Rethinking rushing due to Orientation - Page 3

TaraHopeful · #31 07-16-2002, 04:36 PM

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Originally posted by pbear19
The last thing that you would want is to not even try and then regret it.

YES! That's exactly what i'm thinking right now. The only drawback is that now (as of last night) my mom told me that she doesn't see the importance and neccessity of Greek life, thus she's not very supportive. This s hurting me right now and i'm torn wether to heed to her wishes or just show her that "i'm a big girl now" and i can make my own choices. Ugh, i swear my life has been nothing but sheer drama for the past year.....

Peaches-n-Cream · #32 07-16-2002, 04:57 PM

Tara,
I'll let you know something that it took me a while to figure out. At one time or another, everyone is insecure. As you have discovered, freshman year and recruitment are two of those times. People behave very differently during stressful, new experiences. This might explain the type of behavior you have seen demonstrated. Don't allow the behavior of other people to change your feelings about greeklife. Go into recruitment with an open mind, put your best foot forward, and enjoy yourself. Good luck!

As for your mother, give her all the information about how many successful women are in sororities. Show her the NPC website and the websites of greeklife at your college and their chapters. I suggest that you save some money so you can pay your way.

justamom · #33 07-16-2002, 05:12 PM

cream wrote As for your mother, give her all the information about how many successful women are in sororities. Show her the NPC website and the websites of greeklife at your college and their chapters. I suggest that you save some money so you can pay your way. More excellent advice!

Mention the scholastic part of Greek life and how it would be especially beneficial to you. You will be meeting women who actually graduate from college, have a GPA to maintain and associating with leaders on the campus. All that should warm a mother's heart!

If they have designated study hours, mention that too!

TaraHopeful · #34 07-16-2002, 05:24 PM

Ya i think she is just scared that me, her baby, last one off to college and (i like to think) favorite child ;-) ), is off to college. She has a frame of mind that soroities are the spawn of satan...not really..i tend to exaggerate, and hat all that they are is drinking. She still thinks all of this even though she attended the parents meeting for greek life.

orchid2 · #35 07-16-2002, 07:39 PM

Tara,

My mom was less than thrilled when I let her know I was interested in sororities. There are still so many stereotypes floating around, and at first she thought that greek orgs were no more than "school sponsored drinking clubs" (which is SO far from the truth!). But, it was my decision, and if a sorority was what I needed to complete my college experience... she understood.
Your mom realizes that you're an adult now, and although she may not particularly endorse the idea of going greek, this is one of the first of many decisions you are going to be making in the years to come. Chances are, once you get into it, she will too, right along with you.
My mom laughed and cried with me throughout rush, and even printed out my GC rush story to show to her friends. She knows how much my sorority means to me, that I have made the best friends of my life. This past year it has been kind of like a support system, a home away from home. Since you're going to school so far away from home, maybe you should tell her you need something like that.
Is she worried about "social hour" cutting into study time?? We have to maintain a certain GPA in order to be in good standing with our chapter (I think that's pretty standard for ANY sorority... am I right, ladies?), and there are sisters from almost every major who are more than happy to help you if you're struggling in a particular area. It's a win-win situation, either way.
I hope things start looking up for yall. Don't be afraid to rush!!!

TaraHopeful · #36 07-17-2002, 05:18 PM

OK, i had a long discussion with my mom last night about rush and sororities in general. I explained to her all of the positive things that sororities and sisterhood do for a person and how i feel like i need to do it. So she said "go for it" and she'd be right behind me everystep of the way if i needed her. So i suppose that makes it official, i'm going to rush. Yay! So now i'm relieved b/c i feel like i'm not gonig against my mom's wishes...because guilt is the last thing i'll need to add to my emotions come rush week. Well, thannk you all for your help, you're some of the best people i have come to know.
Sincerely~Tara

LeslieAGD · #37 07-18-2002, 10:53 AM

Tara, we're all glad to hear it...and we can't wait to hear your recruitment story!

theta sig agd · #38 07-20-2002, 05:08 AM

Please Keep us Posted!!!!!!! We want to hear your step by step recruitment stories!!! I hope you are excited, and have lots of fun!

TaraHopeful · #39 07-20-2002, 04:00 PM

I'll be sure to keep you all posted. I move into the dorms August 17th and i think rush starts the 18th....so i've got a little ways to go, but i'm still extatic (sp?). I finally found some recs for ADPi and ZTA, but i really need one for ChiO so hopefully all will fall into place by the 17th. Thanx for all of your support!

carnation · #40 07-20-2002, 06:30 PM

Hey Tara, which dorm will you be in? I was in Pomfret.

It gives you these really muscular legs.

TaraHopeful · #41 07-20-2002, 06:35 PM

I'll be in Reid Hall

carnation · #42 07-20-2002, 06:43 PM

Oh, Reid's okay, you get to walk across a level surface! Now Pomfret, once I'd completed the 20-minute walk up that mountain and then 10 minutes more across campus if I had to get to my grandmother's house, which was over by the sorority houses....I should've camped out in the Residence Life office to see if there were any cancellations in another dorm!

TaraHopeful · #43 07-20-2002, 06:47 PM

Haha...ya i hear Pomfret is no fun to walk from. I actually only had a choice between Reid and one of the co-ed dorms with no A/C. So i had to make a quick decision between boys and A/C....i chose the A/C in a heartbeat. And Reid will be good because 1.) the animal sciences building is 2 minutes away (an. sci is my major) and 2.) the only two people i know that are going to the UofA are staying in Reid as well. Yay! sorry i wrote for so long...i'm just way psyched!

mmcat · #44 07-20-2002, 09:10 PM

with mom in your corner, you are ready to go. get comfy shoes for the walk. you might even consider carrying your dress shoes. i imagine your rho chi could watch it for you. now enjoy it, show yourself perfectly and have a ball. you've got a bunch of folks behind you.
lol

whiteroses · #45 07-20-2002, 10:46 PM

u of a? which school is that alabama?