Are you @#$%ing kidding me??

[AGDee]

Like.. my daughter's friends all call me Mrs. Shannon's Mom. That is my official name with them. It cracks me up I wouldn't have cards made up with that on them.

[SWTXBelle]

While I certainly can't speak for all who use "mommy cards", I can tell you that I have personal cards with my sons' names on them for the many parents I need to exchange information with who may well not know me aside from my role as my son's mother. For the situations in which I use them they are invaluable. They do NOT, however, say "Sons' Mommy" - just their names and then mine. I hate having a parent's business card and having to try and figure out whose parent this is - especially in this day and age when so many children have a different last name than their mothers. I also hate digging through my purse to find a pen and something on which to write - the cards have my name, cell phone number and e-mail. Problem solved.

[ree-Xi]

I don't think that cards for personal use is a big deal. When I was living near Boston, several of my friends had them. Vistaprint is a great place to get cards.

Calling cards - for social reasons - have been around for ages. It was common during Victorian times to leave you calling card for someone when visiting someone. If I'm not mistaken, this practice was practiced up until the turn of the 20th century (1900).

I guess I remember reading about it in books - maybe in "Little Women"?

Lastly, Danny Ocean in "Oceans Eleven" left a calling card, with just his name on it.

[KSUViolet06]

I had a second thought about these cards today at work.

I was going to call a parent later on in the day, so I asked where I could call. The school only has home/cell in the front office and she wasn't going to be able to answer those.

The kid's name is Suzie Jones. The mom rattled off her super long phone number and work extension, and told me to ask for Jane Smith (since her married last name is Jones but she goes by maiden for work.)

After a whole morning of kids, meetings, and stuff, I couldn't remember anything she said. A card would have been nice at that moment. lol.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

But then she'd automatically be a helicopter parent and chastised based on the assumption that being a parent is her master status or "entire identity."

Terrifying thought.

...and then she'd be a sad person.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

...and then she'd be a sad person.

But not as sad as Jennifer Aniston, she has no kids. Poor sad lady.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by agzg

But not as sad as Jennifer Aniston, she has no kids. Poor sad lady.

...and Angelina keeps on pushing them out. I wonder if her identity is wrapped up in beating Jennifer Aniston at life.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

...and Angelina keeps on pushing them out. I wonder if her identity is wrapped up in beating Jennifer Aniston at life.

Obviously. I bet she has a mommy card for each of her kids individually. She has nothing else going on for her, obviously, if people know that she has kids.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

...and then she'd be a sad person.

And yet another sign of the relationship between gender and depression.

[DiamondAthena]

Back about 13 or so years ago, when I was in HS and met my husband, I had my first set of Personal Cards made up in a Comp Lit Class and I too was totally SHAMELESS about giving them out. So much so that when I met the cute kid in class and saw him passing by me on the way home, I said "hey (while passing him my card) here's my number, call me!" He still claims that was the biggest dork move ever, but he didn't lose the number or accidentally wash it off his hand! And now we're married so I say that's much better than the random scrap of paper or even the cell phone swap.

[AGDee]

If you're told by both the band director and the Boy Scout Troop Scoutmaster that you should NOT attend band camp or boy scout camp with your son this summer, then you have a problem. Yeah, there is a mom like that who I interact with frequently. It's gotten worse since she is now a breast cancer survivor. Truly, her whole identity is wrapped up in her son and I do have concerns for what she'll do when/if he moves out someday. She is really dependent on him. He is fine without her.. I know, because he managed band camp just fine last year when I was there and she wasn't. Whereas, she kept messaging me on Facebook to find out how he was doing.

[IrishLake]

As a working mom who is a former SAH mom, I have to say this is a really good thread/discussion. And I agree with Dr Phil, and it isn't because of her kickass sig.

[AGDee]

I couldn't help but think of the Duggar mom who would need to make 3 x 5 cards to fit all the names on there...

[KSUViolet06]

I think everyone knows someone whose familial order of importance = kids first and marriage second.

They *gasp* at the thought of things like date night (because "spending time with the kids comes first")and *shudder* at vacay without Suzie and Johnny (and their last childfree outing = their honeymoon.) LOL.

I just think it's important to be able to relate to each other as more than "mom and dad." At some point, your kids move out and you need to have more than life as parents to stay together.

[PhoenixAzul]

Before my husband and I got married, we went to pre-cana classes (per the Catholic church requirement). A lot of it was basic relationship stuff, managing households and what have you, but they really drove home the point that your spouse should come first, above children. It was surprising. And I have to say that I agree with it.