Daughter going through Mizzou rush 2014

[WalkintheWoods]

Hello everyone! Exciting about your daughter NUalumMUmom--she is really fortunate to be going back to 6 houses today! Best of luck to her dealing with the heat and exhaustion. It sounds like she has a great head on her shoulders and you are giving her such good advice. Good luck to her!

My daughter is also happy and nervous--extremely emotional today (not like her at all, typically). She's visiting 5 houses today. She was cut by a few houses from yesterday, including one she really loved. She is feeling fortunate to be going back to her two favorite houses today and she knows there are no guarantees. She is also liking another house that wasn't originally on her radar more and more, which is great.

I feel optimistic for her and have also had some very forthright talks about what will happen if she does not get a bid from her favorite house, or any of her favorites, or a bid at all. Reassuring her that no matter what happens, she will thrive at school and that all is well. She has met some great girls through this experience and I'm sure she will have some friends in the houses, whether she ends up in one or not.

Oh, the emotions! I feel like I'm going through rush again myself and I have to keep reminding myself that this is HER process and just listen and be supportive. And not get caught up in my own stuff.

I'm not getting any work done this week, at all.

Good luck to all of the PNMs, and the houses, and hang in there Moms!

[pearlalum]

WalkintheWoods and NUalumMUmom - you are both giving your daughters good advice. The greek system at Mizzou is very strong and there are SO MANY great chapters. I think when my daughter went through it was definitely harder on me than when I went through myself! Keep the faith and have a nice glass of wine.

[Ivy girl]

My daughter went through recruitment several years ago at Mizzou and I am proud to say she is now one of your daughters Pi Chi. PLEASE encourage your daughter to stick with it! I oh so much remember the tears, disappointment, self doubt like it was yesterday. She too was cut from what she thought were her favorites and on blind faith took a bid from a house that IS not top tier! is not all Homecoming queens, etc ( you get my point). What she did get was a large group of terrific friends and sisters that have supported her, loved her, accepted her and pushed into the incredible woman she is today. My daughter was an officer, active in many, many Mizzou organizations, thrived academically and now stands before your daughter to encourage her to let the system work. Every house has a tremendous amount to offer and my daughter choose to take advantage of this opportunity to grow. Most of greek town supports each other and my daughter has friends and roommates from many sororities. Good luck and please encourage her to join ANY of the wonderful groups of woman at MIZZOU.

[WalkintheWoods]

Ivy girl thanks for the encouragement! This is great advice!

[NUalumMUmom]

Thanks to all who have shared their encouragement. My daughter took some time today to walk her class schedule and get to know Columbia a little better, she really needed a little time to herself to settle into campus and get out of the pressure cooker. She is getting more nervous now that she is back at the dorm with all the other PMNs and all the talk. She is really in love with one house, and is trying desperately to not get her heart set on it. Of the six houses she visited today, she feels she would be happy in 5 of them, so I am hoping that 3 of those 5 invite her back. Tonight was her high school's first football game of the year, so a lot of her friends were tweeting about the game and posting pictures of her former dance team performing, so a little home sickness may be in play, too. Most of her classmates are still at home, as many of our universities do not start classes until after Labor Day. She is not one to dwell on things, so hopefully she will get some sleep tonight and wake up to good news in the morning. Hopefully all our girls will have good news! I remember preference parties as so meaningful and moving, are they still like that these days? Should I tell her to pack some tissues and wear the waterproof mascara? Have a good night all!

[pinapple]

What time are invites issued tomorrow?

[NorthernMom]

Mine is still hanging in there, though feeling a bit disheartened. She still has a favorite left. But it's tough to keep getting cut and not take it personally. Hoping for good news in the morning.

[ZTA1550]

Keeping your daughters in my prayers, NorthernMom, WalkintheWoods and NUalumMUmom!

[WalkintheWoods]

Hi everyone

Pineapple, their meeting is at 8am today.

ZTA1550 thanks so much for the prayers! I too have been praying for all of the girls going through rush. What an intense time.

NorthernMom I agree--so hard not to take the cuts personally. Fingers crossed for all of our girls that they go to houses today where they will have meaningful experiences.

NUalumMUmom, our daughter also took some much needed time to herself yesterday. I think it is very important for them to remember, regardless of the outcome, that they have lots of different opportunities to connect with people and ways to be part of the MU community.

Thinking good thoughts for all of our precious girls! This foray into adulthood is a tough one and I trust that it will bring blessings for all of them, whatever happens.

Peace!

[NorthernMom]

2 of her suitemates got the call. They each had 2 left as of yesterday. I only met them for a very short time, but they seemed like lovely girls. I thought, if you weren't dropped early on for grades or something like that, and followed the process you'd be matched. I guess this is very confusing for me.

[FSUZeta]

If you make it thru to pref round, attend any/all the pref parties you are invited to and list all the sororities you preffed, THEN you maximize your chances for receiving a bid.

[NorthernMom]

OK...thanks. That helps me to understand better. I guess I just didn't expect it to be so hard on the girls and see so many, who have kept their options open, be released.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by NorthernMom

2 of her suitemates got the call. They each had 2 left as of yesterday. I only met them for a very short time, but they seemed like lovely girls. I thought, if you weren't dropped early on for grades or something like that, and followed the process you'd be matched. I guess this is very confusing for me.

Theoretically, this is true. Most get released early for grades, reputation (no recs, the dreaded social media concerns, etc). A few linger on though because they have to invite X number back to each party. I would venture though that these two were on the cusp, so to speak, and didn't make the cut because other higher ranked women were still available.

For example, at Alabama this year the average GPA of all women placed was 3.62. You really need a 3.0 as a minimum to get invited back first round. But as the numbers narrow during the week, you can see that having even a 3.1 is going to put you in a precarious position. If they can take an equally nice, sweet woman who has a 3.3 and you have a 3.1, you can guess who doesn't get invited back.

[mumom]

NorthernMom,
So disappointed for her suitemates not to have any preference invitations. They may still have COB options at some point. What about your daughter? Is she feeling ok? Just spoke to my daughter and they are so excited about their pref today. Here's hoping your daughter has a successful day!

[NorthernMom]

Yes, and I am not familiar with their grades or resume. Mine is at the meeting and I am just waiting for a text.