Relationship w/o sex? - Page 3

neosoul · #31 10-06-2006, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by #3 Tsunami

[COLOR=blue]Reality......REALITY!!!!
Yeah you can have a relationship without sex...
If you’re living in 1952 next to leave it to Beaver.

I think they were freaky back in them days too, they just didn't have a Sex in The City to expose it

starang21 · #32 10-06-2006, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by nikki1920

THANK YOU!!!

Sex IS great, don't get me wrong. The idea of sex is overrated. The ACT of sex is one of God's greatest creations. Does that make sense?

But if two people are BOTH attracted to each other, then yes, it's probably almost impossible to NOT have sex.

Who's great question was this, anyway? lol..

Sex/making love = same difference to me. I don't think there is a difference between making love and the other thing, except intensity and amount of curse words and wether or not my perm is sweated out or my hair is just messed up a bit.

exploring a woman's body with the tools i've been given will NEVER be overrated

nikki1920 · #33 10-10-2006, 02:27 PM

I hate you... lol....

tools? plural?

starang21 · #34 10-10-2006, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by nikki1920

I hate you... lol....

tools? plural?

i mean what man doesn't use what he's been blessed with when pleasing a woman.

gotta be creative.

thesweetestone · #35 10-11-2006, 02:38 AM

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Originally Posted by starang21

exploring a woman's body with the tools i've been given will NEVER be overrated

TRSimon · #36 10-12-2006, 09:44 PM

It's possible. Most MEN respect what they have to work for. Note that I said MEN not boys. Cause boys are all upset cause they don't get any free dairy goods

KAY10 · #37 10-14-2006, 01:41 AM

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Originally Posted by #3 Tsunami

Reality......REALITY!!!!
Yeah you can have a relationship without sex...
If you’re living in 1952 next to leave it to Beaver.
Truth is, it's 2006, and sex before marriage or sex in a relationship that hasn't had time to flourish is about as common as hotdog rolls on a fat man's neck. Who is really to blame? Or should I say who is really ready for whom. If you can't see yourself having sex so soon, or before marriage, you shouldn't even worry about having a relationship, cause as horrible as it sounds, truth is most people expect to have sex in a relationship. Not just the guys, girls get horny too. If you can't see yourself in a relationship without sex, then you need to find yourself someone that is as sexual as you are... All this, trying to pair up with people who are obviously not compatible, then turning around and complaining isn't going to work. And I hate to say it, but there are a lot of "nice" guys out there not concerned with sex who get overlooked cause they don't look a certain way, or act a certain way and... You know the rest.

I couldn't have put it a better way. I couldn't agree with you more. If a couple can agree on no sex before marriage then that's kool. I've never heard of a couple doing that though. I think sex with the same woman gets played out though. It's never as fresh as it is in the beginning of the relationship.

rythemgrl · #38 11-17-2006, 08:02 PM

its true, men are pigs

PrettyBoy · #39 11-18-2006, 01:40 AM

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Originally Posted by rythemgrl

its true, men are pigs

That's not true. What makes you think this?

neosoul · #40 11-18-2006, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by rythemgrl

its true, men are pigs

ROTFL... real talk... womyn folks can be pigs too

delph998 · #41 11-18-2006, 09:26 PM

^^^If not worse. Women are something else.

But to to answer the question: Yes, do I believe that unmarried couples can have a relationship without marriage.

Now, the confession: I've been celibate for over two years and I am very sexual!!

Don't get me wrong...it's hard out there for a sista.

I've been single for a while and choose not to have casual sex, but aside from that, when I do get in a relationship, he and I will have a serious conversation about sex because I still don't want to just hop in the bed.

As someone said in a previous post, there are too many people loosely having sex with people and I want to make sure that this is a serious relationship before I give the goods. And my goods are good!

QuietStorm1914 · #42 11-20-2006, 08:55 AM

Ok, maybe it's just me.. but doesn't a relationship without sex = friendship? What's the difference between the two? Does the title of having a relationship come with coochie coupons? The hope and/or promise of sex in the future?

Another thought, what if you and the person have decided to be celibate together, and you can't satisfy each other sexually once you are married. Then what? Based on that thought, I think it could be accomplished within a certain timeframe. There probably are a few out there that would wait until marriage without having sex. I just think that people would want to know what they are getting into in the sex department, b/c if you decide to wait or give it up on the first day... sex is an important part of a relationship. The friendship, communication, and all of that is cool... but I really believe that sex can and will make or break a relationship. (Whatever the definition of that is.)

These are just thoughts that made me go hmmmm as I was reading through the thread.

laylo · #43 11-20-2006, 03:11 PM

^ In my experience (a Christian one) dating/courting is a kind of friendship, but the purpose of it is to explore possible marriage partners or prepare people for doing that. A lot of people think that if you don't "test drive", you might end up married to a bad sex partner, but in reality sex is mostly mental and not about skill. Your feelings about someone are more likely to determine whether sex is good. And statistics show that those who are celibate before marriage have more satisfying sex lives than those who aren't.

delph998 · #44 11-20-2006, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by laylo

statistics show that those who are celibate before marriage have more satisfying sex lives than those who aren't.

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Yay for me!

On a serious note, I am doing this for spiritual reasons. Sex complicates relationships so much. And Quietstorm, if you really believe that relationships without sex is friendship, well...that concerns me a bit. But I believe that it will all work out in the end because I serve an awesome God.

QuietStorm1914 · #45 11-23-2006, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by delph998

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Yay for me!

On a serious note, I am doing this for spiritual reasons. Sex complicates relationships so much. And Quietstorm, if you really believe that relationships without sex is friendship, well...that concerns me a bit. But I believe that it will all work out in the end because I serve an awesome God.

Yes I know the difference, I was far from serious.