Recruitment as a sophomore//gossiping

[Denise_DPhiE]

Originally Posted by BaltoAlphaPsi

maybe our chapter is just under that impression..... I just thought that there was a lot of red tape to not allow in a legacy.

We do not require chapters to take legacies. They are required to invite women to first invitational at least, if there is a legacy. The legacy should be able to meet all the sisters. Up until this past year, chapters had to contact their recruitment specialist in order to release a legacy and gain approval first. We have since modified this rule.

[Denise_DPhiE]

Originally Posted by brokengymnast75

I am definitely preparing for next year's recruitment a lot more. I'm practicing conversations with people, and getting to know girls in the houses. A girl in my mom's sorority said that I am the absolute perfect fit into her house and is going to help me through recruitment a little.
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First, let's call all females WOMEN, not girls. That may help a bit. If she is your mom'a age, she is definitely not just a girl. Reading this objectively - it would appear you may have been jammed down the chapters throat. Maybe they just didn't click with you. My chapter has cut legacies before, once while I was an undergrad, we cut an actives little sister. She was arrogant. She later re-rushed and got a bid. I took her as my little sister. She grew up a lot that year. Maybe your mom's group doesn't like to be forcefed legacies. I hope that isn't the case.

Originally Posted by Denise_DPhiE

We do not require chapters to take legacies. They are required to invite women to first invitational at least, if there is a legacy. The legacy should be able to meet all the sisters. Up until this past year, chapters had to contact their recruitment specialist in order to release a legacy and gain approval first. We have since modified this rule.

LOL, I was wondering when you'd show up.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Denise_DPhiE

First, let's call all females WOMEN, not girls. That may help a bit. If she is your mom'a age, she is definitely not just a girl.

By "a girl in my mom's sorority," I took her to mean a fellow student who is currently an active member of the sorority of which her mother is an alumna, especially since she had just mentioned "getting to know girls in the houses."

/back in my lane.

[brokengymnast75]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

By "a girl in my mom's sorority," I took her to mean a fellow student who is currently an active member of the sorority of which her mother is an alumna, especially since she had just mentioned "getting to know girls in the houses."

/back in my lane.

I did mean a woman who is my age (18). It is slightly weird to call a person who is my age and just out of high school a woman, but I will try to start using that term instead.

[FSUZeta]

another option would be to say "collegian" or "alumna"(alumnae if more than one member no longer in college). :-)

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by brokengymnast75

I did mean a woman who is my age (18). It is slightly weird to call a person who is my age and just out of high school a woman, but I will try to start using that term instead.

It's nice that a young lady in your mom's sorority says you're the perfect fit, but it's important to note (for the sake of making sure other PNMs reading this don't get the wrong idea) a couple of things:

*Just because a woman in your legacy chapter likes you, does not mean you will get a bid there. Not saying that this is what you think, but i'm just putting it out there.

*Your mother being an involved alumna also does not guarantee you anything. As has been previously noted, chapters can and do cut legacies because sometimes, no matter how they're connected to the sorority, they just don't fit well with that chapter.

[brokengymnast75]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

It's nice that a young lady in your mom's sorority says you're the perfect fit, but it's important to note (for the sake of making sure other PNMs reading this don't get the wrong idea) a couple of things:

*Just because a woman in your legacy chapter likes you, does not mean you will get a bid there. Not saying that this is what you think, but i'm just putting it out there.

*Your mother being an involved alumna also does not guarantee you anything. As has been previously noted, chapters can and do cut legacies because sometimes, no matter how they're connected to the sorority, they just don't fit well with that chapter.

Thank you for the pointing those items out.
I am actually going to be meeting a few ladies from the sorority tonight because they are possible roommates for me spring term. I can get to more know ladies, as well as get a slightly better feel of the sorority (of course I should not base this on the couple of women I meet though)
I would not have wanted to be in my legacy sorority if I did not feel comfortable or if it fits. I really felt that it did fit, however, I could be wrong, since of course I am not apart of the chapter and it was only first impressions. There are a few other sororities that I am looking at as well, which I would be comfortable joining.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by brokengymnast75

Thank you for the pointing those items out.

I would not have wanted to be in my legacy sorority if I did not feel comfortable or if it fits. I really felt that it did fit, however, I could be wrong, since of course I am not apart of the chapter and it was only first impressions.

There are a few other sororities that I am looking at as well, which I would be comfortable joining.

Ok, YOU may feel like you fit, but they have to feel that way too in order for you to get invited to join.

It's good that you're being open-minded though.

[brokengymnast75]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Ok, YOU may feel like you fit, but they have to feel that way too in order for you to get invited to join.

Sorry, that is what I was trying to say "I really felt that it did fit, however, I could be wrong, since of course I am not apart of the chapter," it just did not come out right. If they did not think that I fit, that is fine.