What is a typical day for a sorority formal and how is it planned?

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

You've disabled the PM feature on your account, so I'm going to ahead and bring this up here:

I looked at your MySpace (which is linked to your GreekChat profile). It says that you go to CSU Hayward (home of two sororities, Alpha Phi & Tri Sigma) and that you're "looking to join a sorority."

That's all well and good. Here's where I take issue:

I'm not a fan of the big huge purple text blinky that says "FUTURE SIGMA SISTER."

At this point, you don't know if you will be asked to join or not, so I think it's presumptuous of you (and disrespectful to us) to have something like that on your page.

As a national volunteer (a very well connected one at that), I have to tell you that if you are serious about rushing (and don't want to ruin your chances),you should remove that.

Thanks a bunch!

Wow...I don't know how you found that through all of that junk.

That page is a seizure waiting to happen.

[33girl]

I think the thing that frightened me the most about that page was finding out that the WWE has a magazine.

[aephi alum]

Nice work KSUViolet06. CSUGreekGoddess, "you are the weakest link... goodbye!"

So I'm surprised that some chapters have such elaborate rules about getting to/from formals. We just walked or took the T. We also never had alcohol at formals... we never had enough 21+ sisters who drank to justify the expense.

[CSUGreekGoddess]

Look, I'm not looking to pick a fight with any of you, but here's the reason: I'm dealing with a lot of personal issues right now in my life and I'm not the kind of person to get dirt on anything to get in. I don't do that. I've been pretty much a loner all my life through school being picked on and that's why I want to join a sorority. I'm sorry if putting that blinker up on my MySpace page was disrespectful even though I didn't know that. So now you know the truth.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by CSUGreekGoddess

Look, I'm not looking to pick a fight with any of you, but here's the reason: I'm dealing with a lot of personal issues right now in my life and I'm not the kind of person to get dirt on anything to get in. I don't do that. I've been pretty much a loner all my life through school being picked on and that's why I want to join a sorority. I'm sorry if putting that blinker up on my MySpace page was disrespectful even though I didn't know that. So now you know the truth.

I appreciate your cooperation regarding MySpace. No one here is picking on you. I simply asked that you remove some things from your page that weren't appropriate.

[KSUViolet06]

Kevin, I PMed you.

[CutiePie2000]

Originally Posted by susan314

It's so blatantly inappropriate that it almost makes you wonder if someone is impersonating the girl pictured on the MySpace page, in some deliberate attempt to prevent her from being able to join?

That would be really mean and evil...kinda like those women on theknot.com who cancel bride's bookings and reservations (I've read about that happening...brutal!)

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

CSUGreekGoddess,
I have confirmed (via an email to one of the chapter's officers) that you in fact are not a member of the Epsilon Alpha chapter of Sigma Sigma Sigma. I don't think I need to tell you what your chances of getting a bid are at this point.

Can anything be done to "save" this situation? I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt, b/c I think it was a mistake out of not knowing any better...let's face it, there are a lot of people who don't know how the recruitment process works & don't know that discretion is best, whether it is NPC or NPHC.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by CutiePie2000

Can anything be done to "save" this situation? I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt, b/c I think it was a mistake out of not knowing any better...let's face it, there are a lot of people who don't know how the recruitment process works & don't know that discretion is best, whether it is NPC or NPHC.

I'm PM-ing you too.

[PM_Mama00]

Originally Posted by BabyPiNK_FL

I can't imagine all of this drama just to go anywhere! It sounds so weird to me. I've never heard of these things before! We literally get ready and get in the car, if we want to stop we stop, I can't recall anyone sneaking in drinks either, in my city it'd be impossible to keep track and no one would even bother to listen to all that if someone tried. No one would even go if we had to do that. They'd just go to a club!

(By we I'm referring to the Greek Community as a whole on my campus. I've never heard any sorority/fraternity member mention having to board a bus for her/his formal or any other event except a grab-a-date to Orlando. Also, I'm not referencing the risk-management aspects, just the different methods of transportation that is required for different chapters.)

Welllll get ready for it. We always drove ourselves too, and made sure there was a DD driving the drunk girls. Last year Nationals started making the girls take a bus... which is retarded because we're commuter so they'll just have to drive to wherever from the school. But those who make the rules are more educated in risk management, so I guess it's a better idea than having the girls drive.

Originally Posted by BabyPiNK_FL

We always have our formal at a hotel and we're in a major metropolitan high-cost area so I guess that would explain the higher costs. Oh, btw-I was 21 before I was initiated, so I've always been able to drink (if I chose, cos I rarely do) at formal.

I'm curious how you have yours in a hotel without the big-ups saying anything. We were never allowed to.

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

I'm curious how you have yours in a hotel without the big-ups saying anything. We were never allowed to.

Phi Mu chapters aren't allowed to hold formals in hotels?

My chapter's held formals in nice hotels since I've been a member (except for 2 occasions where it was held at a rather upscale private residence). I don't know where else we'd be able to hold it.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by OTW

Phi Mu chapters aren't allowed to hold formals in hotels?

My chapter's held formals in nice hotels since I've been a member (except for 2 occasions where it was held at a rather upscale private residence). I don't know where else we'd be able to hold it.

We've held things at hotels, but we can't have an overnight. Perhaps that's what she's thinking of?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

We were allowed to have it at a hotel, but you were not allowed to stay overnight. Everyone had to return on the bus.

[James]

How could they stop you?

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

We were allowed to have it at a hotel, but you were not allowed to stay overnight. Everyone had to return on the bus.

[Drolefille]

Well first off you'd get in trouble from the advisory board for even planning an overnight. Second off, everyone has to get on the bus (multiple trips) there, and would then have to get on the bus going back. It's possible that you could hide and get a room yourself or something and avoid the bus, but then you're stuck without transportation or even a change of clothes. It's just easier to go back home. Plus we always had them at really nice hotels that you generally didn't want to pay for. And if you got caught, you'd go to standards.

[guardedbystars]

Originally Posted by James

How could they stop you?

You have to sign in when you get on the bus to go to the hotel and then sign in again when you get on the bus to go home