww we sorry, our bad". No one said that life was easy, especially, as you stated, knowing that you move a lot and have not gotten to build the foundation and bonds with a local chapter. Maybe you are focusing on the wrong things *shrug*, maybe you need to relax and wait another 9 years if that is what it takes. Maybe you need to focus on your professional degree and get that squared away, maybe you need to give it up and let it ride. If it's meant to be, then it will be. Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. is not going anywhere, but if you decide to give up..then so be it. Please know we will be alright!