How would you handling seeing people who don't like you while rushing

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Someone is lying.

She doesn't seem like the lying type, but i guess i will see. At this point there is no point in worrying about something I can't change.

[KDCat]

Thank you! And i was told by someone who is in a sorority there that graduated that we do not need recommendations but she said she would talk to the main people that run recruitment there for me and said i had nothing to worry about as far as getting in. I hope she is right.

She should not have said this to you. She can't guarantee that for her GLO and she can't guarantee it for another GLO. I've seen women who were BFFs with a member of a group not get a bid because someone else didn't like them.

You can't do anything about what happened in high school. Smile and be as gracious as you can be to those members. Make a point of being nice to them.

Originally Posted by KDCat

She should not have said this to you. She can't guarantee that for her GLO and she can't guarantee it for another GLO. I've seen women who were BFFs with a member of a group not get a bid because someone else didn't like them.

You can't do anything about what happened in high school. Smile and be as gracious as you can be to those members. Make a point of being nice to them.

OK i will keep that in mind. Thanks

[pshsx1]

but i have talked to someone in a sorority there and they said i will be fine because it is not a competitive school and they take a lot of juniors and seniors.

She doesn't seem like the lying type, but i guess i will see. At this point there is no point in worrying about something I can't change.

She gave you a recruitment answer. It's rare that an NPC/IFC member will say "lol no you can't join because you're old." You'll get something like:
"We look at all of our candidates fairly and equally. We have had members join in the past as Juniors, so you have just as much chance at getting a bid as a Freshman does."

Good luck.

Originally Posted by pshsx1

She gave you a recruitment answer. It's rare that an NPC/IFC member will say "lol no you can't join because you're old." You'll get something like:
"We look at all of our candidates fairly and equally. We have had members join in the past as Juniors, so you have just as much chance at getting a bid as a Freshman does."

Good luck.

That isn't how she said it though. I mean she really stressed the fact that i had nothing to worry about. This was while having a casual conversation. I guess you would have had to be there. Either way I guess I will see what happens. Thanks!

[amIblue?]

That isn't how she said it though. I mean she really stressed the fact that i had nothing to worry about. This was while having a casual conversation. I guess you would have had to be there. Either way I guess I will see what happens. Thanks!

People are full of shit so often in these types of conversations because they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Take it with a grain of salt. Also, no single person can guarantee you getting a bid. Otherwise, my oldest and dearest friend wouldn't have been cut by my sorority when she rushed as a sophomore.

A word of advice, you really need to stop the frequent posting and do some more reading on the SORORITY recruitment threads. Newbies with who start posting a ton often get called trolls. Read more, then ask more later.

Originally Posted by amIblue?

People are full of shit so often in these types of conversations because they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Take it with a grain of salt. Also, no single person can guarantee you getting a bid. Otherwise, my oldest and dearest friend wouldn't have been cut by my sorority when she rushed as a sophomore.

A word of advice, you really need to stop the frequent posting and do some more reading on the SORORITY recruitment threads. Newbies with who start posting a ton often get called trolls. Read more, then ask more later.

That is true, but she has brought it up to me without me mentioning it so i don't think that was the case. It really depends on whether or not the school is competitive i hear. Like i said i will see soon enough.

i've posted 3. I wouldn't call that a ton and i just have a lot of questions. This can be a bit overwhelming. And okay i will use more of the search engine then. Thank you!

[ZTAOnlytheBest]

That is true, but she has brought it up to me without me mentioning it so i don't think that was the case. It really depends on whether or not the school is competitive i hear. Like i said i will see soon enough.

i've posted 3. I wouldn't call that a ton and i just have a lot of questions. This can be a bit overwhelming. And okay i will use more of the search engine then. Thank you!

Stop arguing with people here about recs and upperclassmen getting bids. You asked for advice. The people who have offered it are much wiser and more experienced in this area than you. So if you don't want to hear what they have to say, don't ask.
The advice you've gotten is basically be polite and smile, don't get too cocky, and get recs. Take it or leave it.

[33girl]

If you're going to be a junior in college and you haven't made your mark enough/feel comfortable enough there to kind of laugh about the jackasses from high school, I hate to say it, but rush probably isn't going to go well for you.

A girl from my HS who was a couple years younger than me rushed and pledged (another sorority, not mine) and one day was shit-talking me for being geeky in HS to a mutual friend in a fraternity. He read her the riot act. Considering his nickname was "Snake" and he could be damn scary when he wanted to be, she learned her lesson.

Have you had any interaction with the girls from your high school at all in the past two years? If it's a small school, I kind of don't get how you haven't run into them to know whether or not they're Greek...and if it's a big school, it's not going to be "noncompetitive" and they're not going to "take lots of juniors and seniors."