Suicide? - Page 3

beebadger · #1 09-19-2007, 12:52 AM

What IS MS?

#2 09-19-2007, 12:56 AM

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Originally Posted by beebadger

What IS MS?

MS = Membership Selection. Not discussed on GreekChat, PM or not.

If the legacy information you seek is not readily available on your sorority's website, then it's probably not best to discuss it online.

KSUViolet06 · #3 09-19-2007, 01:48 AM

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Originally Posted by OTW

MS = Membership Selection. Not discussed on GreekChat, PM or not.

She's right.

Membership Selection is considered very private and is not discussed with anyone other than initiated members of that sorority. Questions like the one you asked are not going to get answered because that info is only known by initiated members. The general rule of thumb is if the info is not available on the sorority's national website, it's not for non-members to know.

Drolefille · #4 09-19-2007, 02:41 AM

Everyone else is right. A really general answer is that it may have helped her at a little by at least making her stand out in members' minds. There's no way for anyone to reassure you that because she's a legacy, she'll get in, because that's not necessarily the case.

beebadger · #5 09-19-2007, 11:09 AM

Sorry -- I'm pretty new to Greek Chat. I didn't realize I was asking something off limits. I didn't mean to bring up something taboo. I'm just stressing about it!! SHe was so excited after final parties and had a very long talk with her Rho Gamma before ranking only the one. (She doesn't think legacies get any special treatment, so that's not why she did it -- she just didn't feel like she'd fit in with the other group). I guess I'll just have to wait until tonight to find out the results. Bid Day starts at 6:15. Do I have to hold my breath re: the dreaded phone call telling her not to come right up until the end?

SthrnZeta · #6 09-19-2007, 11:35 AM

I think Drole's right about this one, being a Legacy will help you stand out amongst other PNMs but I've never heard of it guaranteeing anyone anything. Every org is different though, so if you call and they tell you, then great, but I doubt they'll give you much detailed info about it. I hope for her sake that she gets in where she wants to go, but the cliche saying is so so true: everything works out the way it's supposed to and there's a reason for everything.

Benzgirl · #7 09-19-2007, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by SthrnZeta

I think Drole's right about this one, being a Legacy will help you stand out amongst other PNMs but I've never heard of it guaranteeing anyone anything. Every org is different though, so if you call and they tell you, then great, but I doubt they'll give you much detailed info about it. I hope for her sake that she gets in where she wants to go, but the cliche saying is so so true: everything works out the way it's supposed to and there's a reason for everything.

No guarantee, but "special consideration". Special Consideration could apply to the start of recruitment all the way through bids. They are all correct. It varies by chapter and is confidential.

violetpretty · #8 09-19-2007, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by beebadger

Bid Day starts at 6:15. Do I have to hold my breath re: the dreaded phone call telling her not to come right up until the end?

This depends on the campus. I was a Rho Gamma last semester and we were told that all calls would be made before midnight after preference (day before bid day). I had to call one of my girls who SIPed and tell her she did not get a bid. We then got an email saying that if we haven't heard from PHA regarding any of our PNMs not getting bids, the rest matched!

However, I think last year we had a PNM on GC who went to UCF. I am pretty sure she suicided. Their bid day was at 2pm and she got a call from her Rho Gamma around noon the same day. I think that was cruel of PHA to wait that long to make the calls. She was getting ready and got all excited because she thought she had a bid, but then the phone rang. At least if they hear the bad news at night or hear a lack of bad news, the poor girls can sleep at night!

Drolefille · #9 09-19-2007, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by beebadger

Sorry -- I'm pretty new to Greek Chat. I didn't realize I was asking something off limits. I didn't mean to bring up something taboo. I'm just stressing about it!! SHe was so excited after final parties and had a very long talk with her Rho Gamma before ranking only the one. (She doesn't think legacies get any special treatment, so that's not why she did it -- she just didn't feel like she'd fit in with the other group). I guess I'll just have to wait until tonight to find out the results. Bid Day starts at 6:15. Do I have to hold my breath re: the dreaded phone call telling her not to come right up until the end?

There's probably some specific time frame where they make those calls, but if your daughter didn't tell you then your choice is to fret or go do something else to take your mind off of it.

beebadger · #10 09-19-2007, 02:26 PM

You're right, drolefille! I think I'll head out to Target -- that could keep me occupied for hours!

SthrnZeta · #11 09-19-2007, 03:10 PM

Is there a thread where release figures is discussed....? This sounds new to me and I was a Rho Gamma (and I only graduated 3 years ago!)

APhi Sailorgirl · #12 09-19-2007, 03:26 PM

Release figures have been around for a little while, but have become more popular. Here is a link to the information from the wonderful FSUZeta.
http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=22514

UGAalum94 · #13 09-19-2007, 05:34 PM

Yep, if a groups are more limited in who they invite back and especially invite back to pref, a girl has a much better chance matching to her to choices than she did back in the days when all groups invited more than three times quota back to prefs. (I mean at schools with three pref. parties.)

No group ought to be carrying a lot of extra girls today at pref.

But I'd still recommend people try to be open to all groups they pref and list all they'd be willing to join on the bid card. There are still a bunch of girls who match to their second or third choice, and had they SIPed they wouldn't be Greek today. Only SIP if you know you'd rather not be Greek than join that group. In most cases, you don't really increase your options to join by holding out for COB or re-rushing. (exceptions of course for campuses with weirdly high total.)

MellySK · #14 09-23-2007, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by RazorbackMom

Anybody know of a girl who suicided and got a bid from the chapter she wanted?

I suicided, but only because I knew there was only one group that was right for me, and it so happened that the rest of the chapter felt the same! (i'm a sap - sorry

)

However, when I became an executive member of panhellenic, to keep rush numbers up, we strongly discouraged it. However, I still feel that if you feel strongly about one group, and could not see yourself elsewhere.....it's what ya gotta do.

JessLynn · #15 09-25-2007, 01:01 PM

Sometimes it is for the best even if it doesn't work out. I suicided because I was only sure about one of the chapters I went to on pref night and didn't get a bid but I was able to do informal recruitment and ended up really liking a house I'd cut much earlier in formal recruitment and joining there.