Needing some opinions

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by cashmoney
I think all guys have reacted badly to things women have done. Thats something Ive made a point to change. Instead of reacting at the moment Ive learned to "respond" after Ive thought about it. For example, this one girl told me she made out with a black dude once. Well, its been my experience that chicks that go interracial end up doing a lot of nasty things...like getting double teamed and triple teamed. If its a girl i care about I get bent out of shape. I know its my own insecurities that cause that....but its something I gotta get over. Well, the girl that did that ended up being someone I care about...and still do. I got over it but its not something I like to think about.

Okey, Cash, Sweetie,

I don't understand... Can you explain to me a little bit further? I don't think it is YOUR choice to just responde rather than to react, I think it is something that got inappropriately "engrained" into your psyche while growing up that you never knew existed...

At least you are willing to admit you've got to work it out and you are doing so... But the feeling I am getting from you is, that you feel like you "failed" to protect your "your loved one"...

So my question is how come you feel that way and what would lead you to think that is okay?

(Personally, I do not take offense, I am in a learning mode... I will let you know when I take offense)

Originally posted by cashmoney
Whether you think its racist or not, if a white guy tells his white girlfriend "hey, I have sex with black chicks as well as white girls" it kind of freaks them out if they were raised a certain way. How do I know this? A few of my friends have went chocolate at least once just to try it out and then told later GFs and the girls freaked out. Its wierd, though. When those same guys told other girls they've banged asian girls it was no big deal. Thats what I dont understand.

Can you please elaborate? Because I am trying to understand this... Many in the "sistah's circle" who date outside of the box are NOT thinking this way... Brothaman who dates and has sex with white chicks happens all the time where I live... Sistahs get pissed off because we think black man lost his DAYUM mind and has "purposes" for dating "Snowflake"... And it ain't about "freaky, kinky sex"... It's more about "mackin' the hoe" or "pimpin' dat biatch"... As my friend says, that's one less person to think about at Christmastime...

I know plenty of sistahs into the Erotica... Like the Las Vegas Dungeon stuff or full on pornography... But, they almost always ultra suppressed because historically, African American woman have been deemed "asexual"--even after having children that are grown... Black women are suppose to NOT have sexual desires as we are told--right after some of us have had "teenage births"... Which saddens me, because that means what I am hearing is that I cannot be seen as sensual or sexy, ever!

However, I know that's not true, especially after my pursuit of the Tantra--NOT Kama Sutra--because the Tantra loosely translates to "expansion"... Then historically, all of heroines were seen as great beauties throughout history...

Who?

Auset
Makeda
Nzingha
Nnande
Neith
Neferatti
Nefartere
Hapshepset
Sekhemet
Queen Afua
Dr. Francis Cress Welsing
Dr. Gloria Wade Gayles
My Great Grandmother
My grandmother
My mother
me...

[cashmoney]

Originally posted by cashmoney
I wanted to know what some of you (men & women) think about all this.....


Lately me and my friends have been going crazy...and its because of women. Each of us who have been/are involved with a woman are being drove to the brink of craziness. Its like none of us can trust these girls and its for good reason. So, here's a little info on whats going on right now:


We'll start off with my friend Ken. He's been dating this girl we'll call Brigette for about 10 months. Now the first 3 months of their relationship Ken cheated on Brigette because he doesnt trust girls and thought she was doing the same thing. he had his reasons, ex-boyfrineds calling, shadiness about where she's been or what she was doing...whatever. The fact that she's really hot didnt help matters either. Now, brigette tells him crazy things like she wants to get married to him, have a family with him, he's the one guy that she thinks was really ment for him in life and anything else you could imagine. Ken really is in love with girl and wants to get married to her. But, he has trust issues. His last long term girlfriend beofre brigette, he dated her for 4 years. he wasnt the best to her. Basically she was a housewife material girl and he turned her into a whoe...made her have threesomes, she'd come home from work and he'd make her stripp nakked and give him oral sex as soon as she walked in the door...that type of stuff. Well, one day he came home from a business trip 2 days early when she wasnt home and he checked the bed....he found semen stains on the comfortor and sheets that werent his. Later he found out she was cheating on him and actually met the guy.

Fast forward back to brigette now. Well, he's been so burnt in the past he's now like a CIA agent in the making. He checks up on her like you wouldnt imagine. He sawed off the edges of her blinds to her bedroom window so he can see in and see if she's in bed with another guy or if she's really doing what she claims she's doing. He also set up voice-activated tape recorders all around her room so he can tape her conversations in case she's in there with a guy. He even went so far as to set up a path down the side of her house to her bedroom window to where no one could hear him walking by....like he stratigically placed twigs where it didnt look liek there was a path and place bricks so he could tip-toe on them so he didnt step on dried up grass. Even i know he did some crazy isht for anyone. He even spies on her when she's at work because he knows this guy at her work thats been trying to get her and he knows she thinks he's cute. And brigette has no idea about any of this. When brigette does things he thinks is shady he wont sleep for like 3 days and stays busy trying to keep tabs on her. So, thats Ken for you.

Now, here is Brad's story. Brad dated this girl for 7 years, i call her dirty Colleen. This girl has done him so wrong in the past. Cheated on him many times...and not just one night stands...like they were outright affairs. One time she even gave head to a guy in the parking lot of a club because it was a dare, and she did it right before she left to come home to him. I know this because the guy she did it to was friends of another friend of mine who was there when it happened. Well, they broke up several times over the years but always got back together. They even lived together several times. Most recently they built a 2 story house together and right before they got the house Brad busted her cheating on him again. Thats when he kicked her out. Now, Brad is just as crazy as Ken...and its because Colleen made him go crazy. Like Brad had to set up his own version of Spyware and infected her computer inorder to keep tabs on her. He found out her email password as well as the password to the guys she cheated on him with. Now, Brad also got into her cell phone records.....like he found a way to get up to date cell phone records of her account...up to 5 minutes of the last call. He got the numbers, the length of the call and the times of the call not to mention the names and adresses of the guys she called and who called her. And yes, ken stole this idea from brad and he did it to brigette as well. Keep in mind as crazy as this sound Colleen said the same things to Brad that brigette said to Ken...and they even went so far as to build a house together and were trying to have a baby.

Now, here's Billy's story (one of my roomates). Billy has been dating this girl named Michelle. Now, Michelle is the girl Ken cheated on Brigette with. She's really hot as well. Now, Michelle is still currently married but seperated and in the process of getting a divorce. Michelle never had her wild streak because she got married when she was 18 years old....she's 26 now. Her husband turned her into a whoe as well, he made her do all kinds of crazy stuff......stuff with bottles and fruit, dirty sanchez type of stuff and donkey punching things. Well, given Michelle's past Billy has been really sketched out. The girl had sex with 3 of our friends before her and billy got together....one of them being ken who might be one of the dirtiest people I know as well as one of my old frat brothers from UF who's now one of the biggest drug dealers in Jacksonville Beach. She hangs out with club owners and people of that nature when she's out with her girls.....and all her girls cheat on their husbands/boyfriends. Well, because of her past Billy checks all her phone records,calls,names,convo length, times and he's even accused her of cheating. Now, Michelle tells billy the same exact things that brigette and Colleen told Ken and Brad......the same exact stuff. They have broken up 3 times in 4 months because of these issues. Billy spies on her when she says she's at work when he doesnt think she's telling the truth. He's even busted her a couple of times saying she was at work when she was actually somewhere else because 2 of our friends saw her at the beach. Billy is in love wiht this girl and wants to marry her, too.....just as she claims she wants to be wiht him for good. The girl has even introduced him to her entire family/extended family and he's met her soon to be ex-husband. So, thats billy's story.

Now, here's Travis's story (my other temp roomie/big brother/old roomie from gainesville). He's dating this girl named Erica.
Now, we've known Erica for along time...since back in Gainesville. Erica claims she is in love with Travis. Yet, she lives with another guy named Chad (i call him gay chad) who is also her photographer. She says to Travis the same crap that all the other girls said to Ken, Brad and Billy. Now, Travis wont have girlfriends anymore....and for good reasons. He's an NFL player and has been done wrong by many girls in the past. Well, he thinks Erica is cheating on him...he took a chance by dating her. They've been off and on for 4 years. Erica has done a lot wrong in their relationship. She called him up one night while she was laying in bed with the guy she's living with and wanted him to come pick her up. He's about to leave and go play in NFL europe for the spring and he doesnt trust her being faithfull.....so what does he do?? He gets Fred Taylor, jax jags running back, to keep tabs on her. Like he actually sends other guys to go hit on her and try to pick her up inorder to see if she'll cheat on him. And thats Travis's story.

Well, here's my story...I was involved with this girl after my breakup with my ex-fiance. This girl told me all kinds of stuff....the same exact stuff that was told to Travis,Ken, Brad and Billy. Well, I had a feeling she was being shady. In fact, I busted her in so many lies it was ridiculous. This girl told me she wanted to get a house with me and actually looked at houses for us, have kids, said she loved me, thought we were ment for each other, soulmates and everything else you could imagine. Yet, I busted her in so many unforgivable lies. The first time I busted her I dealt with it by having me, travis and ken have a 6 some with 3 other girls. I justified it by telling myself she probably did the same thing. Well, after this girl broke my heart a number of times, chewed it up and spit it back in my face...i broke it off with her. Yet, she still calls me and tells me she cant handle not having me in her life and misses me everyday and that if she cant have me she wont have anyone. She cries on the phone to me. Well, I dindt believe anything she told me after being pissed on several times. With all the stuff she told me I started going crazy. I hired 2 private investigators recently to find out eveyrthing about her possible. I mean, I'm wanting to know what kind of crust this girl has hidden up her buttcrack if you catch my drift. The girl told me so many lies I have no idea whats true and whats not. In another week or two i'll know absolutly everything about this girl....like her ss number, her families adress, her medical records (because I think she lied to me about a medical condition), where she was born, how much money she has in her bank account (i found out she had a friend break into my bank account and found out how much money I had in my savings account a while back), I'll know her email password, cell phone records with the names and adresses of the people she talks to.....not to mention I'll even know how much debt she has accumulated in credit card debt. Anyhow, i told her all this last night and that if she wanted she could keep lying to me but I'll know everything in a week or two. She told me I was acting "all stalker like" and said it was fucked up.....but yet, I know for a fact she did the same thing to me by getting into my bank account and cell phone password ( i just changed my cell phone provider). She was pissed for a few minutes after I told her everything I was doing but then she said she was sorry for everything and that she did to me and wanted to make things right and be with me. She told me, though, that I didnt love her. i told her that if I didnt I wouldnt have spent 1,500$ getting all her info and that I would care less about her after I busted her in the first set of lies. However, i think it turned her on that I would go to such lengths for her....despite her saying we're all crazy. She asked me what i exactly wanted from her and I told her....thats when she told me "Lets do it, then."

So, what do some of you think about all this? I mean, are we actually crazy or is the way we're acting understandable due to all the isht these girls are telling us? I wasnt like this before this one girl...and neither were my boys. My view on it is, I'm not going to be taken for a fool and I wont go out like a bitch. This girl messed with my head really bad and I wont let her be one step ahead of me. She thinks she's smarter than me and a hell of a lot slicker....but she has no idea how J. Edgar hoover I can get on a girl. By the time I'm done she wont be able to get anything by me. I know from the outside it all sounds kind of crazy/creepy/insane/pyscho on both ends.....but try to look at it from both ends when giving your thoughts.


Thanks,
Cashmoney

Ok, this post was made in March. It's amazing how much things have changed since then.

This is whats happened since then....

Ken bought Brigette a 2 & 1/2 kt ring (it's kind of ironic how he just happened to get 1/2 kt bigger than what I got Rachel when we were engaged ) Anyhow, they're now living together and he doesnt think she's cheating on him at all. In fact he bought her a new BMW 325i and told her she doesnt have to work.

Brad has been dating this girl named Deana. I say they've been dating since November but he says it was just fucking till about 3 months ago. In fact, I was told her met her mom and her step dad on friday night and then today he met her dad. When he said her dad was cool as fuck and that he's just like one of us ( and that he'd have his back if someone started shit with him) I told him I heard wedding bells in the background. lol. Anyhow, deana is about to move in that 2 story house brad built and live together.

Billy, well, he's finally done with Michelle and realized what whore she was. He just bought a $500,000.00 house in Jacksonville. I havent really talked to him that much since I moved to Miami....something about him thinking I left him hanging. I think he thought we were always gonna be rolling hard together. Oh well.

Travis just got back from Europe playing in the NFL there. He played for the Rhein in Germany and then for Amsterdam. He's back chilling with Erika and in love......and I don't blame him. I think she's given him motivation to stop drinking and partying and get his shit together (shit meaning his body). He came back a different person from Europe and I don't mean all fucked up from being in Amsterdam.

And me, I'm doing better than ever. Life gets better and better the older I get.