Virgins! - Page 3

lovelyivy84 · #31 10-11-2003, 11:12 AM

Virgins aren't good or bad, they just take themselves waaaay too seriously.

sigmagrrl · #32 10-11-2003, 11:35 AM

There is an atmosphere in America that is ripe with expectations of/commentary on sexual experience and openness. Men and women who have held onto their virginity may feel their choice to remain abstinent is under attack, and that there is something wrong with them for choosing not to "surrender" to this prevalant notion that participating in sexual activity is a sign of emotional maturity and a stepping stone to social acceptance...

I know I did...

There's nothing wrong with being proud of it....It's when it's held up as some sort of proof of moral superiority that it can become a bit grating to some...

aephi alum · #33 10-11-2003, 12:19 PM

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Originally posted by PM_Mama00
I think it's great that some people wana save themselves for marriage. Seriously tho, what if their husband ends up having some massive...umm... twig? We're talkin like long and fat. Sorry to be so detailish but really. I think if I were a virgin and my new husbands twig and berries looked more like a bowling pin and bowling balls, I'd scream and run out the door.

LMAO... you have such a way with words

smiley21 · #34 10-11-2003, 12:23 PM

there is a group of church people here in town that have this kind of abstinence club. (i think this club is outside of town too). anyway, they have this shirt that says 'sex symbol' and under it is a picture of a bride and groom's wedding rings. i get the meaning. but sometimes it makes me roll my eyes. i dont think there is a need to put it constant display. i know that is what they believe and far be it from me to stop them. but well, it still kinda annoys me. I wouldnt want to put myself out there like that. but then again there are tons of shirts that display sexuality. so i guess the abstinence shirt isnt so bad after all.

CC1GC · #35 10-11-2003, 12:33 PM

According to the Romaniac bellmen i work with, in those european countries you could take a girl out for a good meal and a nice bottle of wine and sex is guaranteed. Thank you very much, have a nice day - one full transaction.

cashmoney · #36 10-11-2003, 12:50 PM

Being a young child and introduced to music at an early stage, I soon lost my virginity. No regrets, I'm really good in bed. I got the magic stick.

aephi alum · #37 10-11-2003, 01:04 PM

There's a lot of pressure for people - especially women - to remain virgins. It's a precious gift, once you give it up you can never recover it, yada yada yada.

I have no problem with virgins - except the ones that are in-your-face about it - you know, "I'm a virgin, I'm never going to have sex until I'm married, therefore I'm going to heaven. You had premarital sex? Then you're damned to hell."

I've always felt that, if you have sex with someone, you should have some sort of emotional and spiritual connection with them first... not just for your first-ever sexual encounter, but for every single one. Sometimes being a virgin just means you haven't met someone yet with whom you feel that connection.

bethany1982 · #38 10-11-2003, 01:15 PM

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Originally posted by aephi alum
There's a lot of pressure for people - especially women - to remain virgins. It's a precious gift, once you give it up you can never recover it, yada yada yada.

I have no problem with virgins - except the ones that are in-your-face about it - you know, "I'm a virgin, I'm never going to have sex until I'm married, therefore I'm going to heaven. You had premarital sex? Then you're damned to hell."

I've always felt that, if you have sex with someone, you should have some sort of emotional and spiritual connection with them first... not just for your first-ever sexual encounter, but for every single one. Sometimes being a virgin just means you haven't met someone yet with whom you feel that connection.

Excellent post. I agree about the pressure, but I think there is pressure on both sides. I've seen girls made fun of because of their desire to remain a virgin until they found the connection you speak of. I know a few people into the church abstinence thing and none of them have ever told me I'm going to hell because I'm not a virgin. I think those groups may be good for some people, I don’t know. As far as the guys who have posted with negative remarks about virgin girls on this thread, I'll bet most of them wouldn't turn down the chance to be someone's first. Unless of course, they themselves really have no experience and would be afraid they might destroy their own image. Everyone has choices to make. I made mine and am comfortable with it.

cashmoney · #39 10-11-2003, 01:36 PM

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Originally posted by bethany1982
As far as the guys who have posted with negative remarks about virgin girls on this thread, I'll bet most of them wouldn't turn down the chance to be someone's first.

I don't know about that. On one hand fresh meat is good, but at the same time we all know virgins go crazy once they loose it and have that "we'll be together forever" mentality. I don't know about the other guys, but thats just too much for Cashmoney to deal with. When I was younger it was ok, now that I'm older that is the last thing I want to deal with. Besides, I'm a dirty mofo.

bethany1982 · #40 10-11-2003, 01:38 PM

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Originally posted by cashmoney
I don't know about that. On one hand fresh meat is good, but at the same time we all know virgins go crazy once they loose it and have that "we'll be together forever" mentality. I don't know about the other guys, but thats just too much for Cashmoney to deal with. When I was younger it was ok, now that I'm older that is the last thing I want to deal with. Besides, I'm a dirty mofo.

I did say most. Perhaps I'm wrong. If it does not fit you, that's cool, you dirty mofo... lol.

cashmoney · #41 10-11-2003, 01:40 PM

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Originally posted by bethany1982
I did say most. Perhaps I'm wrong. If it does not fit you, that's cool, you dirty mofo... lol.

lol...I always try to dodge to sexual history talk.

MTSUGURL · #42 10-11-2003, 03:01 PM

Wow, talk about generalizing... it's all over this thread.

I am an absitinence teacher for the crisis pregnancy center in my county, and I thank God ever day that some teenagers are signing those little pieces of paper that some of you are rolling your eyes at. That commitment has kept a lot of these kids out of situations that would've resulted in broken hearts, disease, pregnancy, etc. If you hate it so much when people ridicule you for your choices, why are you belittling and ridiculing theirs?

PM_Mama00 · #43 10-11-2003, 03:07 PM

I think it's more of a flaunting kinda thing. My opinion is hey man, have sex when you're ready. I don't wana hear a virgin preaching that I'm horrible for givin it up, and I'm sure he/she doesn't wana hear my preaching that I had some great sex last nite.

sigmagrrl · #44 10-11-2003, 03:30 PM

Could it be that, for some, it's not that the virgins are annoying you, but reminding you of something you no longer have?? Maybe there's some guilt there mixed with jealousy....

YOU USED IN GENERAL SENSE, NOT ADDRESSING ANYONE PERSONALLY (stated before anyone goes into a tizzy)....

Jill1228 · #45 10-11-2003, 03:37 PM

You and I don't agree much but we sure as heck agree on this issue. Virgin is NOT a dirty word. I am NOT going to judge someone because they are a virgin. One the same token do NOT pass judgement on me and say I am going to hell for not being a virgin (no I was NOT a virgin when I got married)

I also give MTSU girl mad props for being an abstinence teacher. I was a late bloomer and seeing friends get their hearts broken and getting pregnant was enough scare the hell outta me when I was in high school! Kept my pants on!

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Originally posted by bethany1982
Excellent post. I agree about the pressure, but I think there is pressure on both sides. I've seen girls made fun of because of their desire to remain a virgin until they found the connection you speak of. I know a few people into the church abstinence thing and none of them have ever told me I'm going to hell because I'm not a virgin. I think those groups may be good for some people, I don’t know. As far as the guys who have posted with negative remarks about virgin girls on this thread, I'll bet most of them wouldn't turn down the chance to be someone's first. Unless of course, they themselves really have no experience and would be afraid they might destroy their own image. Everyone has choices to make. I made mine and am comfortable with it.