Giving Incorrect Recruitment Advice

[maconmagnolia]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

I'm glad she's gone. She is gone, isn't she? I always thought about Dr. Seuss when I saw her signature.

I'm not sure if she was banned or if she left on her own accord, but I haven't seen her around in awhile.

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by maconmagnolia

I'm not sure if she was banned or if she left on her own accord, but I haven't seen her around in awhile.

She wasn't banned, IIRC, and she was just awful in her directed comments/retorts to me. Seriously horribly rude. I put her on ignore. She hasn't been back since others called her out. AND I thought for sure we'd see her when there was a WSU thread recently.

There - is that enough detail?

[GratefulGramma]

On a travel discussion board that I read, somebody's daughter didn't get a bid she wanted, so she dropped out. There are lots of "mean girl" statements, some attempts by people who seem to know what they are talking about, etc. Now somebody has very authoritatively announced that "it only takes one black ball". Waiting to see where that oe goes.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by GratefulGramma

On a travel discussion board that I read, somebody's daughter didn't get a bid she wanted, so she dropped out. There are lots of "mean girl" statements, some attempts by people who seem to know what they are talking about, etc. Now somebody has very authoritatively announced that "it only takes one black ball". Waiting to see where that oe goes.

If you have one black ball (or two) you should be going through fraternity rush, not sorority rush.

[Titchou]

That is so old school that is doesn't even warrant a discussion....

[Xidelt]

I know because I saw it in a movie once.

[Titchou]

Yeah...

[GratefulGramma]

There have been a couple of people join the conversation who were Greek or had been. I keep hoping one of them comes back. I am ancient, and I barely remember talk of black balls.

[Titchou]

Same here - this year is my 50th as an initiated member. Dinosaurs roamed the earth back then

[KDMafia]

haha because all the founders of our different orgs, when setting the membership standards sat down and decided "and of course, we must always remember, it only takes one black ball"

[KerriMarie]

An update for a super old thread... I'm active posting about sorority life on another site, and someone asked for Recruitment advice about getting invited back to a house they didn't want to visit or had ranked low.

Someone very confidently suggested that they just "sit out" the party by telling their Rho Gam they don't want to visit that house! Luckily, other posters jumped in and set the record straight!

No, you can't just "sit out" a party during Formal Recruitment, even if you REALLY know that you don't want to be an XYZ!

[als463]

After reading through this thread (and the QFP thread) I hope this doesn't apply to something I typed. If so, I would really want to know because I don't want to be giving out incorrect recruitment advice.

I've tried to wish people in the NPHC threads good luck and I've said that they should speak to other NPHC members and I've tried not to dispense too much advice about anything regarding a school that I don't really know much about. If I have done this, I hope Carnation lets me know. I'd hate to think that I am hurting someone's recruitment experience.

The girls who come on here and act like they are too good for "certain" chapters going through recruitment-they, on the other hand, don't matter too much to me. I could care less how they do. If you're only going through rush/ recruitment to be able to party with the best fraternities or be at the best socials and you could not really care about sisterhood-then you don't deserve to join, anyway.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by als463

I've tried to wish people in the NPHC threads good luck and I've said that they should speak to other NPHC members and I've tried not to dispense too much advice about anything regarding a school that I don't really know much about. If I have done this, I hope Carnation lets me know. I'd hate to think that I am hurting someone's recruitment experience.

Try to follow the lead of the NPHCers. If we're telling the OP to fuck off, don't tell the person good luck.

[als463]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Try to follow the lead of the NPHCers. If we're telling the OP to fuck off, don't tell the person good luck.

I just try to be positive. I really do wish people good luck in their search for a "home" regarding Greek life. I will listen to what you said, though. If they are acting rude or hateful towards the members of the NPHC, I won't tell them good luck.

I just wish people would use this as a "supplemental" source and not the end-all-be-all because they assume that for every mean comment they get from GCers, that is an indication of how all Greeks will treat them. In fact, I have already told people that if they are going to act like that, I hope they don't join my sorority but, that doesn't mean that all of my sisters or sisters from other GLOs will feel the same. Don't base your entire opinion of what a certain GLO is all about by the posts of a few people. That is just dumb.

[als463]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Good.

For the record, OPs can get a fuck off even when they aren't being rude or hateful. Just observe.

And lay off with the Ebay postings.

Hey now...I posted that Ebay thing because it happened to show up when I was trying to find some Phi Mu stuff. I was just trying to be helpful because I figured the Omegas would like that stuff they were selling...

I still think we could be a little bit nicer to some of the people who come on here looking for advice (provided they don't act like complete morons who put down GLOs) so, I would have to understand why people were telling the person to go somewhere else-that's all. I'll keep my ideas to myself, if they seemed the least bit disrespectful.

Just my opinion but, I think that sometimes we could be a little nicer to eachother on this site too. That's just my $.02 and maybe means little to some people. I'm not pointing fingers or calling anyone out, I'm just saying that even people were being mean to one another in this thread. That's all.