Wedding help...favors!

[Taualumna]

In Chinese culture, chopsticks are often given to guests because the Chinese words for chopsticks (or at least the Cantonese words) are homonymous with the words for having a baby quickly. What I don't get is why the GUESTS are the ones getting the chopsticks and not the actual couple!

Fye gee=Chopsticks in Cantonese

Fye also means fast or quick

gee can also mean baby

[Munchkin03]

When my sister was helping out with a friend's wedding, they made Hershey's Kiss rosebuds. You put two Kisses end to end and wrap them in red cellophane, and you can attach them to stems (real or artificial). They were nice, but not overstated; inexpensive, but not tacky.

I'm going to be such a laid-back bride, none of this favor stuff excites me.

[MareImbrium]

Originally posted by Taualumna
In Chinese culture, chopsticks are often given to guests because the Chinese words for chopsticks (or at least the Cantonese words) are homonymous with the words for having a baby quickly. What I don't get is why the GUESTS are the ones getting the chopsticks and not the actual couple!

I don't know. To be unique maybe or maybe it means something else entirely in the Korean culture, altho the Chinese and Koreans share a lot of the same characteristics.

[honeychile]

I just love the seed idea! It can be done very inexpensively yet chic!

Also, please, please, please include a map.

Instead of noting where you're registered (a major etiquette faux pas!), you can put "Any questions? Please call (trusted friend) at (her number)!"


And on a different note: I'm re-reading a book (because, deep in my heart, I really feel that a documentary should be done on it!) about a White Russian Princess during WWII. She went to the wedding of Kostantin of Bavaria, and it was done in Old World Aristocratic style. The favor was a souvenir menu, elegantly printed with the Bride & Groom's name at the top, the wedding party, then the wedding supper. It was obviously done quite well, because they each passed their menu around to be autographed by the other guests. I don't know if it would work here, but it sounded rather elegant to me!

[AOII*Azra-elle]

I work at JoAnns and we get people in wanting ideas that are cheap and easy to do. Alot of them have already been listed here! There is also a book you can find by Wilton's and it has TONS of ideas in it. Or you could visit their website at: http://www.wilton.com/ if you are still deciding. The book has things for different times of the year. Just a thought! Good luck and congrats!

[jh124]

I'm from California, DH is from Kansas, we live in Washington DC area. We didn't do favors. Neither we, nor our families, thought it was tacky that we didn't do them.

I've been to lots of weddings. I've gotten my seeds, cameras, picture frames, chocolate, bubbles, etc. The best stuff is something you can eat. The rest is just stuff that I feel bad throwing away but has no practicle use in my life.

Save the $100 in favors. Buy yourself a nice dinner on your honeymoon.

Or, donate the $100 to a charity with a list of the names of your guests. I went to a wedding that did that and I thought it was pretty classy.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by jh124

Or, donate the $100 to a charity with a list of the names of your guests. I went to a wedding that did that and I thought it was pretty classy.

Also a very classy idea!

[ISUKappa]

We did personalized CDs of some of our favorite songs and had a lot of favorable comments on them. Slightly time-consuming (we did 150) but worth it. I also like the flowers idea and the donations to charity. I've been to weddings where both are done. Edible favors are also very good--especially if they're at the table or where the seating cards are. Some people have to wait a long time before they get their food, and any little thing helps (especially if there's an open bar--but that's a whole 'nother topic).

I'm on the side of "don't include registry info with the invite." I post on a wedding board and many a catfight has been started with that topic. Just Say No. Though, I did put our wedding website URL on the map insert (along with numbers and descriptions of the hotel blocks) and then had our registry info on our website. That seemed a little more acceptable to me. It wasn't as if we were begging for presents, but people knew where to go if they wanted.

[juniorgrrl]

Originally posted by ISUKappa


I'm on the side of "don't include registry info with the invite." I post on a wedding board and many a catfight has been started with that topic. Just Say No.

Hehe..ultimatewedding or theknot?

Down here, it would be considered a HUGE faux pas to include registry information in the invitations. I don't even think they should go in the shower invitations. People will find out, somehow. I had a friend get married that I hadn't seen in awhile; I took 15 minutes and checked all the major department stores and found her registry easily.

We're thinking we may skip favors for my wedding. It's not really expected down here. If anything, it might be a little box of cake to take home. Edible is good. People dont' need another knicknack to deal with.

I like the CD idea, although they're not quite legal, even if you own all the CDs that the mp3s came from. But that's another issue...

Are some of you girls on the wedding messageboards? (knot, ultimate wedding, wedding channel, etc.?) what are your screennames over there.. it would be neat if we knew we were posting to one another!

I was one of those who argued that registry cards are not evil in a thread like that. We'll probably do them, only because nearly everyone attending, participating, or orchestrating our wedding is coming from out of state... there will be no showers or anything like that for information to spread... the "standard stores" vary greatly from one part of the States to another... and I'd hate to have people randomly calling one another cross-country to see if they know where we're registered. (ie. grandfather in NJ calls my mother in Arizona... she's not home, so they call my brother in Green Bay (who's standing up for us), but I'm sure even if I told him, he wouldn't have a clue!... and that's just family!)

If anyone is that offended by it, well, they don't have to buy us a gift or come if they don't want to. All a registry card is is a time-saving device to be used if someone wants to buy you a gift, not a statement saying You Must buy me a gift, and it MUST be from one of these three stores.

But, as with everything else, everyone has their own opinion, and if there are two things we've learned on GC... someone will always be offended by something, and you'll never change anyone's mind

[juniorgrrl]

Originally posted by Ginger
Are some of you girls on the wedding messageboards? (knot, ultimate wedding, wedding channel, etc.?) what are your screennames over there.. it would be neat if we knew we were posting to one another!

I was one of those who argued that registry cards are not evil in a thread like that. We'll probably do them, only because nearly everyone attending, participating, or orchestrating our wedding is coming from out of state... there will be no showers or anything like that for information to spread... the "standard stores" vary greatly from one part of the States to another... and I'd hate to have people randomly calling one another cross-country to see if they know where we're registered. (ie. grandfather in NJ calls my mother in Arizona... she's not home, so they call my brother in Green Bay (who's standing up for us), but I'm sure even if I told him, he wouldn't have a clue!... and that's just family!)

If anyone is that offended by it, well, they don't have to buy us a gift or come if they don't want to. All a registry card is is a time-saving device to be used if someone wants to buy you a gift, not a statement saying You Must buy me a gift, and it MUST be from one of these three stores.

But, as with everything else, everyone has their own opinion, and if there are two things we've learned on GC... someone will always be offended by something, and you'll never change anyone's mind

Since all of my family and my FI's family is within a 90 mile radius of the wedding, there's no need for registry cards. I can see how it would be different when everyone is SO spread out.

It also has to do with your area of the country. Down here, its either an open bar or none at all. People would be very offended to get a registry card in an invitation. That's the south for ya'

I post some on ultimatewedding, but not a lot. I'm on the New Orleans board for TheKnot. WeddingChannel is absurdly slow for me, so I end up skipping it a lot.

I'm in wedding overload mode right now...why I keep checking the boards, I have no frickin' clue!

[ISUKappa]

I'm a firm devotee to weddingchannel. It is outrageously slow sometimes, but I've been there for almost two years, so I'm not going to stop now. I like it because there's more than just wedding stuff, there's general chat and newlywed and family planning. And though it has its share of drama, it's far less than I've seen at UW or theknot. I'm kkgbride over there.

[Jill1228]

I love the wedding channel! I have been married for over 2 years and I am still over there! I used to post in the Vegas bride threads all the time. I still post there.


I am Jill121101 over there

Originally posted by ISUKappa
I'm a firm devotee to weddingchannel. It is outrageously slow sometimes, but I've been there for almost two years, so I'm not going to stop now. I like it because there's more than just wedding stuff, there's general chat and newlywed and family planning. And though it has its share of drama, it's far less than I've seen at UW or theknot. I'm kkgbride over there.

[ISUKappa]

originally posted by Ginger
that's Wisconsin for ya. I think the standard response to a registry card here is "whew! now I don't have to call all those people!" It wouldn't occurr to most people here to be offended.

I guess I don't have a problem when you know all your guests and you know the people honestly won't care about registry cards, but if you're in doubt, at all, I would just not do it.

originally posted by Jill1228
I am Jill121101 over there

I thought I recognized your picture from the bridesmaids thread! I still post, but I'm not as vocal as I was when I was planning. I mainly stick to the Newlywed, NWCC and FP boards.

[jh124]

Hi ladies! I'm also on the weddingchannel and I know the both of you!!! I am, of course, jh124 Easier to remember who I am that way.