Sad recruitment story

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by karmelgirl

Thanks all....I think they have informal in the fall
but only a few houses participate....based on house quota I think. It might be an option. After things quiet down I will check.

Why would you check into informal recruitment for your daughter, rather than having her do it herself?

Just a question.

[kddani]

If your daughter is into acting, then she REALLY needs to get used to the idea of rejection, quick. If it breaks her that much, then she really should find a different interest because rejection happens frequently in that area.

I'm sure she's disappointed, but I can't conceive of a way that she could've done both at the same time- it would've been really tough to be in a production and pledge at the same time, AND keep up with her grades.

I think it is time to continue to support your daughter and be there for her, but step back and let her be an adult and deal with these things on her own.

I question whether she really wanted to be Greek all that much. Maybe she was just going through to make you happy, and didn't think it was really for her? After all, you're the one posting on here about her experience, not her. Just a guess, but it may not be too far off from the truth.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Why would you check into informal recruitment for your daughter, rather than having her do it herself?

Just a question.

I read that as "after things quiet down (with her) I will check (with her)."

Meaning she'd check with her daughter. Why would she have to wait until things quiet down to call the school? (OH GOD OP please don't call the school!)

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by agzg

I read that as "after things quiet down (with her) I will check (with her)."

Meaning she'd check with her daughter. Why would she have to wait until things quiet down to call the school? (OH GOD OP please don't call the school!)

Hopefully she meant the former.

And LOL at the bolded.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Why would you check into informal recruitment for your daughter, rather than having her do it herself?

Just a question.

Same reason why would mom post here when it's her daughter going through recruitment.

For goodness sake, what is that link? I think it's appropriate bc the daughter is a "complete package".

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Helllooooooo this was awesome! Need acknowledgment here! Ugh! lol

[twinkle555]

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[srmom]

Hey Mom, I know it hurts when our kids hurt. She is not alone, rough recruitments happen, and it probably happened to other girls at her school. Just be a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen. From your posts, that sounds like what you're doing.

Good luck to your daughter in her future endeavors in theater. From what I know from my friends' kids who are theater majors, it is rare for freshmen to be cast in productions, so perhaps she just has to pay some more dues to get a role...

As for dropping out of recruitment, I can understand how getting hit with the "double whammy" was just too much and she just couldn't pull herself together to pretend everything was peachy keen. Perhaps she can meet more girls, make some connections and try again.

It sounds like she's a great girl with a lot of interests, she will be fine in the long run.

[Low C Sharp]

This is a strange flip side of my a cappella rush story...finding out in the morning that I DID get cast in a play gave me the confidence to try out for the singing groups.

I can understand how having a very bad day can cloud your judgment temporarily, especially as a first year student. It sounds like both mom and daughter understand that the daughter made a hasty mistake, and will be more open to opportunities in the future as a result. There are TONS of ways to get involved on campus at the school we're talking about. Maybe she could swallow her pride and volunteer at the show she didn't get cast in -- painting scenery is a great way for freshmen to get to know upperclassman actors and directors who will be more likely to remember her face at next semester's auditions.
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GONG BONGS

[agzg]

I'm kindof upset that no one noticed my use of "rejectment."