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[valkyrie]

Originally posted by ADPi Conniebama
NO, I wouldnt think bad of all Phi Mu's just because I disagree with you, that would be rediculous, but, if a Phi Mu were rude to me for no known reason I might not give any other Phi Mu a chance to do that too me, again. (Using phi mu because of thread starter)

So if one guy screwed you over, would you never date a guy again because then he'd have the chance to do the same thing?

I'm kind of surprised by what I wrote earlier in this thread, even though it was years ago.

[ADPi Conniebama]

No, I think having one man represent his entire sex concerning relationships may be too big of a group to "judge."

But, (and this is just me) If I were dating (I am married), a man from Tennessee or something and he did me wrong, I would hesitate to jump into a relationship with another man from Tennessee. I mean this theory is acceptable to a point.

Edited to add something to this.

OH AND I know drivers from Tennessee have been poorly represented in Huntsville, AL. It always amazes me that alot of the times a person pulls out infront of me or runs a red light or something they have a Tennessee Tag.

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by valkyrie
So if one guy screwed you over, would you never date a guy again because then he'd have the chance to do the same thing?

I'm kind of surprised by what I wrote earlier in this thread, even though it was years ago.

Haha, I was too. I was like, VALKYRIE WROTE THAT? And then I realized it was three years ago.

I think the majority of people start out their Greek experience wanting to represent their organizations as best as they can, and don't want to promote negative stereotypes. I used to do this all the time, to the point where when I knew I was representing my organization, I would bend over backwards to accomodate people. If I bumped into a girl while wearing my letter sweatshirt, I would apologize profusely so that she wouldn't go over to her friends and say, "That bitchy sorority girl just pushed me." I was the kind of girl who would take her letters off before walking into class late. That kind of thing.

However, there comes a point somewhere along the line where you realize that the majority of people who hate Greeks are going to hate them no matter how you act. The people who are out looking for an excuse to hate all ADPis will do it whether or not they have a good reason. There were professors who thought I was a ditz just because I wore letters to class, even when I was doing well on all the tests and volunteering good answers to questions in class. And honestly, there comes a point where you realize that to most outsiders, your behavior really DOESN'T reflect on your organization. If you make a negative impression on them, that's exactly what they expected. If you make a positive impression on them, they will say, "Oh, but you're not like the rest of them." It takes positive impressions on a massive scale in order to change any one given person's mind.

And honestly, anyone who lets one person change their opinion of an entire group is an idiot anyway.

[PM_Mama00]

Originally posted by PM_Mama00


With that note: I"m goin away for a few days. Try not to stir the crappy dung-flung pot too much while I'm gone!

WTF does that mean? I really REALLY hope I was quoting someone else and didn't come up with that on my own.