The Most Hurting Words....

[ErikaXO]

"It's not the pants making your butt look big!"
"I'm too tired tonight, hon."
"Sorry, your card has been declined!" (damn!!!!)

[Miami1839]

You might have a point there but I know many women who are just as picky or even pickier. Both whats on the outside and even more whats on the inside. Why cant we take everything back 20 years.

Originally posted by amycat412
but that's just the thing-- seems like women are much more accepting of the flaws in a man's body/we don't expect you all to have Brad Pitts abs and pec, then a lot of men are of the perceived flaws in a woman's body...

Of course, it can also be said, quite truthfully, that we women are way harder on our own bodies than you guys are on them...

Its just the whole abs thing that ticks me off. Genetically, most people can't acheive that. Trust me, I've been trying. ha ha ha

[James]

20 years would be perfect, we would be in one of the most sexually promiscious eras of this Country. Sounds great, lets start a movement!

Ladies I feel for you, I have luckily never had any women say anything really crushing to me. This despite the myriads of women that have direly forecast that some future girl will tear my heart out. Un-fucking-likely.

However, I do reflect that I have said some unfortunate things to women in the past. Some were quite bad and would lose me the good feeling that some of you have for me if I shared. In my defense, they were not meant maliciously, but originated out of a callous disregard for anyones feelings/desires except my own.

But I am quite contrite, and have endeavored to be gallant and above saying crushing words designed To-prey-on-weak-self-esteem . Even in the face of outrageous provocation. Sometimes people make too easy of a target.

[Miami1839]

I hear ya James. Lets start a movement.

I can think of all kinds of hurtful things I've been told. Some of the typical lines that girls who have been my cuddle buddies.

"I'm not ready for a relationship right now in my life and I have too many other things to accomplish"
"I'm not good at relationships"
"You live too far"
"Your too old"
"You have issues"
"Lets just be friends(which means buh-bye)"

Then of course the little pat on the back. There'll be someone.
Thats exactly right. There will be someone and you wont be that girl to win the prize babe.

[ilovemyglo]

I think I love your family more than you.

I am okay with settling for you.

My favorite of all time

So can we still sleep together cause I always thought you were great.

[xo_sue]

After receiving my valentines day gift, which was a jar of heart candy.....

Sue "thank you"

Guy "Yeah, my mom picked it up at Stop n Shop for me"



Not hurtful but just showed me he did not care enough about me to buy the gift himself - grocery store or no grocery store!

[SigkapAlumWSU]

Said to me after I drove 300 miles to spend my spring break with him:

him: we have to talk.
me: ok, what's up?
him: well, M(a friend of both of ours) told me he already talked to you, and I guess you already know. (M had told me a break up was coming and I knew that the whole 300 mi drive...) So I guess that's it then.

WTF? So, even though your friend told me, you can't put it into your own words??? Gee, thanks for making an effort.

[SATX*APhi]

"You are everything I want in a life partner. There's only problem -- I have fallen out of love with you."

And he has to bring up our past every time we talk. Sniff, sniff.

[aephi alum]

Some of these are pretty harsh!

My worst breakup story: (after dating for 4 months)

Him: Will you convert to my religion for me?
Me: No. I'd like to learn more about your faith, but the religion I will follow is a personal decision that I will make for myself.
Him: Well, I can't marry someone who isn't (his religion). So it's over. But we can still be friends, right?

The worst part was that this conversation took place over IM. B@st@rd didn't even have the balls to break up with me in person. Still don't know what I saw in him.......

[Hermione]

Him: "Have you gained weight?"
Me: "Ummm..."
Him: "Wanna have sex?"

I don't think so!

Or how about: "Have you ever thought about two guys at once?"

And then I turn around and see that his (biological) brother is watching! Ew!

Or the winner: "Well, when we were together, it was just like being back with you at the beginning when everything was so great. But now that I think about it, I can't. But I'm always going to love you and I'm always going to be a part of your life as your friend because I care about you so much..."

Dear god, if this is logic, I'd like to see irrational thought.

[Hootie]

Quoting my Ex-Fiancee (and this was done via TEXT MESSAGING)

"I'm not happy anymore. I need space to see if this is what I want" (two days prior he wanted to elope)

or...after giving him an ultimatum about him conversing sexually with another girl...
"Fine then move home"

DUMB BOY!

[MoxieGrrl]

One of my exes: "This song reminds me of you...(lyrics) 'So what if the sex was great, just a temporary escape, another thing I grew to hate, but now it's over."

-Well, too bad I thought that it sucked. Nice to see that he had a good opinion of it, though.

My fiance, God love him: "Mm....I love your big hips."

-Umm....was that supposed to be a compliment?

[aprilxo]

"You're seriously the closest thing to the perfect woman that I've ever met... but I can't figure out if I like you as more than a friend or not."

Yeah THAT made sense

[AXOLiz]

Originally posted by MoxieGrrl
My fiance, God love him: "Mm....I love your big hips."

-Umm....was that supposed to be a compliment?

That reminds me of something my former roomie's boyfriend said! They were talking one day and he said something about a girl having "good child-bearing hips." She, of course, asked him what on earth he meant, and he said, "Isn't that a compliment? I thought girls like having good child-bearing hips?"

He meant it in a nice way and was visibly upset, which of course made her crack up at him. Thank god she set him straight, otherwise at some point, he probably would've gotten a swift kick in the junk while trying to be nice to some poor girl!

[BearyCuteAPhi]

"I need time to think, I don't know what I want."
After a long period of being very defensive and secretive..." Oh, so you don't trust me?" Duh!!!!