epchick's rush @UTEP - Page 4

mmcat · #46 09-08-2005, 11:33 PM

make us proud and hang in....
you know you can do this.

epchick · #47 09-09-2005, 01:13 AM

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Originally posted by Lindz928
My mom didn't want me to rush AT ALL!!!! But, once I did and she saw how happy it has made me, she has been very supportive of it. She doesn't understand it at all really (she never went to college), but she realizes that I have really gotten something out of it. Besides, if I hadn't rushed, I wouldn't have my best friend now who she thinks of kinda like a second daughter! Haha.

Yeah I just finished having a talk with my mom---I told her how I just really wanted it....but she's REALLY concerned about it interferring with school. She's already told me "I dont want you having sorority events on a school night" and I had to tell her it is not up to me, and sometimes there might be events on a school night----its just hte way it is. I guess, its because if I do a lot of things continuously, I get really drained and I end up getting really sick. But she finally has the idea that the schedule I gave her is just for the week. I had to reiterate it a few times, but hopefully she's grasped that now! lol.

On another note, my group decided that if we didn't all want the same sorority that we were going to start our own (lol). Since we were "group 1" we would call ourselves ONE. Lol...its soo dumb, but I love those girls---I can't wait to see if any of them will be my sisters!!!

So I guess i'll give you all the rundown of the night

Phoebe--Again, these girls were great. I didn't feel as comfortable as I had the previous days, but I think it was b/c of the subject matter we were talking about. See, I was talking to the same girl from yesterday ( the one was in my Rho Chi group last year)...and she wanted to know more about why I didnt stick with Prue. I really didn't know what to say, I didnt know if it was an appropriate question to ask---if she was trying to get some dirt, or see if I would speak about the dirt---I dont know. So I just said that I didn't follow my heart when i should have, and I'm going through rush again, and trying to NOT make the same mistake. Then after they did their skit, another girl came up to me and talked with me. She was my Rho Chi last year. I think they were really trying to get the dirt from me, b/c after she recognized me she asked me about Prue. Don't ask me why, but for some reason I went more indepth with her. I talked about my mom's health and how that really factored into the decision. I told her I was in between 2 groups and that since my mom was really sick, we really couldnt afford a lot, so she pushed me to go with Prue. She asked why I didnt stay with them, and I just pretty much said, after a while I knew that wasn't where I belonged, and that is why I am rushing again. I don't know if what I said is really appropriate to say, but what's done is done. Ya know? Better out in the open...i didnt say anything about what happened to me while pledging Prue---I just stuck to my story that it wasn't what my heart wanted (which was/is true!) So i'm just praying that my "slip of the tounge" wont factor into the decision tomorrow (pref night).

Piper--This group did the same skit as last year (well so did Phoebe...but they changed it up a little bit) so it was entertaining, but I already knew what to expect----but it was still good. I really like all the tradition behind it and all, but I dont know if I could really see myself there. I could see getting along with most (if not all) of them, but I just dont know if I'm Piper material.

Paige--This group was great. They did their skit, and had NACHOS for us!! UMMMM...my favorite! After they did their skit, they taught us their dance and all, so it was fun. After that it was all good....we talked and just laughed. I really like this group, but I dont know if I can really see myself a Paige either.

Prue--This group was good. They did their skit, which was cool. They had us draw our own little "crest" which was nice...i didnt know what to draw so one of the Prue sisters---my good friend, ended up tracing my hand w/ marker and so now my right hand is outlined in blue! lol. So it was good.

Patty--This group was awesome also! They ended up doing their skit which was adorable, and then we just sat around eating popcorn and watching videos of their "lip sync" contests and stuff. It was great. I really do think I can see myself as a sister of this group as well. I know that one of the girls in my Rho Chi group has decided this is the group that she's going to take a bid from! lol. she's a great girl, and Patty is lucky to have her (of course nothing is set in stone yet).

Ugh, so I'm torn between two groups--Phoebe and Patty. I see myself as both. I just hope that i get invited back to Patty and Phoebe tomorrow. I know they say that they make their cuts based on grades....but there also has to be other factors involved also, and I dont want my conversation with one fo the girls from Phoebe being misconstrued into thinking i'm not sincere or nothing. Ugh i dont know! lol..i'm not stressing, i just wish i could turn back time and just say "i didnt follow my heart" and leave it at that...lol...that's all they really needed to know!

Well take care all, and thanks for the encouraging words! They really do mean a lot.

Jestor · #48 09-09-2005, 01:17 AM

Good luck with it!

I think by tomorrow night you'll have a much better idea which of the two you're digging most.

...Of course, I'm hungry for a Peppermint Patty now.

PhoenixAzul · #49 09-09-2005, 08:24 AM

*inhale* (exhale). Repeat!

I think you handled the situation with Phoebe well. As long as you weren't saying "OMG those's VBTs are just the worst girls who would ever want to be their sister yakyakyakyak..." You'll be fine. It sounds like you've got the right perspective on the situation...it wasn't right for YOU ...doesn't mean it isn't right for OTHERS. Very Panhellenic

Xylochick216 · #50 09-09-2005, 09:09 AM

I normally don't post in recruitment threads until they're done but I just wanted to say how well you are handling this. I received a bid from one group on campus my freshman year and declined it for many reasons. I went through again as a sophomore and was dreading going back to that house. You sound as if you've handled it well. Good luck!

mmcat · #51 09-09-2005, 10:21 AM

may it be a good day today and the right p wins....
lol

KSUViolet06 · #52 09-09-2005, 11:26 AM

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Originally posted by epchick
Yeah I just finished having a talk with my mom---I told her how I just really wanted it....but she's REALLY concerned about it interferring with school. She's already told me "I dont want you having sorority events on a school night".

epchick,

Do you live at home? It might help to remind your parents that while you understand their concern, that you are (I'm assuming) 19/20 years old and a fully autonomous human being who is capable of making her own decisions.

PenguinTrax · #53 09-09-2005, 11:43 AM

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Originally posted by JocelynC
epchick,

Do you live at home? It might help to remind your parents that while you understand their concern, that you are (I'm assuming) 19/20 years old and a fully autonomous human being who is capable of making her own decisions.

And that's all well and good, as long as she's paying her own bills. If a PNM is expecting her parents to foot her bills, and they refuse to pay for sorority expenses, it's time to either a) get a job or b)withdraw from recruitment. I've seen too many chapters be disappointed (doubly) by pledging a woman who dropped immediately for financial reasons. That's a point we really try to get across during our Alumnae Panhellenic info sessions, especially to those girls that attend w/o their parents.

KSUViolet06 · #54 09-09-2005, 11:55 AM

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Originally posted by PenguinTrax
And that's all well and good, as long as she's paying her own bills. If a PNM is expecting her parents to foot her bills, and they refuse to pay for sorority expenses, it's time to either a) get a job or b)withdraw from recruitment. I've seen too many chapters be disappointed (doubly) by pledging a woman who dropped immediately for financial reasons. That's a point we really try to get across during our Alumnae Panhellenic info sessions, especially to those girls that attend w/o their parents.

Of course. My parents were very supportive of my decision to join, but they understood that since that this was what I wanted to do, I would be the one paying for it. Either you work to pay them yourself or you don't join.

epchick · #55 09-09-2005, 01:53 PM

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Originally posted by JocelynC
epchick,

Do you live at home? It might help to remind your parents that while you understand their concern, that you are (I'm assuming) 19/20 years old and a fully autonomous human being who is capable of making her own decisions.

Yes I live at home. I've already tried that argument about me being 20 and being able to make my own decisions, but that doesn't float well with my mother.

The financial responsibility isn't the big issue here, its just schooling. I am the primary person who will be paying for dues, but my mom also has told me that she'd help me....that part isn't going to be the problem.

I thank y'all for your input...i'm glad to know that I didn't say too much

epchick · #56 09-09-2005, 10:07 PM

First of all, I want to thank all of you for your support---it meant a lot to me, and kept me motivated throughout this experience.

Well tonight was pref night and out of a possible 5 groups, I got invited back to 2.

Paige and Patty were the only two who were "brave" (I dont know if that is the word) to give me an invitation. I was pretty upset that Phoebe (my 1st choice) didn't give me an invitation, but I guess that is the way life goes.

I was told that cuts were based on grades (which i have the grades, so it wasn't that), and I also heard that many of the groups don't like girls who rush for a 2nd time. So, maybe that was it, but whatever.

Paige's pref party was nice, but I didn't click with them.
Patty's was awesome. They were my 2nd choice, but I seemed to really click with the girls. They did some little activity between 1 PNM and 1 active, and it almost brought me to tears. I really connected with the girl who was rushing me, she was soo sweet to me and I just had a genuinely good time there.

I guess I really have a tough night ahead of me. My mom is already mad to know that Phoebe didn't give me a 2nd chance, but she's really grateful to Paige and Patty (can you believe it, my mom actually came around to liking the idea of me joining a sorority! lol).

I dont think I have to choose right now. I can probably wait til next week and go to COB and if I can get to Pheobe, but then again, they dropped me, and going COB doesn't guarantee me a bid. I dont know...i thought I clicked well with the girls. Maybe it was because I didnt flat out say " this is where i belong"...i hinted to it, but didnt say it.

So I have some thinking to do tonight. I just really want to follow my heart and not join just because I want be in a sorority. I know y'all will say "Greek life isnt everything" but in all honesty, its been something i've been wanting to do since I was little...soo we'll see! Thanks again y'all.

pinkyphimu · #57 09-09-2005, 10:35 PM

it sounds like you have a very difficult decision. if you ranked the sororities you went to tonight on a bid card, then cob will not be an option for you. signing your bid card binds you to one of those groups for one calendar year. if you did not sign, then cob is an option.

while there are many people on here who have been completely happy in their "second" choice, only you can decide what is best for you!

librababy · #58 09-09-2005, 10:37 PM

i know i don't know a whole lot about the whole greek thing yet, but i can't help but feel the need to caution you about the fact that if you get into Patty and there are any Patty girls from your chapter on GC, you have already made it pretty clear that Patty isn't your first choice. now i am definitely *not* saying don't go with them because it sounds like you really do like Patty! and we want you to be happy! i'm just commenting that it was noticed on the board and could cause hurt feelings/akwardness if you accept a bid and reveal the GLO and chapter on GC.

but of course, good luck to you about tomorrow and i hope everything turns out!

epchick · #59 09-09-2005, 11:00 PM

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Originally posted by pinkyphimu
it sounds like you have a very difficult decision. if you ranked the sororities you went to tonight on a bid card, then cob will not be an option for you. signing your bid card binds you to one of those groups for one calendar year. if you did not sign, then cob is an option.

while there are many people on here who have been completely happy in their "second" choice, only you can decide what is best for you!

Oh, I didn't rank the sororities...we dont do that at my campus. They just gave us a list of the sororities that invited us back, and tomorrow we choose which sorority we want a bid from (if we got an invitation tonight, then we automatically get a bid from them tomorrow).

That is a reason why i really need to think about what I want. I dont want to sign a bid card, and then be bound to any decision i make---just in case.

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i know i don't know a whole lot about the whole greek thing yet, but i can't help but feel the need to caution you about the fact that if you get into Patty and there are any Patty girls from your chapter on GC, you have already made it pretty clear that Patty isn't your first choice. now i am definitely *not* saying don't go with them because it sounds like you really do like Patty! and we want you to be happy! i'm just commenting that it was noticed on the board and could cause hurt feelings/akwardness if you accept a bid and reveal the GLO and chapter on GC.

I understand that as well, and i know that I CAN'T say that someone from Patty isn't on GC, but i haven't come across any from the organization. But then, just because Patty was my 2nd choice, doesn't mean they didn't have a big impact on me--b/c they did. Throughout the week, I was in between two sororities---Phoebe and Patty. I really liked both of them. I dont think that just because I call them a "second choice" doesn't mean that is not where I belong...ya know?

honeychile · #60 09-09-2005, 11:07 PM

epchick, fwiw, my grades improved when I moved into my sorority suite! There is a definite push for higher academic standards within a sorority than in a dorm, and my parents were positively thrilled when my GPA soared! If she would be happier talking to me, PM me.

Good luck with your decision, and may you get the bid of your choice!