hows this dress for preference day? - Page 3

srmom · #31 08-07-2009, 04:02 PM

FSUZeta, no problem, I'll go e-shopping for you anytime!! I have 3 sons so it's not often that I get to shop for pretty dresses!!

LOVE those J Crew dresses!

Good luck to all you girls going through recruitment!

LadyLonghorn · #32 08-07-2009, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Kansas City

Are we having a bad day LadyLonghorn?

I thought I was clear that she can wear whatever she wants. Perhaps I'm not as informed about UT having never participated in recruitment there but I believe the advice to be sound for a wide variety of PNMs across the country. Further, I doubt a PNM wearing a colored dress to a pref party would be a valid reason for them to not receive a bid ... but then again, I'm not a UT person.

You may be having a bad day, but I certainly am not. So I guess you must be using the royal we to describe yourself.

This PNM was asking about Pref attire for a specific school. You have no experience with that school and gave her poor advice. As someone who is intimately familiar with recruitment at UT, it was my obligation to point out that your advice was not only irrelevant, but could do damage to someone's recruitment results. Yes, something like this can affect a PNM's recruitment results at a place like Texas.

Also, the Pahel web site mentions that Pref attire is cocktail dresses and specifically says they are "usually black." When a school with a recruitment like ours use a term like "usually" you can bet it means "should be."

unicorn · #33 08-07-2009, 06:30 PM

Y'all have really piqued my interest about how they do recruitment at UT--and there have been some beautiful black dresses linked! If everybody's wearing black, what do girls do to stand out from one another? (In that 'be correctly identified and, hopefully, receive a bid' way, of course!) Would it be shoes as perfectinpurple mentioned, or jewelry, or hairstyle, or what? I'd love to know more.

gee_ess · #34 08-07-2009, 08:39 PM

I will defer to LadyLonghorn to respond to unicorn's specific question, but, imo, pref night is not the night to try to distinguish yourself at a competitive campus. It is more important to be dressed appropriately than to find a way to stand out with your attire.

unicorn · #35 08-07-2009, 09:00 PM

Fair point! It's just that this particular element of UT's recruitment is so different from my own campus's way of doing things that I got curious.

Kansas City · #36 08-07-2009, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn

You may be having a bad day, but I certainly am not. So I guess you must be using the royal we to describe yourself.

This PNM was asking about Pref attire for a specific school. You have no experience with that school and gave her poor advice. As someone who is intimately familiar with recruitment at UT, it was my obligation to point out that your advice was not only irrelevant, but could do damage to someone's recruitment results. Yes, something like this can affect a PNM's recruitment results at a place like Texas.

Also, the Pahel web site mentions that Pref attire is cocktail dresses and specifically says they are "usually black." When a school with a recruitment like ours use a term like "usually" you can bet it means "should be."

Please calm down ... your defensiveness is entirely uncalled for. The original post (which I also responded to) was regarding a preference night dress for recruitment at an unnamed school a year ago. The hijack was for UT. This is not specifically a UT thread and I believe that it is important to aid other PNMs as well as those at UT. I have no problem with you being the UT expert. I could care less. What all PNMs should take away from this inane conversation between the two of us is that they need to research their campus culture and dress appropriately for their preference night. Apparently at UT that means a black dress but at the majority of other schools that I have personal experience with, black dresses tend to be a staple of the chapter that is hosting the preference night event and is better avoided so that the PNM stands out from the chapter membership. That is all that I am saying. If you want to take this further, please feel free to PM me to keep this petty argument off the board. Thanks!

LadyLonghorn · #37 08-07-2009, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Kansas City

Please calm down ... your defensiveness is entirely uncalled for. The original post (which I also responded to) was regarding a preference night dress for recruitment at an unnamed school a year ago. The hijack was for UT. This is not specifically a UT thread and I believe that it is important to aid other PNMs as well as those at UT. I have no problem with you being the UT expert. I could care less. What all PNMs should take away from this inane conversation between the two of us is that they need to research their campus culture and dress appropriately for their preference night. Apparently at UT that means a black dress but at the majority of other schools that I have personal experience with, black dresses tend to be a staple of the chapter that is hosting the preference night event and is better avoided so that the PNM stands out from the chapter membership. That is all that I am saying. If you want to take this further, please feel free to PM me to keep this petty argument off the board. Thanks!

I am in no way defensive. The only person I am defending is the UT PNM to whom you gave very bad advice. This reply of yours was a direct response to her question about UT attire:

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Originally Posted by Kansas City

I guess you can wear whatever "Everyone at UT" says to wear but by wearing a plain black dress a PNM runs the risk of blending in with many chapters who will coordinate their members in black dresses. I'd stick with the more colorful examples given in this thread from last year.

It also came off as very condescending, just as your comments to me have. Saying I must be having a bad day (I'm not), telling me to calm down (in your view, factually correcting your erroneous advice apparently makes one a raging lunatic), and referring to my posts as inane and petty then ordering me to PM you rather than post are hardly responses that speak for your maturity. Perhaps you are projecting. I dunno. All I can say is I truly hope someone your age does not address the collegians you advise in the same manner.

Unicorn, gee_ess gave you the perfect answer to this one.

TexasDarling · #38 08-08-2009, 01:38 AM

Thank you all for your responses, sorry if i caused any confusion.

That is actually a dress a friend of mine bought for rush.

Thanks for all of your suggestions. :]

Kansas City · #39 08-08-2009, 02:17 AM

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Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn

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Thank you for your opinion. I will choose to respond via PM.

LadyLonghorn · #40 08-08-2009, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Kansas City

Thank you for your opinion. I will choose to respond via PM.

Do not PM me. It won't be read or responded to. I have said and will say anything I have to say to you here.

DreamsComeTrue · #41 08-08-2009, 06:53 PM

I am in the process of shopping for my pref dress too.
At my school they recommend that PNM's wear cocktail dresses that are not black or white...However, as I have looked at the examples in this thread that were posted last year and seen other dress posts on GC i am noticing that most people are posting plain colored dresses...would it be inappropriate to wear a printed material dress? (I don't mean animal print or zebra or anything...but maybe something similar to this: http://www.dillards.com/webapp/wcs/s...735&R=03016469

ThAnKs!!!

KSUViolet06 · #42 08-08-2009, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by DreamsComeTrue

I am in the process of shopping for my pref dress too.
At my school they recommend that PNM's wear cocktail dresses that are not black or white...However, as I have looked at the examples in this thread that were posted last year and seen other dress posts on GC i am noticing that most people are posting plain colored dresses...would it be inappropriate to wear a printed material dress? (I don't mean animal print or zebra or anything...but maybe something similar to this: http://www.dillards.com/webapp/wcs/s...735&R=03016469

ThAnKs!!!

This is just my opinion:

This one is a little "prom-y" and cutesy for recruitment.

Not saying that you shouldn't wear a tasteful, classy print. Prints are ok.

Just that particular dress screams prom or high school homecoming to me, not cocktail.

You can wear whatever you want though so if you like it, buy it.

DreamsComeTrue · #43 08-08-2009, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

This is just my opinion:

This one is a little "prom-y" and cutesy for recruitment.

Not saying that you shouldn't wear a tasteful, classy print. Prints are ok.

Just that particular dress screams prom or high school homecoming to me, not cocktail.

You can wear whatever you want though so if you like it, buy it.

Thanks for the input! I certainly don't want to look to high school-ish so i'll keep looking.

33girl · #44 08-08-2009, 08:13 PM

No, absolutely not. Stay away from the "prommier" brands like Jessica McClintock or Blondie nites and the prom or Juniors section in general (where I see this is from). Go here instead:

http://www.dillards.com/endeca/Endec...vlet?N=1604007

DreamsComeTrue · #45 08-08-2009, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

No, absolutely not. Stay away from the "prommier" brands like Jessica McClintock or Blondie nites and the prom or Juniors section in general (where I see this is from). Go here instead:

http://www.dillards.com/endeca/Endec...vlet?N=1604007

Wow, those certainly look very different, a lot more mature and a lot less "high school dance" looking. Thanks for steering me in the right direction!!!