Tips for dating a navy man?

[KillarneyRose]

Originally posted by DGqueen17
Watch out for those mids...they sure look nice but they can bite!

Only if you ask nicely

[DGqueen17]

Originally posted by KillarneyRose
Only if you ask nicely

Haha!

[KillarneyRose]

Hey kddani and AuroraBorealis, how are things going with your Navy boys these days?

[aurora_borealis]

Originally posted by KillarneyRose
Hey kddani and AuroraBorealis, how are things going with your Navy boys these days?

I'll send you a PM about it (I keep meaning to).

Bill is still my main man!

[winneythepooh7]

My last serious relationship was with a guy that was initially in the Navy. While it was just my experience, and relationships are obviously different for everyone and you need to make your own choices, I feel that the main reason our relationship didn't work out was because of his being away a lot so much in the beginning cuz of the military that we didn't get to know each other and we got caught up in the whole romanticness of it all. When things ended I honestly took this the hardest of any break up I have ever encountered. I feel that the reason I felt this way was because I put so much into the relationship while he was away and felt that if we were able to get through the seperation, we could get through anything. That was not the case though. I also know a lot of military people and they are all divorced. They all got married young and now are divorced and even some of them have kids. It is a lot to take on but if you are ready to deal with that I say go for it.

[DZPrincess2003]

I met my ex-husband while he was at the Naval Academy. I was going to Washington College nearby. I'm from Annapolis and swore I would never date a mid. They are the biggest group of either huge dorks or cocky asses. My parents have always sponsored a mid for as long as I can remember. (side sad note.... one of our mids died a few years ago when he fell out his dorm window at the Academy. It was very sad and we miss John Paul very much.) Anyways.... I met and fell for my mid just in time for the Ring Dance. Dating a mid sucks butt big time. I couldn't ever call him, had to wait for him to call me. I'd drive the 2 hours from school for a date with him (it was easy being from Annapolis I could just stay the night at my parents house) only to find out that someone in his company got in trouble and he couldn't go out because they were all being forced to stay in. And curfews?! Don't even get me started on curfews for adults. That sucked especially since I was in college and could come and go as I pleased. And the fact they are allotted only a certain number of weekends sucked butt as well. The funniest part though is I know the guys down in the office of the dorm knew me by name because we'd break up at least once a month and I'd haul all of his shit to the office in a box and they'd have to call him down to get it. Then he'd call me and tell me the guys in the office would just smile and be like, "that time of the month again, huh?" LOL I hated all the stupid dances especially after finding out that they gave each other stupid awards for who had the hottest and ugliest dates.

Anyways.... we ended up getting married after he graduated because he was moving to Quantico for Basic School (he went Marine) and I refused to move as a girlfriend. BIG MISTAKE. We married too young and before I could really understand what the military is actually like. I am definitely not cut out for being alone. I need constant attention.

So don't ask now that I'm divorced from a Marine, why on earth am I dating an Air Force guy?!

[Honeykiss1974]

Whew, some of these stories helps me to appreciate that my current SO is no longer in the military (Spec Ops/Navy Seal).

Good luck and if its meant to be, both of you will find a way to make it happen.

[GMUBunny]

Since the breakup of the former Mr. Bunny and myself a while back, I have started to s-l-o-w-l-y get back out there and see what I was missing. I grew up in a Marine Corps family, in a Navy town... all I've ever known is military men. Well, I've met a Navy guy who's stationed on the USS Iwo Jima [LHD 7]. They're heading out to sea for 2 1/2 weeks starting Monday. We've hung out and watched movies, gotten dinner together, stuff like that. It's nice to be able to talk to someone and not feel the pressure of a serious relationship. We plan to email back and forth while he's gone, and we've already made dinner plans for when he gets back.

I'm kind of excited about this, cuz I'm finally seeing what you guys had said when I was having my problems with the former Mr. Bunny- when you find someone who really cares about who you are as a person, you kinda go "so THIS is what it's supposed to feel like!" I'm happy now

[cashmoney]

Originally posted by GMUBunny
Since the breakup of the former Mr. Bunny and myself a while back, I have started to s-l-o-w-l-y get back out there and see what I was missing. I grew up in a Marine Corps family, in a Navy town... all I've ever known is military men. Well, I've met a Navy guy who's stationed on the USS Iwo Jima [LHD 7]. They're heading out to sea for 2 1/2 weeks starting Monday. We've hung out and watched movies, gotten dinner together, stuff like that. It's nice to be able to talk to someone and not feel the pressure of a serious relationship. We plan to email back and forth while he's gone, and we've already made dinner plans for when he gets back.

I'm kind of excited about this, cuz I'm finally seeing what you guys had said when I was having my problems with the former Mr. Bunny- when you find someone who really cares about who you are as a person, you kinda go "so THIS is what it's supposed to feel like!" I'm happy now

I thought you're a lesbian?

[LXAAlum]

Originally posted by cashmoney
Fuck all this Navy shit, if I was going to be in the military I'd join the Marine Core.

Conveniently forgetting the fact the Marine Corps is part of the Navy I see....of course, I always like this march cadence we had:

I don't know but it's been said
Air Force wings are made of lead

I don't know but I've been told
Navy wings are made of Gold

As far as dating a Naval Officer Nuc, coming from my experience as an enlisted puke snipe.....

If nothing else, keep communicating with him, just to ensure he gets messages. Mail was a lifeline while at sea. Though on subs I think it is more difficult and you are limited in message length, send something every opportunity you can. It's a morale booster that can't be calculated!

Even if you don't think it'll go anywhere, just send friendly hello messages - care packages always great (but I don't think subs take 'em, since they get underway and stay hidden for so long).

And yes, Boomers were "Chicken of the Sea" to us, but then, they always said "there are two types of ships in the Navy: subs, and TARGETS"

[GMUBunny]

Originally posted by cashmoney
I thought you're a lesbian?

WTF?!?!?! I never said I was a lesbian!!!! I just posted in defense of 110% genuine bisexual women in the "Girls Who Are Trendy Bisexual" thread. Show me where I said I was a lesbian!!!!

Sheesh...

[cashmoney]

My bad.

[GMUBunny]

You so owe me for that...

[Boodleboy322]

I did my tour for 4 years and got out. I had a blast but it really was tough on the relationships. The best advice I can give you is if both of you are really into each other then you'll find a way to make it work. Remember that, "Distance is to Love as Wind is to Fire". In other words, if the Wind is weak it will make the fire go out but if it is strong then it will make the Fire grow.

[GMUBunny]

I'm pretty sure this has already been covered, but I'm too lazy to read through the thread and whatnot, so here's my $.02 anyway....

The biggest thing I find annoying about a lot of women who date Navy men is that they piss and moan when their guys are gone. Um, HELLO you chose the package deal when you wanted to be with this guy. There is no right for you to be complaining on that level. Yes, there are days when it sucks because they're gone occasionally for a week or so, or if you're unlucky they go on cruise for 6-8 months. But, if you really want things to work and you care about that man, suck it up and find something productive to do with your time. And by all means, SEND THEM PACKAGES COVERED WITH CHEESY STICKERS AND SUCH. They love that shit. Yeah, they might get crap from their friends, but those other guys are just jealous that they aren't getting mail.

I'm fortunate that Mr. Bunny and I met after they got back from their Med cruise about a month ago and he never has to go back out to sea again like that (unless some unforeseen freak accident happens... God help us all if it does). I got lucky with that and I can deal with him having duty and watch and being gone for a few days at a time. Having that time apart is good for us, and we appreciate the days that we do get to spend together. It takes a different breed of woman to date a military man. Not everyone can do it.

**side note: I know waaaaay too many guys whose wedding rings are sitting in the bottom of the ocean, off the coast of some island in the Med because their wives started fights over email and whatnot for petty shit and they ended up screwing themselves over because "it just couldn't wait." One of my closest friend's wives emailed him telling him she wanted a divorce. Now that one was a shocker to me, but apparently it happens all the time. These guys don't have it easy and they just want to come home, so unless it's vitally important, don't pick arguments with them while they're gone. And never say you want to end the relationship over email, cuz half the time when the guy gets back the girl changes her mind, but it's too late because he's had ample time to think about it in the middle of the nowhere and get over her. Okay, I'm stepping off my soapbox now.**