Sisterfriends of GC-10 questions for ya!

[crunkone]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?
Yes, actually I found GC while I was on the inteternet looking for more [enter org here] websites. Go figure.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
NO. Is that even possible?

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?
no, I think I'm too independent for that.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?
I wouldn't be offended, but I would let that person know that I don't have that particular org in my heart and it would do her and her org no good for me to become a member.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that per son?
I would take it to mean that I am such a desirable prospective that she would absolutely love to call me [insert term you call each other here]. I wouldn't think anything bad about the person unless she continued to do it every time we hung out. That's not cool.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?
As stated above, I would not hold anything against the person unless she continued to do it. But if I did find fault, it would be with the person. I can't hate on a whole org b/c of one person.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?
If she continued to do it knowing my heart was somewhere else, it would say that she didn't really care about the strength of her org. An org is only so strong as it's weakest link.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?
Not a very strong or determined one.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
Well hey, I'm a beautiful person! (LOL) Seriously though, I just don't see it. It won't do me any good to join an org I don't want to be apart of. The better question is would I be able to face other people representing letters I don't really care about.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
I think I've said enough. Nah, actually, I just don't have an answer for this one. Maybe later.

Just some questions for you to ponder over.

[ModelSF]

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?
Yes, I did. I decided before even getting to college. Its actually a funny story, I'll tell it privately. If you want to know PM me.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
Nope, plain and simple

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?
If (my name here) is not interested, someone else is not going to change my mind, I make my own decisions. I'm a Taurus, that's just the way stubborness works.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?
I wouldn't be offended, especially if they didn't know (which most people don't), I would politely declined.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?
Desperation, their organization should not seek me, I should be seeking the organization.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?
Probably, the person, because the rest of the chapter might not even know what they've been doing.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?
Either she's really proud of her choice and thinks highly of me (I hope), or she's joining/joined for the wrong reasons and needs to do her own soul-searching instead of worrying about my choice.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?
A person who only wants letters, a person who lets the org make them, a person who just wants to belong...basically a sad sad individual.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
I wouldn't know, because I wouldn't pull some mess like that. I'm not a good liar though, so it would come back to haunt me, especially since I'm lying to myself.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
It's either non-existent, or very low. The ultimate dishonest person is the one who is dishonest with his/her self.

[Gina1201]

2D, although this thread is old, I think that this is a VERY good topic for SFs of any org., especially considering the type of ish that's been happening lately. I look forward to reading the responses of others.

Anyhow:

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

Yes, I believe I found GC through a different website. However, my mind was made up PRIOR to joining GC.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

No. When I decided that I would like to learn more, and perhaps become a member, I looked at all four sororities before deciding which sorority would suit me best.


3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

Again, no. I do not think that this would be in anyone's (mine, the members, or the org.) best interest. Why would I want to join an organization in which I could not be 100% committed to, simply because of WHO is a member.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

It would depend on how they came at me. The first time I would not be offended. Perhaps that member sees qualities in me that she believes could be beneficial to the org. I would politely decline and let her know of my preference. If it continued past this, yes, I would be offended, since I have clearly stated that I am uninterested.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

I don't think that the person is wrong. As stated, she must see certain characteristics that could help her org. or that would make me a desirable and possibly potential member. Again, this would vary from person to person, depending on the situation.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

No, I would not find fault with the org. The only way I could find fault with the person is if the person has bad intentions with trying to sway my intent.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

Either the person has genuine love for the interest of her sorority or that something is amiss with this person.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

Someone who is a follower and not a leader. I would be a shallow person, because I would simply be attempting to gain letters only, and not SISTERHOOD.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

No, because I would have let myself down, and I am not that type of person.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
That my integrity is LACKING.

[LawyerGal2003]

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

Yes wayyy before like almost 10 years ago.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

No, my friends of "other" interest and I play around a lot and truth be told all the NPHC Sororities are wonderful Orgs. but I know which Org. I desire to become a member of.


3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or nonmember) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

Nah... Beside in my case my really close friends who do throw out 'hints' know anything they say I take it in TOTAL jest! B/c I know, what I know, what I know....


4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

I have had that happen and I think b/c my friends know me to be a loyal and steadfast person there was/is no 'bad blood' whatsoever... They hate my history spiel anyway...lol


5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

I think it depends on what their true intent was/is. In my case, a person I know somewhat well invited me to a Rush a few years ago, and I smiled and said "thanks but no thanks." She was shocked and we discussed it a bit further and I made my desire plain and she respected that. She still from time to time will email about an event or see me 'in strive mode' and say are ya sureeeeee??? And I simply go into my history spiel and she smiles and walks away...lol.. The people who know me well know of my interest and they know there's no switching up going on even if I have to wait another decade!!!!


6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

I think again it depends on the intent. I have a former coworker who is in another Org. and she has asked me about pledging her Org. for a number of years. In my line of work I have been fortunate enough to meet members of Alpha Kappa Alpha and work with them and she has seen that and has questioned me about my interest, I tell her NADA. And I do find fault with her personally b/c she is known to have a big mouth and I could just imagine what she would say if she knew for a fact that I was interested in Alpha Kappa Alpha especially since she has made derogatory comments about the Org. in my presence, I think mostly to see my reaction.... Of which I tell her as Black women and Christians we should not say things of that nature b/c everyone does something positive.... For yall that know me, yall KNOW how hard it is for me to hold my tongue but alas discretion!

However, if the Org./chapter is encouraging members to 'recruit' I would fault the Org. as well.


7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

Back to my old friend intent, I think some people see you as an asset and think you would make a great member. And as Sisterfriends we knowwwww when hear a Member of AKA say that to us...our hearts jump with joy! So I guess I take anything from a member of another Org. w/ a grain of salt in most case because of discretion they aren't the wiser of my interest anyhow so I can't fault them. But if it were me and i kept hinting to someone and they didn't take the bait... I dunno I'd stop... but oh well....I'll take it as a good thing and keep praying....


8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

I think desperate? Some people really just want to belong. And I can't say they are wrong... b/c it's not for me to say. You have to do what you think is best for you. I have friends who cannot believe I am still interested in AKA after all these years. But in my mind there is no other choice for ME... (P.S. A-.All Orgs. are simply wonderful and do great things.) And the time I have spent has opened wonderful doors to women who I otherwise would not have been blessed to meet and work with. Moreover, I am learning more and more about the organization's history and current initiatives which only further fuels my desire and as with EVERYTHING God's got it all in control and when He is ready to bless you with something no one and nothing can stop Him...

Moral of the story wait on God!

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

No way no how!


10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

Hummm...

Waiting would say----I think it says that, I, despite other opportunities have made a commitment to remain true to myself and my desires and goals and if it takes another 10 years I know there's a blessing in it regardless and its worth the wait!

Not waiting would say--- I would need serious self reflection I do believe you can be initially 'attracted' to one Org. and then research and find your 'true calling' if that's the case good for you! But if out of impatience you take 'second best' ie., your second choice.... there's some serious assessing one should do.


WOW this got the brain moving on a Saturday morning!!!! Now off to class!

[pointNclick]

Funny...

I originally responded to this thread as a sisterfriend back in March of 2002. Here it is over a year later and I can read my words from a different point of view- as a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha. What a feeling!

Soror AKA2D '91, I know this is the SF thread (don't hurt me please, smile). I just took a trip down memory lane. Just goes to show that with faith, perservance, staying humble, and staying true to yourself, things can work out.

SF, thanks for letting me barge in ya'll. I just got a lil misty

Originally posted by pointNclick
1. Yes. I decided over 10 years ago.
2. No.
3. No.
4. No.
5. It says that they are convinced about their organization and they want others to see how great it is. That is their opinion. As long as they were not stalking me and shoving it down my throat-- it would not bother me. They got luv for their organization.
6. No need to find fault period. But if I had to, it would be with the person.
7. Same as #5. As the old church spiritual says, "I shall not be moved."
8. I would not be myself, so I have no way to answer this.
9. LOL.. of course I could. I would be true to myself regardless. That person can't "fade me."
10. I am true to myself, period. My integrity would not be in question in such a scenario.

[LawyerGal2003]

That was so niceeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!! I am such a sappy person anyway!!! I didn't know it was such an old post... hummmm that's a nice trip down memory lane! Thanks for the pick me up

[JaJaRule]

1. Did I decide organization of choice before visiting GC?
Yes I did. I had grown up around these beautiful gifted women and I decided at a very young age that I wanted to be just like them. This particular organization was what I was fed and weaned on, just like a baby.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

No because after all the years of living on this earth, I still haven't changed my mind.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

No. When my mind is made up, there is hardly any way that I would change my mind. A double minded man (or woman) is unstable in all his(her) ways.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

No.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

It would tell me that that particular person is interested and will not take no for an answer. It also tells me that my answer was not respected enough to leave well enough alone.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

I would find fault in that person.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

That my answer doesn't mean anything. That person is going to try everything in her power to get me to change my mind.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

On a serious note, I do not change my mind easily especially about something that I have wanted to do for the majority of my life. If I did change my mind then that meant that I was not serious in the first place. That I did not have a made up mind. My mind is made up. This is something that I want to do.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

I could look myself in the mirror because I know that I said no to someone who was trying to change my mind. I may not have explained the reasons why and I feel that I should not have to explain myself. My values and goals are sacred to me and if you change your mind everytime someone has a persuasive arguement then I consider you a wishy washy person. Someone who I don't need to associate with.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

My integrity is strong, the way my parents raised me to be. I know that I may not be all of that all of the time. I am still human. I strive to reach perfection everyday. Even though I may fail or come short, I know in my heart that I have tried and fought the good fight. If you let your integrity come up short, then what makes you think you are a good person. Why would you short yourself like that? I feel that I don't have to short myself in any way, shape, form or fashion. I have a pride and dignity about myself that is unshakeable. And for that, I do thank my God and my parents.

Thanks for letting me add my thoughs!

[pointNclick]

Your welcome

Originally posted by LawyerGal2003
That was so niceeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!! I am such a sappy person anyway!!! I didn't know it was such an old post... hummmm that's a nice trip down memory lane! Thanks for the pick me up

[MsFoxyLoxy77]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

Yes, but I must say that what I've seen on GC has only reinforced my decision. Thank God for GC.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
No. I have had my own little expercience concerning this very subject and came out victorious.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?
No. Refer to # 2's answer.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

Yes and No. Flattered that they would want to pass something so dear to their heart to me. But slightly offended because I just feel their is a certain flair, passion, class, and prescence found in GREAT quantities in the organization I am interested in, and to invite me to become a member of another organization seems IMHO a slight insult. It's like saying you look elegant in that Versace blouse but I'll give you this sweatshirt.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?
Either they think very highly of me, they are jealous of where they think I am headed, or don't care about me at all (obviously they seriously want to hurt me by trying to make me do something that they know isn't in my heart).

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

Depends. The person if it were entirely their OWN idea. The chapter if the collectively discussed the situation and decided they were going to try to sway me. However, the org is an entirely different situation--while I think the fact that certain members of the org may be at fault and thus shed a little negative light on the org as a whole I don't think I could fault the organization.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?
Low self esteem, a desire to live an unfulfilled life, maybe it says that she has a complete blind love for her org. A love so strong that she couldn't imagine why anyone else wouldn't want to be in it and that when you say you're not interested she thinks you're self deluded. 3 sides to every story.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?
Weak, gullible, oh and very LAZY.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
Yes, when the lights were off.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
Hmm...err what integrity.....define it

Just some questions for you to ponder over.

[DaddyzLilGrl]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting?

Yes

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

No

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

No

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

No, that has happened before. I think that if the motives of the invitation are innocent, then I think that the other organization may see something in me that they like.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

They have no idea of my resolve.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

The person....

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

nothing....what's good for the goose isn't always good for the gander.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

Weak, and not true.... you know what they say.... "if you'll lie to yourself, you'll lie to anyone!"

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

Yes, only because though "someone" may have attempted to lure me away from my path, I stayed true.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

That it is and will always remain intact.
Just some questions for you to ponder over. [/QUOTE]

[Im_just_me]

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?
**I decided long before I knew what an "internet" was.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
**No. I am my own woman, therefore I must stand on my own two feet and make my own life decisions...

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?
**No. One conversation can not sway what seems like an eternity of preperation.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?
**No, I wouldn't be offended. The sororities of the D9 were founded with similiar beliefs and purposes. I'd be honored to think that fellow member-friend of the D9 would think that I am worthy of joining her sisterhood.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?
**To me it would say that she doesn't respect my decision as an adult and as a woman. In her mind, my choices obviously aren't good enough for me that she feels as if she has to make my decisions for me.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?
**I'd only find fault with that person. Here entire sorority dind't come to me posing that question...just her.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?
**It would say that she doesn't respect my individuality. She cares nothing about my needs or wants and that she is only concerned about what is best for her.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?
**I'd be a person who needs to look deep down inside and reevaluate what it is that made me want XYZ Sorority so badly and what was it that made me stray from my dream so easily.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
**No. That, I believe, I would have a hard time doing.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
**Integrity...I'd have none...

[Diva_56]

I made my post on GC here as a sisterfriend... ya see how fly I was now I'm a fly soror

[MDE]

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

Yes. It was after I decided that I began to research Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated and I found this site.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

No. I am a leader...definitely not a follower.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

No. I am a leader...definitely not a follower.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

I would not be offended b/c the other individual would have no way of knowing that I am interested in Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated. However, I would have to inform her that
I am not interested in her organization.


5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

Honestly, I would be flattered that someone saw such quality in me. I would admire her persistence, but have to more aggressively restate that I am not interested.


6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

With the individual.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

It says that she most likely does not understand the true meaning of membership and the lifelong commitment associated with it.


8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

I could never succumb to something like this. However, if someone else were to fall into that trap, I would say that she was not truthful with herself and was complacent with "just belonging" instead of making a decision and following it through.


9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

As I stated before, I would never succumb to such a thing. But a person who makes a decision like that would most likely be able to do so. People who join orgs on whim or b/c they were pressured by friends, are followers who just want to belong. So, ultimately, when they look in the mirror they are probably satisfied with what they see.


10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

I don't think my integrity is at question here . However, the lady who joined should look deeper when she is in front of that mirror to determine what she sees in her own reflection.

[Lady2000]

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC? No, when I first visited GC I was unfocused and unable to make a decision at that time.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization? No, in order to be true to myself I must always follow God and my heart.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in? Not at all, I would never let another sway my focus.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization? Not at all, because I feel as though if someone is coming to me it's because they feel I would be an asset to their organization and I feel as though that's a compliment to me. I would definately not take offense especially when I already know where my heart lies.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person? That they have very negative energy and I should not be around them period!

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person? Only the person because no organization is perfect, there may be a few rotten apples in the bunch. Anyway I believe that in joining an organization, you join because the goals of the organization are in tune with your personal goals and not because of the goals of one particular person.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do? It doesn't say anything about the other person, she is just trying to spread the joy and love she has for her organization.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do? It says that you are weak and easily influenced.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror? Me personally, I could because I wouldn't join something my whole heart is not into.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity? If I caved in to what the other person wants, then by definition, I have no integrity. If I follow my own heart then my integrity is still intact.

[curiousasp]

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC? I decided way before I started perusing GC. I came here to just observe how the more Internet-savvy Greeks interact. I've learned some things, but I don't take any and everything I read here as absolute truth.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?Nope

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in? Nope

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization? I wouldn't be offended, but I would politely tell them no.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person? Well, it depends on the person...However, I would kindly tell that person to mind their business. Also, it would make her look desperate in my eyes. BGLOs should not beg for members.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person? The person

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do? Um, personally if someone was trying to recruit me into XYZ when I've shown no interest whatsoever (and they're not a family member), then I would question them. Like I said, they look desperate.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do? You're weak if you do that.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror? If I succumbed, I would be unhappy and unable to look into the mirror..

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity? It says I lack integrity.