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Originally Posted by greekintraining
Is what some of my boyfriends brothers said to me the other night. They say that I'm a nice girl and they don't want to see me become a snobby bitch like other girls they know. I come back saying that if i ever did pledge that I would always stay true to my morals. But they said that pledging changes you. Yeah, hopefully for the better I said. Is that really how guys feel about girls after they pledged. I mean come on, I knew some of these guys before they got into their house and the fact that they pledged a fraternity doesn't change my view of them as a person, so why am I getting all of this crap that If I do decide to pledge then they may not see me the same way anymore. Also if I did pledge to a sorority that they disliked would me being a part of it or wearing their letters make them dislike me as a person. Or if a sorority that I pledge dislikes the fraternity that my boyfriend is in would they give me problems about being with him and hanging out there?
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Many nice guys I know end up complete jerks after joining fraternities, but you know what? I don't go around telling people to not join fraternities.
Maybe that's the way they really were before they started pledging but it just didn't 'shine though' as much.
So, I'm not saying that they were right, or that those guys are jerks, I'm just saying there is no real way for them to know how you would change if any because you are you... and YOU have the ability to control your actions. No one else can dictate that.
Long story short: Don't listen to them... and if they look at you differently just because you join a sorority, what does that say about
them?
In life you won't be able to please everyone. I know you are trying to make a good impression on your bf's friends, but you shouldn't let the real you not come through just to impress them... and that includes doing/not doing things to make them like you.
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