Wedding etiquette - Page 3

Senusret I · #31 03-25-2010, 05:41 PM

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Originally Posted by jdrama

If I wasnt invited to the wedding, they wouldn't be getting a GIFT in the first place. But if you must, I'd be slick and buy a gift for the child. That's always helpful right? And take the tags off and don't bring it in the bag that advertises the store name. No store credit or refund for them! lol

DrPhil · #32 03-25-2010, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Senusret I

CHARLOTTE HAS PUDDING IN HER PRADA
CHARLOTTE POUGHKEEPSIED IN HER PANTS

Thanks for giving me an excuse to watch this for the zillionth time.

*popping in the dvd*

LucyKKG · #33 03-25-2010, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

CHARLOTTE HAS PUDDING IN HER PRADA
CHARLOTTE POUGHKEEPSIED IN HER PANTS

Hahahah YES!

ree-Xi · #34 03-25-2010, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by gee_ess

Please, oh Please, take pictures and post them! We need to fully enjoy this event!!

Lol I will. I just will have to blur the identities to protect the innocent (victims of this ruse!!).

ree-Xi · #35 03-25-2010, 06:20 PM

Ok. Just got an update from my sisters and mom. They are putting together a basket and regifting things they received but never used. So far they have a pair of wine "toasting" glasses, a waterford-esque picture frame and a few other things I fotget.

I just remembered that we had a "picnic basket" backpack (dishes, utensils, cloth napkins, attached coozy for wine, a wine opener, and a tablecloth). It's actually a pretty neat gift but we just never found the occasion to use it. And BONUS! the tags are all still on it.

Doing the happy dance!! Oh, I am going to hell, aren't I?

thetygerlily · #36 03-25-2010, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I just remembered that we had a "picnic basket" backpack (dishes, utensils, cloth napkins, attached coozy for wine, a wine opener, and a tablecloth). It's actually a pretty neat gift but we just never found the occasion to use it. And BONUS! the tags are all still on it.

Doing the happy dance!! Oh, I am going to hell, aren't I?

That actually sounds much nicer than what most people are suggesting. I always think picnics sound so pleasant but never actually go on one. FTW, personalize it to the happy couple a la ForeverRoses' recommendation:

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Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

You could always buy them a box of wine and a box of condoms.

ree-Xi · #37 03-25-2010, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by thetygerlily

That actually sounds much nicer than what most people are suggesting. I always think picnics sound so pleasant but never actually go on one. FTW, personalize it to the happy couple a la ForeverRoses' recommendation:

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Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

You could always buy them a box of wine and a box of condoms.

pinkyphimu · #38 03-26-2010, 11:13 PM

That is unbelievable. I would definitely not bring a gift. A pretend wedding celebration...two years after the fact...without a wedding...is really just a fundraiser. Keep that picnic basket until you find a time to use it!! You could even write in a card something along the lines of...."Congratulations. I am so inspired by the love that you two share. Mr. Ree and I plan to take time each week to be together. We even purchased this great picnic basket that we will use when the weather gets warmer. While we are enjoying our time together, we will toast to you. We hope that some day, we can have a relationship as wonderful as yours." It might be hard not to puke while you are writing it tho.

ASTalumna06 · #39 03-27-2010, 12:37 AM

How did I miss this thread?!

I have an even better idea... give their gift to someone else. Make a donation in their name to a charity. That way, you can feel good about giving them a gift, knowing that they won't enjoy it, and helping the less fortunate... all at the same time!

"A donation has been made in your name to the Human Fund..."

twinkle555 · #40 03-27-2010, 01:10 AM

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Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

How did I miss this thread?!

I have an even better idea... give their gift to someone else. Make a donation in their name to a charity. That way, you can feel good about giving them a gift, knowing that they won't enjoy it, and helping the less fortunate... all at the same time!

"A donation has been made in your name to the Human Fund..."

FTW!! DO THIS.

ree-Xi · #41 03-28-2010, 03:41 PM

Wow, is all I can say. First, I didn't get pictures!! Our camera battery died (someone didn't recharge it!!).

So they actually did reaffirm their vows, though it didn't say so on the invitation. Half the people showed up late (the invitation said 7 but who arrives exactly one time for a dinner?). So a good 100 of the 170 people crowded into this tiny-assed room with only 12 chairs (the bridal party sat in them while the "bride", "groom", best man and matron of honor stood. Their kid ran all over the place, chasing his two toddler cousins (they are all young moms) while no one corrected the kids. I was so nervous that they were going to knock over the candles.

The bridesmaid dresses were black with CUT OUTS. Like if you slashed a piece of the dress. Oh and some of them wore sunglasses. Inside. At night. The "bride's" wedding dress (which she wore at full term of the pregnancy (from their FB photos, I figured out she had the baby 6 days after their first "wedding") was hanging off her. She's like a size 6/8, not nearly as big as she was when she was pg. She didn't get it tailored. They held the dress together with safety pins. Visible safety pins. The husband comes from money, they could have afforded to tailor the dress, but perhaps they thought it was a fashion statement.

So that lasts about 15 minutes and the guests are shepherded into the main room while the bridal party goes into another room to take pictures and drink. Again, no one was watching the kids (they had both sets of grandparents there). When you walked in, instead of a place cards, they had written people's names in silver marker on rocks. They had a theme for each table, but we couldn't figure out what the theme was.

At about 9pm (almost 2 hours later), they put out cheese and crackers. They had some waiters with cheese sticks and chicken fingers (they were microwaved), but they only came around once. They did one lap, and when the platters were empty, that's it. They had open bar, but they served "half drinks". Mixed drinks were in juice glasses, and beer was poured (from bottles) into 8-ounce milk type glasses. (I don't drink but it seemed quite lame). Even the soda was a spritz and the rest ice.

The bridal party came in about a half hour later, around 9:30. Dinner started at 9:50. Yep, three hours into the deal. Finally, the dj started spinning music - but only music that the bride and groom like - a combo of rap and trance music. That started at 10:20. (They had no music playing at all, until dinner was served). The bride's brother in law (who we affectionately call Spencer Pratt) got on the dance floor to showcase his drunken moves. It was like Elaine from Seinfeld but without the thumbs. It was so embarrassing.

They bride and groom never made the rounds, they had everyone come to them (which in my family, just doesn't happen). We brought a gift (that picnic basket which today retails for $76) and had put it with a few other gifts. When we went to congratulate them, the maid of honor (her sister) asked if we'd like to "give the envelope" to her, since the bride didn't have a handbag. I told her that we brought a gift. She just looked at me like I had three heads. I know she was pissed but whatever.

Oh, and I found out that they never told the general population (or most of the extended family) that they had already been married. They seriously let everyone believe that they are newlyweds. All over their FB page are congratulations to the "newlyweds", wishes to the new "husband and wife" and jokes about being old and married "now".

Thanks for the therapy lol. Good times, good times.

ree-Xi · #42 03-28-2010, 03:42 PM

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Originally Posted by twinkle555

FTW!! DO THIS.

OMG lol!!!!

unicorn · #43 03-28-2010, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Oh, and I found out that they never told the general population (or most of the extended family) that they had already been married. They seriously let everyone believe that they are newlyweds. All over their FB page are congratulations to the "newlyweds", wishes to the new "husband and wife" and jokes about being old and married "now".

Wow. Are you gonna let it slip? I might - I mean, I'd definitely be tempted - but I'm mean like that!

AOII Angel · #44 03-28-2010, 06:16 PM

Hmmm...I agree with Forever Roses. This is an anniversary party not a wedding. I'd get her an anniversary card, no gift. Wedding gifts are to be given no more than one year after the event. Your presence at her two year anniversary party (a little precious if you ask me) is gift enough.

Ooops...just saw that you already went. Wow, your cousin is T-A-C-K-Y!

sceniczip · #45 03-28-2010, 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Oh, and I found out that they never told the general population (or most of the extended family) that they had already been married. They seriously let everyone believe that they are newlyweds. All over their FB page are congratulations to the "newlyweds", wishes to the new "husband and wife" and jokes about being old and married "now".