First signs of a bad first date - Page 4

PeppyGPhiB · #1 05-19-2010, 04:22 PM

- He shows up in a shirt monogrammed/silkscreened with his company's logo (up here in Microsoft country, you wouldn't believe how many guys I went on dates with showed up with MS shirts. It's just really lazy and shows they don't care much about their appearance...and that they don't apparently ever go anywhere nice that requires a non-logo t/shirt.
- He doesn't look at me when I'm talking, or he just looks around the room too much.
- He cancels, unless he's sick or it's a real emergency. Generally I wouldn't reschedule a first date, especially if he wants to cancel for a work-related reason. That's just a preview of what's to come.
- He answers his cell phone.

33girl · #2 06-01-2011, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

- He shows up in a shirt monogrammed/silkscreened with his company's logo (up here in Microsoft country, you wouldn't believe how many guys I went on dates with showed up with MS shirts. It's just really lazy and shows they don't care much about their appearance...and that they don't apparently ever go anywhere nice that requires a non-logo t/shirt.

OMG YES. No, if we are meeting on the east side of the city and you live on the far west side, and we are meeting right after your work...I don't expect you to go the whole way home and change. I do expect you to think about the fact that you're doing something after work and bring a f'ing non-logo shirt along to change into. I may not want everyone to think that I'm taking a business associate out for a thank you dinner.

Not only that, but (sweeping generalization here) many of the guys who do this are fat and sweaty and they need to change into a fresh shirt before a date anyway, regardless of what's on it.

GMUBunny · #3 05-19-2010, 04:55 PM

Making any mention of where you're going to take me on our second date and/or inviting me to your cousin's wedding before we've even ordered appetizers. I'll pull one of those "I have to take a call" moves and not come back.

christiangirl · #4 05-19-2010, 06:06 PM

*The cell phone is a definite no. If he's texting, I just say "I can wait" and won't continue the conversation until he puts it away.

*If he doesn't pull my chair out for me or open the door for me, it's usually a sign this is gonna go bad. I used to be offended at those gestures, but I find (in general) guys who do those things for me treat me better than guys who don't.

*If he smells like alcohol or smoke

*If he brings up his ex (unless, for some reason, I ask)

*If he has a gold tooth or a grill

*If I look at him and just start to feel nervous like I should stay alert around this guy.

*If I'm thinking in my head, "Man, I shaved my legs for this??"

DaemonSeid · #5 05-20-2010, 07:47 AM

I can't believe no one said, "If she shows up pregnant..."

Prettyface08 · #6 05-20-2010, 09:18 AM

*If he consumes too many alcoholic beverages
*If he stares at another woman (or man) while with me.
*If we're at dinner and he starts complaining about the prices on the menu.
*If he says he doesn't have any friends, or only has female friends OR he believes that men and women can't be friends
*If he tells sexual jokes or talks about sex at all.
*This may be weird BUT, if he refers to me as sexy instead of saying you look nice/cute/beautiful.
*If he's cheap...expecially with himself!
*If he tries to kiss me.
*If he has a wet mouth.

DaemonSeid · #7 05-20-2010, 09:33 AM

...a wet mouth?

hehehe

*scribbles* Prettyface08 is an expensive date who doesn't kiss.

Prettyface08 · #8 05-20-2010, 10:06 AM

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...a wet mouth?

hehehe

*scribbles* Prettyface08 is an expensive date who doesn't kiss.

Sounds about right LOL

DaemonSeid · #9 05-20-2010, 10:13 AM

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Sounds about right LOL

if you don't kiss me by the 3rd date or at least cop a feel, we are th'ough.

Prettyface08 · #10 05-20-2010, 10:37 AM

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if you don't kiss me by the 3rd date or at least cop a feel, we are th'ough.

That's fine. I was only using you for the expensive dinners anyway!

DaemonSeid · #11 05-20-2010, 08:26 PM

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That's fine. I was only using you for the expensive dinners anyway!

golddigger.

LOL

cheerfulgreek · #12 05-20-2010, 06:56 PM

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YES! I had a guy that I liked hurt my feelings doing this. He told me that I was acting White and the activities that I liked were those that "White people liked to do." The fool then told me that he would refer to me as "Crystal" from that point forward. I told him to enjoy his hobbies/interests alone. That's so rude. Ugh.

Wow, that guy deserves to be alone.

I've dated guys who would lie to me about their interest in my interests/hobbies, too.

I dunno, it's just that a lot of guys that I would go out with would tell me what they thought I wanted to hear, just so I would keep dating them. They would act like they really were interested in my hobbies, when they really weren't. And they didn't have to be, but I just think that if I'm showing or taking some interest in what he enjoys, he should do the same for me, even if it's just a little, and the last thing is please don't tell me what he thinks I want to hear.

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*If he consumes too many alcoholic beverages
*If he stares at another woman (or man) while with me.
*If we're at dinner and he starts complaining about the prices on the menu.
*If he says he doesn't have any friends, or only has female friends OR he believes that men and women can't be friends
*If he tells sexual jokes or talks about sex at all.
*This may be weird BUT, if he refers to me as sexy instead of saying you look nice/cute/beautiful.
*If he's cheap...expecially with himself!
*If he tries to kiss me.
*If he has a wet mouth.

lol
What do you mean by wet mouth? That's hilarious. What is that?

eta: and I totally agree about the alcohol. I don't like a lot of swearing, either.

Prettyface08 · #13 05-21-2010, 09:31 AM

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Wow, that guy deserves to be alone.

I've dated guys who would lie to me about their interest in my interests/hobbies, too.

I dunno, it's just that a lot of guys that I would go out with would tell me what they thought I wanted to hear, just so I would keep dating them. They would act like they really were interested in my hobbies, when they really weren't. And they didn't have to be, but I just think that if I'm showing or taking some interest in what he enjoys, he should do the same for me, even if it's just a little, and the last thing is please don't tell me what he thinks I want to hear.

lol
What do you mean by wet mouth? That's hilarious. What is that?

eta: and I totally agree about the alcohol. I don't like a lot of swearing, either.

LOL!! umm, how do I explain it, Hmmm. Have you ever known anyone whose mouth always seemed to have a little puddle around the bottom lip? It's kind of like drool but doesn't dribble down the chin just stays around the lip. Example: Diddy looks like he has a wet mouth. OR if the corners of their mouth is always wet, I can't do it. I can't kiss someone with all that excess saliva. Swallow sometimes! UGH lol

cheerfulgreek · #14 05-20-2010, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

if you don't kiss me by the 3rd date or at least cop a feel, we are th'ough.

lAZy 1 · #15 05-21-2010, 03:25 AM

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lol

I don't know why, but if his car is junky, we're done. And yes, no kids, just to start. Or if he talks about himself a lot.

Oh, and as for his appearance, I don't really like earrings, nose rings etc...and/or tattoos.

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When I date, I'm generally looking for a partner so if he talks about his previous "relationships" and none of them are real relationships, just short term "ins and outs"..

or the "career goal" conversation starts out like "Well, right now I'm working at Taco Bell, but I'm in school studying philosophy blah blah..."

Philosophy? Really?

or if the job before the Taco Hell one is pretty consistent with the current job, like Burger Slinger, Scrubway, etc. Basically he's not going anywhere, or really doesn't want to go anywhere.

Doesn't take my hobbies into consideration meaning he only likes talking about the things he enjoys doing and doesn't have or take an interest in my hobbies. I mean, I know my interests and hobbies are a little out there, but still...

Talks about his exes. Has a lot of exes etc...still friends with his exes...etc.

no second date, not with me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jI6YWeiHEiE