COB

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by paigeh93

So, it's officially been past 24 hours and I didn't get anything from ABC. I've really been trying to have a positive attitude but after being shot down twice, I do feel a bit bummed tonight. I really loved ABC and thought it all went so well. I keep going over Monday and Thursday and can't think of what went wrong.

I have a week before my next COB event with another sorority so, guess I'll just have to take my chances there.

Thanks for all of the support, it has really helped me with this process.

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

Please don't worry too much about it. COB events are often very, very loose and unscripted. Things change at the last minute or get postponed.

What AnchorAlumna said.

Don't panic! It's only been 24 hours. Do you talk to each one of your friends every single day? Probably not. A day is not a long enough amount of time to think that the chapter has forgotten all about you.

Maybe they were meeting with other PNMs tonight. Maybe they had a sisterhood night and decided to not think about recruitment for 48 hours. Maybe they don't plan to have any further COB events and they held membership selection meetings tonight, and they're distributing bids this weekend. And hey, it's Friday… maybe they all just did their own thing, went out to parties/bars, studied, or did whatever college students usually do on a Friday night.

I know you're freaking out because you've been turned down a couple times, but don't assume that the worst has occurred because of what's happened in the past. Keep your chin up and think positive!

[paigeh93]

Even if they said "we will contact you within the next 24 hours"?
I wouldn't have expected anything yesterday if they hadn't have said that.

[FSUZeta]

There could be a myriad of reasons they haven't contacted you yet, from the very worst, that they decided to not offer you a bid at this time, to wanting you to meet some more sisters at another event, or wanting to offer you a bid, but waiting until the chapter meets some more PNMs and votes on them, because they want to hold one formal pledging ceremony. It could also be that they are not doing anything over the weekend, and you will hear from them on Monday.

This is why it is always good for the sisters to try to remember not to say things such as "we will contact you within the next 24 hours." Better to just thank the PNM for coming by and telling her how nice it was to meet her/see her again.

[pinksequins]

Hang in there. When you posted about the coffee party, you noted that due to some chapter logistical issues, it was moved to a different night. Add chapter logistics to possible reasons -- ASTalumna and FSUZeta offer some legitimate ideas, so add logistics to it.

And I don't think college has changed so much from when I was there to think anyone would be doing anything else on a Saturday night other than going out. It seems like such a long wait, but Monday is the earliest you are likely to hear. Can you do something tomorrow for diversion such meet friends for a movie?

[paigeh93]

I have no problem waiting, I was just upset because I thought that of I didn't hear anything in the 24 hours, that meant it was pretty much over with that sorority. It's nice to know that there is still some hope for it.

[DubaiSis]

Put this in your memory banks for your own future and making promises to people about when you will do something, especially when it's really important to them. A simple update saying the situation isn't resolved yet would go a long way. I can't make the chapter do that for you, but I can remind you to not be that girl when you're the one with the power.

[paigeh93]

Hey, just wanted to give a little update on what's going on recently. I didn't get any sort of feed back from ABC so, I'm letting that go. I am still relatively bummed about not getting a bid from them. But, as DubaiSis said, I will keep this as a memory for later on, I would much rather hear something bad than hear nothing at all in this instance.

Tonight I met....The Office at Starbucks for sort of an interview. There were seven girls talking to me. I liked them and they invited me to their house next Thursday for an ice cream social. I then went to Parks & Recreation for bingo night. I was there for 2 and a half hours, way longer than any other houses. I loved their house, it was so pretty and had cool things, like a jukebox! They also gave us gift bags for us which was nice, they were the only house to do this. Before I left, the girl who had greeted me and spent the whole night with me asked me for my number so I suppose that was a good indication on if they liked me or not.

I was invited to SNL to come to their house for a "meet and greet" on Tuesday so, I'm trying to keep positive since I still have plenty of options and chances!

[clemsongirl]

Originally Posted by paigeh93

Hey, just wanted to give a little update on what's going on recently. I didn't get any sort of feed back from ABC so, I'm letting that go. I am still relatively bummed about not getting a bid from them. But, as DubaiSis said, I will keep this as a memory for later on, I would much rather hear something bad than hear nothing at all in this instance.

Tonight I met....The Office at Starbucks for sort of an interview. There were seven girls talking to me. I liked them and they invited me to their house next Thursday for an ice cream social. I then went to Parks & Recreation for bingo night. I was there for 2 and a half hours, way longer than any other houses. I loved their house, it was so pretty and had cool things, like a jukebox! They also gave us gift bags for us which was nice, they were the only house to do this. Before I left, the girl who had greeted me and spent the whole night with me asked me for my number so I suppose that was a good indication on if they liked me or not.

I was invited to SNL to come to their house for a "meet and greet" on Tuesday so, I'm trying to keep positive since I still have plenty of options and chances!

Glad to hear you still are keeping your mind open and have so many options!

[TennisMom]

Paige93 -
I am rooting for you! I'm really hoping you receive a bid - from your posts every sorority would be lucky to have you! But no matter what happens - your mature attitude and resilience is going to serve you well in life. Keep us posted!

[pinksequins]

Rooting for you too, Paige! I am happy that there are more options for you. ABC needs to polish its etiquette skills a bit. They may genuinely like you but have only 1 spot, but they still need to work on proper post-event communications.

[etadrisophila]

Paige:
Sending good wishes and lots of positive energy your way!

[andthen]

Paige, that's great that you've generated a lot of interest. I wish you the best of luck in pursuing these potiential groups. I hope one of them work out and perhaps the next update will be that you got a bid. :-)

[OPhiAGinger]

I love that you have so many options that you had to create real code names.

[paigeh93]

Another update!

Got an email from the recruitment chair of Parks & Recreation tonight for a one on one coffee date tomorrow. This will be the first time meeting one on one with someone, it's always been planned out events (the smallest one being when I met for coffee with The Office, there were seven actives there to talk to me). I'm really excited, thinking this will actually be an interview type of deal but I feel pretty prepared about it. I suppose that's the one good thing of having already gone to multiple COB events, I don't feel so stressed or anxious about it now.

Once again, just want to thank everyone on GC for all the support, it's definitely helped me through this whole process! Keeping fingers and toes crossed!

[etadrisophila]

Paige:

Great news!

Although its true that it will feel like you are being "interviewed," be prepared to do a little interviewing yourself. People LOVE to talk about themselves and about the things that they love and value, so be sure to have some questions prepared.

There are lots of conversational suggestions on the GC boards and general topics include questions about the chapter and about what sisterhood means to the member, as well as questions about the member's other activities and interests. Find a common bond.

Think about ways in which you can contribute to the chapter and weave these ideas throughout the thread of the conversation without being too overt.

Best wishes, and of course, keep us posted.

Hugs!