Bride To Be Missing: Foul Play or Cold Feet?

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by preciousjeni
I wouldn't be so disgusted if she hadn't called her parents and made up the story. If she just returned home sheepishly, I would be a little more forgiving.

Yeah.

I suspect if she had done that, this wouldn't be a newstory and no one but her friends and family would be talking about it/give a damn.

[Peaches-n-Cream]

My cousin got married today, and his bride showed up an hour and a half late. As we were waiting, someone said, "I hope that she's didn't go to New Mexico!"

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
My cousin got married today, and his bride showed up an hour and a half late.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by preciousjeni
I wouldn't be so disgusted if she hadn't called her parents and made up the story. If she just returned home sheepishly, I would be a little more forgiving.

I totally agree. I can understand her stress and freaking out, but surely she could have been HONEST about it!! Let's face it, someone having 600 guests and 14 bridesmaids probably also had a wedding planner doing the lion's share of the work, too!


Btw, I did think it was FOWL PLAY!

[Peaches-n-Cream]

Originally posted by DSTCHAOS

I know. It was raining so she had hair trouble. Then the car got lost going to pick her up. Then they got stuck in traffic. Then aliens came along and abducted her to run a few experiments. Then she realized that it was Daylight Savings Time, and we had sprung forward an hour. Then she finally arrived for her wedding.



I was just annoyed because I could have slept an extra hour this morning if I had known.

[AGDee]

Apparently none of you have ever realized you were making a huge mistake three days before your wedding, bawling your eyes out in your apartment because you don't know how to stop this huge $20,000/ 400 guest wedding machine. I wish I'd disappeared, instead of marrying the jerk and putting up with his abuse for a year before filing for divorce and getting nailed big time financially. Some of you assume that all families are functional and would take a wedding cancellation in stride and be supportive. Not all are.

Why, after she went to such lengths to avoid this wedding, would the father say that they would reschedule it? Do you think someone who would say that would have been supportive if you'd told him you wanted to call it off a week before the wedding? How many people are told "Oh, it's just cold feet" and push them to go through with it? If you have any hesitancy at all, you should NOT go through it. If the only way to do that is to disappear, then you disappear. It isn't against the law for an adult to go away without telling anybody. But, don't make up a story about being abducted either. That part was wrong.

Dee

[aephi alum]

I can appreciate the idea of getting cold feet. It's a few days before the wedding, everything is in place, tens of thousands of dollars have been spent, and suddenly you're not sure you want to go through with it. It might seem like the only option is to run away.

What gets me is that she didn't leave a note. All she had to do was write a quick note about needing a little time alone to think things through. Getting married is a big step. Worse, she made up that abduction story. This all shows how irresponsible she is. She's got some serious growing up to do before she even thinks about getting married.

[midwesterngirl]

Originally posted by aephi alum
I can appreciate the idea of getting cold feet. It's a few days before the wedding, everything is in place, tens of thousands of dollars have been spent, and suddenly you're not sure you want to go through with it. It might seem like the only option is to run away.

What gets me is that she didn't leave a note. All she had to do was write a quick note about needing a little time alone to think things through. Getting married is a big step. Worse, she made up that abduction story. This all shows how irresponsible she is. She's got some serious growing up to do before she even thinks about getting married.

I was thinking about this and I had to go back to look and see how old this woman was.I could sympathize with the cold feet,however she is 32 years old.That is old enough to be able to stand up,even to the parents,and voice an opinion about the path she wants her life to take.SHe can't use the argument that she didn't want to hurt or upset people because what she did is far worse than just upsetting them by voicing an opinion. I don't even want to use the word selfish to describe what she did because I think it goes even beyond that.This was callow and callous, insulting,uncaring and immature.

[texas*princess]

Originally posted by aephi alum
What gets me is that she didn't leave a note. All she had to do was write a quick note about needing a little time alone to think things through. Getting married is a big step. Worse, she made up that abduction story. This all shows how irresponsible she is. She's got some serious growing up to do before she even thinks about getting married.

I definitely have to agree with this. It only takes a second to write a quick note to her parents or even fiancee. What was she planning on doing if she wasn't found in New Mexico? Just let her parents and fiancee believe she was abucted and worse probably killed? That's really sad--especially considering all the hundreds or maybe even thousands of women who have disappeared and turned up dead or just never found at all. She probably didn't even think of all the police officers and volunteers who spent so much time looking for her.. just about herself.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by AGDee
Apparently none of you have ever realized you were making a huge mistake three days before your wedding, bawling your eyes out in your apartment because you don't know how to stop this huge $20,000/ 400 guest wedding machine. I wish I'd disappeared, instead of marrying the jerk and putting up with his abuse for a year before filing for divorce and getting nailed big time financially. Some of you assume that all families are functional and would take a wedding cancellation in stride and be supportive. Not all are.

Why, after she went to such lengths to avoid this wedding, would the father say that they would reschedule it? Do you think someone who would say that would have been supportive if you'd told him you wanted to call it off a week before the wedding? How many people are told "Oh, it's just cold feet" and push them to go through with it? If you have any hesitancy at all, you should NOT go through it. If the only way to do that is to disappear, then you disappear. It isn't against the law for an adult to go away without telling anybody. But, don't make up a story about being abducted either. That part was wrong.

Dee

I don't care about her "wedding woes." That's her business. That's life. Mentally and emotionally unstable people (such as this woman) are ill equipped to deal with life's issues without going over the edge and that's their business.

This became headline news because she lied. She should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law without consideration for ANYTHING ELSE that's going on in her looser life.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally posted by lauren1874
If I called my parents and told them I didn't want to marry my fiance, I think they'd be relieved. They don't really want me to marry him anyway, I don't think. My dad would be happy if my sister and I both moved home and lived with them forever. He's actually said that. That's crazy.

The part I'm most f'ed up with is the fact that she lied and made up a crazy story. I know she was stressed and didn't know what to do. But if she bought a ticket before disappearing, like people have said, she was planning this, and that's just nuts!

I don't know. I HAVEN'T been there, because when I was headed down that road before I realized it was time to get out WAY before the wedding. I realized what a mistake I'd be making. It's sick that her dad is talking about rescheduling a wedding when it's clear she wants nothing to do with it -- it looks like all he's thinking about is the financial investment he's made!

I understand what you're saying. But, who cares whether this woman's parents would've been mad or relieved?

The law is very clear to the point where we don't have to care about her relationship with her family and her fiance. We just have to consider the crime at hand and that's what she'll HOPEFULLY be prosecuted for. I support her prosecution 100%.

[RUgreek]

if i was the fiance, I'd dump her. Lovely example of her character and this marriage will work out. Things get too stressful or if the pressure builds up, don't worry honey I won't talk about it... I'll just hop a bus to Vegas and tell you some dirty mexicans kidnapped me. See you in a week!

[ADPi Conniebama]

I don't BLAME her for getting cold feet, even though he seemed like a good guy on tv.

I don't BLAME her for going to Las Vegas, even though she didn't find it necessary to leave a note.

I don't BLAME her for all of the police and time it took from other real abductions, even though that would seem like a forseeable (sp?) event. (Because, that was her family not her)

I think, however, that she should be convicted of, and forgive my lack of legal vocabulary, filing a false police report. (or what ever you call it when she told the New Mexico police that she was kidnapped and spent all night giving them this false story)

She is obviously disturbed. I mean, if I was gonna run away from my wedding I would go to Hawaii or on a cruise or some place pampering like that. NEW MEXICO? I know she originally went to Las Vegas but on a BUS? wierd. But, just because she is crazy doesnt mean she shouldnt have to pay for what SHE did.

Edited for spelling OK OK I CANT SPELL without spell check

[33girl]

Originally posted by DSTCHAOS
Imagine if the social class, race, or gender of this person were different. They wouldn't be able to depict her as "America's sweetheart who is an innocent victim of wedding stress and her own indecisiveness."

Convict this woman and stop wasting time on her. While people were looking for this idiot there are tons of thousands of people who really ARE missing, murdered, and/or exploited.

Amen. Like Cream, I am happy and relieved she is alive, so each and every wedding guest and especially the 14 (WTF??) bridesmaids can personally come to her door and kick her ass.

Yes, her family sounds like a bunch of idiots (this "rescheduling" business)...yes, it's hard to get off the wedding frenzy merry-go-round. But when she allowed this to look like a kidnapping, lots of other people got involved that have never done ANYTHING to her. It's just completely selfish. If this was the only way she could get out of it, fine, but let people know you are safe and left of your own free will. Anyone who can't do that doesn't deserve any sympathy.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by AGDee
Apparently none of you have ever realized you were making a huge mistake three days before your wedding, bawling your eyes out in your apartment because you don't know how to stop this huge $20,000/ 400 guest wedding machine. I wish I'd disappeared, instead of marrying the jerk and putting up with his abuse for a year before filing for divorce and getting nailed big time financially. Some of you assume that all families are functional and would take a wedding cancellation in stride and be supportive. Not all are.

Why, after she went to such lengths to avoid this wedding, would the father say that they would reschedule it? Do you think someone who would say that would have been supportive if you'd told him you wanted to call it off a week before the wedding? How many people are told "Oh, it's just cold feet" and push them to go through with it? If you have any hesitancy at all, you should NOT go through it. If the only way to do that is to disappear, then you disappear. It isn't against the law for an adult to go away without telling anybody. But, don't make up a story about being abducted either. That part was wrong.

Dee

The girl next door to my parents got married the same month I did. At the wedding, her father said to my parents, "Lori asked me to call it all off last night! Can you believe it? I told her that I already had too many deposits down, and she had to do it!"

My parents were stunned. Lori (who is absolutely gorgeous, yet so sweet!) had already survived a form of cancer, and we had also heard her fiance verbally abuse her. If she wanted to call it off, she had good reasons.

I promised myself that day to NEVER force a child of mine to marry, under any circumstances!

But back to this particular scenario - again, honesty would have served her well. Had she been like Lori, and asked her dad to call it off, or sat down with her fiance and asked him to postpone or cancel the wedding, I'd be in her corner. What she did was cowardly and cruel.