Question for guys regarding virginity - Page 4

cashmoney · #46 04-05-2004, 12:55 PM

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Originally posted by decadence
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Reluctant virgin becomes sex crazed slut wanting nothing more than orgasms?
But isn't that cashmoney, only something that happens in amateurly written porn stories?

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Nahh..every virginity I've taken, the girl always turned in to a sex feen afterwards. Even now, each girl I've dated usually tells me by the third month that they think I'm turning them into sex feens. My current girlfriend told me this back in january, she says we've have more sex together than she's had with all he ex-boyfriends combined....and this was before I started using levitra on her.

dzsaigirl · #47 04-05-2004, 05:10 PM

In my circle of friends, there are quite a few of us who are already married to our "one and only," a few who are not married yet and are waiting, and there is one other who has never had a boyfriend or kissed. And, yes, she is very cute!

I think it has a little to do with the way you were raised, some to do with how your close friends handle sex, and a LOT to do with how you personally view sex.

It can also serve as a great weeding out system. I mean, if a guy dumps you because you wouldn't have sex with him, he wasn't in it for the same reasons you were. And that's fine. Sex is one degree of compatibility that should match between people who want a relationship.

MrsMcCartney · #48 04-05-2004, 11:40 PM

I have a friend who waited....she was going on 27 when she got married and he was almost 30. But they were BOTH virgins. I don't understand the girls who "save themselves" for some guy who has already gone and done it before. If I had never been with anyone else I wouldn't be able to stand thinking about the ones who had gone before me.

It's an immesely personal decision. For some people, waiting really is important and not waiting would just ruin everything (cause feelings of guilt, or whatever.) For others, waiting is not an option. I could never have married a man I hadn't slept with and known if "it" was there or not.

DGqueen17 · #49 12-17-2004, 10:38 PM

I love virginiity.

Coramoor · #50 12-18-2004, 01:17 AM

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Originally posted by Taualumna
Guys:

Let's say you're dating a fairly attractive girl who is, say, mid 20s. She tells you that not only is she a virgin (face it, most 20something virgins have done other things), but she hasn't gone past French kissing anyone and has only kissed 5 men in her life. Would you think that she's "too pure"? She is a virgin not because of religious belief, but beause she never really had the opportunity to do it.

I would not believe her.

polarpi · #51 12-18-2004, 02:19 AM

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Originally posted by Coramoor
I would not believe her.

What if she could back up her story?

I mean, she could be telling a story, but there ARE women out there who have not dated many guys, kissed many guys, etc, etc. (and yes I'm speaking from personal experience

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Coramoor · #52 12-18-2004, 02:21 AM

How could she back it up?

From my experience and from the experiences of the guys in my fraternity...I would be highly doubtful. Especially if she was in a sorority.

polarpi · #53 12-18-2004, 02:23 AM

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Originally posted by Coramoor
How could she back it up?

From my experience and from the experiences of the guys in my fraternity...I would be highly doubtful. Especially if she was in a sorority.

So would you say that I'm not being truthful by saying I haven't dated much or kissed a guy and I'm approaching my mid-20's still a virgin?

I'm not saying that she couldn't have someone "lie" to back up her story, but depending on where you are and the size of the community you live in, there may be ways to find out how truthful she is being.

PhiPsiRuss · #54 12-18-2004, 07:33 AM

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Originally posted by DGqueen17
I love virginiity.

How so?

_Opi_ · #55 12-18-2004, 11:23 AM

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Originally posted by Coramoor
How could she back it up?

From my experience and from the experiences of the guys in my fraternity...I would be highly doubtful. Especially if she was in a sorority.

so all women who have joined sororities are not virgins(according to your fraternity)???

James · #56 12-18-2004, 11:48 AM

Well the clincher in what Taualumna is asking is "fairly atractive" I would take that to mean that the girl is above average looking objectively and aesthetically from a mainstream media point of view.

If that were the case and I believed her, I would be looking for other types of hang-ups or wierd issues.

I mean a simple way that could happen and be true is if sh lived with her parents her entire life and they were really controlling. But that would come under the hang-up and wierdness category.,

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Originally posted by polarpi
What if she could back up her story?

I mean, she could be telling a story, but there ARE women out there who have not dated many guys, kissed many guys, etc, etc. (and yes I'm speaking from personal experience )

honeychile · #57 12-18-2004, 11:57 AM

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Originally posted by Coramoor
How could she back it up?

From my experience and from the experiences of the guys in my fraternity...I would be highly doubtful. Especially if she was in a sorority.

That's a pretty sweeping statement, if not downright demeaning!

The decision of whether or not to have sex is an intensely personal one, and I seriously doubt if there's any one standard that a man - excuse me, male person - could make to "back it up". Unless, of course, you know of a unicorn.

James · #58 12-18-2004, 12:05 PM

Maybe maybe.

But we are talking about a good looking girl . . not good looking like "all God's children are beautiful" but good looking in the sense that most guys would find her atractive, who is not only sporting the V-card into her mid twenties, but has barely been kissed.

So like I said, if its true you look for wierd issues.

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Originally posted by honeychile
That's a pretty sweeping statement, if not downright demeaning!

The decision of whether or not to have sex is an intensely personal one, and I seriously doubt if there's any one standard that a man - excuse me, male person - could make to "back it up". Unless, of course, you know of a unicorn.

Coramoor · #59 12-18-2004, 01:15 PM

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Originally posted by polarpi
So would you say that I'm not being truthful by saying I haven't dated much or kissed a guy and I'm approaching my mid-20's still a virgin?

I'm not saying that she couldn't have someone "lie" to back up her story, but depending on where you are and the size of the community you live in, there may be ways to find out how truthful she is being.

I made a pretty sweeping statement. Anything is possible...

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The decision of whether or not to have sex is an intensely personal one, and I seriously doubt if there's any one standard that a man - excuse me, male person - could make to "back it up". Unless, of course, you know of a unicorn.

Personal huh...?

Maybe I'm just becoming overly cynical the more I am around. I know girls in sororities that were harrassed more than any guy I know for being a virgin and in college. So much so that they made that intense personal decision to get drunk and go home with someone whose name they don't even know.

honeychile · #60 12-18-2004, 01:39 PM

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Originally posted by Coramoor
I made a pretty sweeping statement. Anything is possible...

Personal huh...?

Maybe I'm just becoming overly cynical the more I am around. I know girls in sororities that were harrassed more than any guy I know for being a virgin and in college. So much so that they made that intense personal decision to get drunk and go home with someone whose name they don't even know.

First of all, I was referring to losing one's virginity as being a personal decision - I should have been so clear.

I should also have read where you went to school before commenting on your statements.