under total, negative stereotypes, not sure what to do?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by southernbelle14

I guarantee you were at least somewhat judgmental and immature. It's part of life. We all go through it and most grow out of it.

Most do grow out of it. Seems from your posts, though, that you're content be one of the ones who doesn't grow out of it.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I agree. 180 pounds is a normal weight range for some one who is 5'10". That person does not fit into a size 2 or 4 and is NOT fat. So says the person with the MD behind her name backed up by her endocrinologist husband.

Show off!

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by PhoenixAzul

I am 5'10, a five time marathoner, and I cannot imagine my body ever EVER fitting into a size 6. I'm a size 10 on a good day, a size 8 if the pants are mislabeled...but I can't imagine being a size 6.

Originally Posted by southernbelle14

Whoa so since I said 6-8 would be considered fat, there's nothing left but 0? No, 2 and 4 would be about normal. And that's rarely maintained in an unhealthy way. And in college, "fat" does not mean obese. It means overweight or chubby, just in general that there is more fat on the person's body than is desirable.
People who constantly complain about those of us who have realistic standards of what should be thin are the ones who perpetuate obesity in this country. You can't tell a chubby kid that they are "normal" just so their feelings aren't hurt. That's not helping them in the long run.
Also, if you're 5'6" and a toned/fit size six you probably wouldn't be considered fat. However, if you're a flabby size 6-8 then it's best to start making healthier habits. But yes, it does depend on body type. However, most people are not so curvy that a 6-8 would be their ideal size at age 19-20.

1. "just in general that there is more fat on the person's body than is desirable" Desirable to whom? I'm guessing that most women who are a size 6/8 do not "more fat" than is healthy. I know people who, even at a healthy body fat percentage (women aged 20-40, is 21%-33%) aren't sized 6/8. (Note that Body Fat Percentage is not the same as BMI.)

See PheonixAzul, for example.

2. I was waiting for the "you must be fat or you wouldn't complain about me calling people fat" card. Sorry, honey, I'm not perpetuating the obesity culture in this country. I've never been close to obese. But even if I was "chubby" or "overweight," what gives you or anyone else the right to judge? I'd rather have a sweet, "overweight" sister than a bitchy, skinny one.

Judging people solely or firstly on weight is just wrong, in my opinion. Sure, health is important, and so is looking your best, but you are seriously missing out in life if appearances are the key to your friendships and sisterhood. I have a sorority sister who has a medical condition that makes her allergic to food proteins. As in, everything she eats. She is on high dosages of steroids. She is also probably a size 14. I cannot imagine not having her in my life. If people had judged her solely on her appearance, she might not have become a member, and 20-something years later, still one of the nicest people I know.

I don't think you'll get it until you get a bit older and break out of your bubble. Life is pretty simplistic for some 18 years olds. Thankfully, not everyone belongs to that mindset. Good luck.

[DrPhil]

She does not need to wait until she gets older/after college to get over it. She just needs to meet more people or pay more attention to the "often ignored" people on her campus.

I'm a fan for eating healthy and exercising. I think people should do so. But, I also thought the "size 2-4 for 18-20 yo is normal" myth was debunked years ago when medical experts and laypersons began to learn about different body types and different cultural norms.

I now see why southernbell14 is so ruffled over this. She was not speaking generally about her campus climate. She was talking about something in which she is an active participant.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by PhoenixAzul

I am 5'10, a five time marathoner, and I cannot imagine my body ever EVER fitting into a size 6. I'm a size 10 on a good day, a size 8 if the pants are mislabeled...but I can't imagine being a size 6.

Have you ever shopped at Old Navy? You might be a 4 at Old Navy!

I'm about 5'11", and my size seems to have gone down over the years at most clothing stores, while my radius has stayed mostly the same.

Anyway, back to the questions at hand. As 33 pointed out, "fat" often means "not well-regarded socially". So, as important as it is to get out on campus looking good, it's also important to make friends in fraternities and be seen at whatever places are popular on your campus (bars, parties whatever).

[DubaiSis]

There's Dr. Phil being a meany again!

[southernbelle14]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

She does not need to wait until she gets older/after college to get over it. She just needs to meet more people or pay more attention to the "often ignored" people on her campus.

I'm a fan for eating healthy and exercising. I think people should do so. But, I also thought the "size 2-4 for 18-20 yo is normal" myth was debunked years ago when medical experts and laypersons began to learn about different body types and different cultural norms.

I now see why southernbell14 is so ruffled over this. She was not speaking generally about her campus climate. She was talking about something in which she is an active participant.

You know what's hilarious? Many of you are middle-aged women. I can say anything-ANYTHING, true or not- and you will get "ruffled" over it. You are in your 30s or 40s. My god, please go get a life! You all post on here throughout the entire day! I am a 20 year old college student, and even I hope I do not end up posting constantly on an website when I am your age.
Half of the things I said have been fake just to make you all freak out. The other half may have been true, but I said it in an abrasive way, once again, to see if you'd freak out. Big surprise, you did.
Please, ladies, calm down and do something productive. Just because someone says something you don't agree with doesn't mean you can be rude to them. Try getting your point across in a respectful way.
I have been reading this site for a while. Some of it is good, but there's a lot where you all attack people for one thing they say. This is why I made an account.

Have a great day, and go outside, do something fun.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by southernbelle14

You know what's hilarious? Many of you are middle-aged women. I can say anything-ANYTHING, true or not- and you will get "ruffled" over it. You are in your 30s or 40s. My god, please go get a life! You all post on here throughout the entire day! I am a 20 year old college student, and even I hope I do not end up posting constantly on an website when I am your age.
Half of the things I said have been fake just to make you all freak out. The other half may have been true, but I said it in an abrasive way, once again, to see if you'd freak out. Big surprise, you did.
Please, ladies, calm down and do something productive. Just because someone says something you don't agree with doesn't mean you can be rude to them. Try getting your point across in a respectful way.
I have been reading this site for a while. Some of it is good, but there's a lot where you all attack people for one thing they say. This is why I made an account.

Have a great day, and go outside, do something fun.

LOL

Be as productive as she is as she posts on GC along with the rest of you.

[southernbelle14]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

LOL

Be as productive as she is as she posts on GC along with the rest of you.

As I post on GC along with the rest of you... but am 20 years younger than many of you..... I mean if as a middle age woman you want to act like a 20 year old then okay...

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by southernbelle14

As I post on GC along with the rest of you... but am 20 years younger than many of you..... I mean if as a middle age woman you want to act like a 20 year old then okay...

I'm not middle aged or a woman. Am I allowed to post here all day?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

I'm not middle aged or a woman. Am I allowed to post here all day?

As long as you aren't fat.

[southernbelle14]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

I'm not middle aged or a woman. Am I allowed to post here all day?

Anyone is allowed to do what they want. However, if my mother was posting regularly on this site, I would be horrified.
Just a thought.
Anyway, I know nothing about y'all, you know nothing about me. So I suppose I should probably be done with this site.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by southernbelle14

Anyone is allowed to do what they want. However, if my mother was posting regularly on this site, I would be horrified.
Just a thought.
Anyway, I know nothing about y'all, you know nothing about me. So I suppose I should probably be done with this site.

Yet you assume that everyone here is a middle aged woman with no life?

#ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmm

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

As long as you aren't fat.

Damn. Back to square one

[southernbelle14]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Yet you assume that everyone here is a middle aged woman with no life?

#ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmm

a) Some people mention that it's been twenty years since college. Conclusion: they are middle aged.
b) These same people are in sororities. Conclusion: They are women.
c) I only post on here when I have nothing better to do/ am bored. They post on here throughout the day, everyday. So they must not have much to do (shouldn't you be at work or something?)
d) So you're one of those people that hashtag things when they're not on twitter, meaning there is no point.... #ThingsThatAnnoyMe

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by southernbelle14

c) I only post on here when I have nothing better to do/ am bored. They post on here throughout the day, everyday. So they must not have much to do (shouldn't you be at work or something?)

Shouldn't you be in class or something?

d) So you're one of those people that hashtag things when they're not on twitter, meaning there is no point.... #ThingsThatAnnoyMe