Did you choose the wrong sorority?

[ZetaGirl22]

No, Zeta Tau Alpha was and is truly where I belong, but I do sometimes wonder what may have turned out differently if I hadn't missed the second day of our second round of formal recruitment, or if I hadn't gone into recruitment totally blind. I'm sure the result still would have been the same ZTA is my home.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by thetaj

Yeah, it is a skewed sample, but I don't think she is trying to get an accurate representation of everyone Greek; just wants to hear our personal stories.

As for me, I am so in love with everything Theta.

Of course, I get that, I'm just saying that's why she's getting no one saying OH YES ME! And probably won't get an answer to her speculation that COB might be different than formal. Because those people aren't likely to be here

[sigmagirl2000]

I wasn't interested in joining greek life at all. Looking back I wish I had taken the time to meet more members of other NPC groups and be more involved in social aspects, but I was working full time, a math and statistics major, and active in the marching band and administrative staff there. I know where I ended up was great for me. I have, however wondered about whether Sigma Kappa would have been the right fit for me at a different university, as the personality of each chapter is so different from one school to the next. Just because SK was a great fit for me at my school, doesn't mean it would have been right at all somewhere else.

[AlwaysSAI]

Originally Posted by sigmagirl2000

I have, however wondered about whether Sigma Kappa would have been the right fit for me at a different university, as the personality of each chapter is so different from one school to the next. Just because SK was a great fit for me at my school, doesn't mean it would have been right at all somewhere else.

We've discussed this on GC before. If I'd gone to a different school (though, I won't name it here) there is NO WAY I would have joined Phi Sigma Pi. My sister has told me before that had her chapter of AGD been a different one she wouldn't have fit in there--nor would they have accepted me.

[angels&angles]

No, I love Pi Phi and it's 100% where I belong. But I do wonder sometimes what it would have been like in some of the other chapters.

More often I wonder if I would have been a Pi Phi or even gone Greek if I'd attended any of the other schools I applied to. I was sort of anti-Greek originally and would never have rushed freshman year without deferred recruitment. I might have gone Greek - and maybe even joined Pi Phi - at Syracuse, but probably not at any of my other schools. And, in my hypothetical retrospection, that would have been a mistake.

[SWTXBelle]

I will say there is one chapter I discounted right off the bat that now, looking back, I wish I had given a chance.

[aab225]

I think I got pretty lucky. From day 1, I was in love with DG and have never been more nervous in my life than when I would walk up to get my schedule each morning. While I liked the other houses, I always checked for DG first before reading the rest. So no, I definitely don't think i'm in the wrong sorority. I know I was absolutely meant to be a Delta Gamma.

[als463]

No. I love my sorority. I love what we stand for and I'm proud of the many accomplishments of my sisters! I can honestly say, I'm pretty easy to please and I would have been happy in any of the 26 NPCs but, like Honeychile bleeds Azure and White, I bleed Rose and White. It really drove it home for me how much I love my sisters when that unfortunate event occurred and a sister passed away unexpectedly. My sisters all came together to honor her. It also showed me how much my sisterhood values my education when I was awarded a scholarship. I've met so many incredible women and leaders that I get to call my sisters! Every day, I'm thankful to call myself a member of an NPC and especially a sister of Phi Mu!

[KillarneyRose]

I never for a second worried that I wasn't really meant to be a Delta Zeta. I felt at home there from day one and I was so awed by and touched by the Ritual that I can't imagine being part of another group.

I've even loved all the alumnae I've met since college! All in all, a perfect fit for me

[tallllchick]

sadly I think I did

Well I don't know. I just don't really bond well with people at my sorority. When I rushed, the sorority I wanted to be in turned me down on the 2nd day (skit day). Recently I kept on wondering if things would be different if I was in that sorority, or any others really.

I know this is sad, but these days I have been thinking about dropping out of my sorority. But I'm gonna be a senior...and I know rushing again as a senior is like almost impossible

blahh.

[AlwaysSAI]

Originally Posted by tallllchick

sadly I think I did

Well I don't know. I just don't really bond well with people at my sorority. When I rushed, the sorority I wanted to be in turned me down on the 2nd day (skit day). Recently I kept on wondering if things would be different if I was in that sorority, or any others really.

I know this is sad, but these days I have been thinking about dropping out of my sorority. But I'm gonna be a senior...and I know rushing again as a senior is like almost impossible

blahh.

If you have already been initiated, recruitment is not an option for you.

And, what you put into something is what you get out of it. If you haven't made an effort to get to know your sisters and spend time with them outside of chapter/mandatory events, it's not a wonder why you haven't bonded with them.

[SWTXBelle]

If you are initiated into a NPC sorority re-rushing is not an option.

I am sorry you haven't had a better experience. However, you cannot unring that bell. Your best bet now is to stop playing the "What if. . ." game, and do your best to be active in your chapter and try to bond with a few sisters. It may be that after you graduate you will find a terrific alumnae chapter.

[Always AlphaGam]

Originally Posted by tallllchick

sadly I think I did

Well I don't know. I just don't really bond well with people at my sorority. When I rushed, the sorority I wanted to be in turned me down on the 2nd day (skit day). Recently I kept on wondering if things would be different if I was in that sorority, or any others really.

I know this is sad, but these days I have been thinking about dropping out of my sorority. But I'm gonna be a senior...and I know rushing again as a senior is like almost impossible

blahh.

Assuming this is about NPC sororities...

If you've already been initiated, you won't be able to join another sorority anyway.

LOL we all posted around the same time.

[squirrel_love]

I love my sorority through and through, but I too, often wonder what would have happened if I had gone to another school. There are quite a few NPC sororities that I would have loved to have been a part of (solely based on research and knowing members of them), but my ala mater only had 2 and only one was NPC. I often find myself seeing pictures of other chapters, whether it be of my sorority or another, and wishing I was a part of that or had what they have.
I did not have a "normal" greek or college experience because of the school I went to, but I tried to make the most of it. Looking back, I could have tried harder and that is something I have to come to terms with; shouldn't have worried so much about sleeping the night before a test instead of making memories with my sisters! lol
I often find myself sad, and down&out about not having the experience I wanted. But, it had nothing to do with the sorority itself. It was just the atmosphere and how things are and are not done at my school.
I now try to put a lot of energy and time in to help the current active sisters of my chapter with anything they need. Throwing out ideas, buying little gifts, etc. It is what you make of it, even as an alumna. So, I want to feel involved and I'll admit, at times I want to feel like I am still a part of it (at the collegiate level).
Do I regret my choice? No. It may not have been the "ideal" situation with a bunch of chapters to essentially chose from, but I loved the women in the chapter when I joined and I loved what Alpha Gamma Delta stood for. I still do and I forever will. <3

[violetpretty]

Without a doubt, I chose the right sorority for me. Could I have ALSO been happy in other chapters at my campus? Absolutely. Including Sigma Kappa, I think I would have been a good fit in 4 or 5 of 14 chapters at Maryland (and those were chapters that wanted me).

Thing is, you don't get to experience what it is truly like to be a member of another chapter, even if you have a bunch of friends in XYZ, so you really don't know if the grass is greener, even though it might seem greener if you're bummed out about things. You don't know who your big and little would be, if other women would join that other chapter because of you, who you stay up til 2am watching food network with, who you would study with, if you would have a different exec position. It's a waste of time and energy to wonder. I believe at least 90% of your membership exeperience is what YOU make of it. You (for the most part) control how happy you are in your chapter.

I also really think Sigma Kappa fits me well on a national level. I'm proud of who we are throughout history and across the country. However, suppose I went to a school without a Sigma Kappa chapter, like Pitt. Obviously, I could not be a Sigma Kappa, but hopefully if I did, I would still be Greek. Or even if I did go to another school with Sigma Kappa, like Penn State or BU, I may or may not have ended up there. Sometimes it is fun to play the "what chapter would I be in if I went to your school" game with Greek friends from other schools, but it's never more than a fleeting wonder.