Family Expectations

[kddani]

Um, yeah, way to go overboard, you do have too much time on your hands. I did not call her any names, I did not say a SINGLE negative thing. I posed the thought that I found it interesting that she posts some quite racy threads, but when she posts about her culture it seems ultra conservative (i'm going by things that she has said). I may not be an expert on the culture, but to say it's conservative doesn't take much knowledge. I just found this to be an interesting example of a phenomenon in our generation. Not her culture specifically, not anyone's culture specifically. I've said it's even common in my own culture/religion.

Again, I did not say a single negative thing. YOU have twisted my words into something that I did not say or mean.

You're not exactly the king of nice, speaking of glass houses.

ETA: sorry for getting the thread off track. Not going to continue this argument, I've got class to go to. But I just wanted to explain further what I meant instead of a twisted interpretation of someone else

[KSig RC]

Nice try! there's no such thing as a king of nice! According to the internet . . .

Originally posted by kddani
Um, yeah, way to go overboard, you do have too much time on your hands. I did not call her any names, I did not say a SINGLE negative thing. I posed the thought that I found it interesting that she posts some quite racy threads, but when she posts about her culture it seems ultra conservative (i'm going by things that she has said). I may not be an expert on the culture, but to say it's conservative doesn't take much knowledge. I just found this to be an interesting example of a phenomenon in our generation. Not her culture specifically, not anyone's culture specifically. I've said it's even common in my own culture/religion.

Again, I did not say a single negative thing. YOU have twisted my words into something that I did not say or mean.

You're not exactly the king of nice, speaking of glass houses.

ETA: sorry for getting the thread off track. Not going to continue this argument, I've got class to go to. But I just wanted to explain further what I meant instead of a twisted interpretation of someone else

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by kddani
You speak of all of these values and traditions, but then your other posts in D&R are way off base with those values and traditions.

Even if one were to engage in a Scalia-like "strict interpretation" of this statement, I don't think it could be seen as anything but negative.

[jharb]

The racy threads are probably the antithesis of family expectations in my opinion, but I mean that in the nicest way possible. I know my parents would be like if I posted about sex on here or talked about it in front of them.

[chideltjen]

Originally posted by _Opi_
chideltjen,

I don't think it says any where in the Koran or other holy book that a muslim man can influence a non-muslim woman into the religion. She can keep her religion (as long as its one of the religion of the books) and not convert. It depends on what sources your teacher used to come to his/her conclusions.

Now that I think about it, it seemed like more of my professor's reasoning. Or humble opinion. You are probably right about that not being an actual "rule."

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by BabyP
no my man is not muslim - he is Danish/Porteguese like 4th or 5th generation American though. But he said if we do a wedding back home, he would be okay to have it the muslim way. but if we do it here it will be in a garden or in a church - by the way he is a CATHOLIC. I dont know why i end up dating many catholics. OH well, My family back home know he is "American" and they dont care as long as we have wedding back home too and he makes hella good money LOL...... Iran doesnt look down on interracial marriages. Yes technically a muslim woman cant marry a muslim man. A muslim man can marry anyone of the "book" like the bible, torah, etc. cuz they may convert or raise their children muslim. well catholics used to be prohibited to marry non catholic, just find a church or priest that would marry you. Some catholics church you pay them they dont care some require you to be baptised and do a little counseling, etc. But that is a bridge we will cross when we get into it. I am not going to convert into Catholicism. but there is no ring, no engagment or anything, so i think its too soon to talk about all this but unfortunately in ethnic cultures we have to make sure there is no clash cuz if there is then you have to cut the person loose cuz family/traditions/religion are more important (for me).

Catholics:

A) Can marry outside of their religion
B) Can marry outside of their religion in the church
C) Are required to attend pre-cana if they are getting married by a priest. Pre-cana varies from church to church.
D) Are sometimes required to pledge to raise any potential children as Catholic.