Recruitment as a sophomore//gossiping

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Denise_DPhiE

First, let's call all females WOMEN, not girls. That may help a bit. If she is your mom'a age, she is definitely not just a girl.

By "a girl in my mom's sorority," I took her to mean a fellow student who is currently an active member of the sorority of which her mother is an alumna, especially since she had just mentioned "getting to know girls in the houses."

/back in my lane.

[brokengymnast75]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

By "a girl in my mom's sorority," I took her to mean a fellow student who is currently an active member of the sorority of which her mother is an alumna, especially since she had just mentioned "getting to know girls in the houses."

/back in my lane.

I did mean a woman who is my age (18). It is slightly weird to call a person who is my age and just out of high school a woman, but I will try to start using that term instead.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by brokengymnast75

I did mean a woman who is my age (18). It is slightly weird to call a person who is my age and just out of high school a woman, but I will try to start using that term instead.

It's nice that a young lady in your mom's sorority says you're the perfect fit, but it's important to note (for the sake of making sure other PNMs reading this don't get the wrong idea) a couple of things:

*Just because a woman in your legacy chapter likes you, does not mean you will get a bid there. Not saying that this is what you think, but i'm just putting it out there.

*Your mother being an involved alumna also does not guarantee you anything. As has been previously noted, chapters can and do cut legacies because sometimes, no matter how they're connected to the sorority, they just don't fit well with that chapter.

[brokengymnast75]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

It's nice that a young lady in your mom's sorority says you're the perfect fit, but it's important to note (for the sake of making sure other PNMs reading this don't get the wrong idea) a couple of things:

*Just because a woman in your legacy chapter likes you, does not mean you will get a bid there. Not saying that this is what you think, but i'm just putting it out there.

*Your mother being an involved alumna also does not guarantee you anything. As has been previously noted, chapters can and do cut legacies because sometimes, no matter how they're connected to the sorority, they just don't fit well with that chapter.

Thank you for the pointing those items out.
I am actually going to be meeting a few ladies from the sorority tonight because they are possible roommates for me spring term. I can get to more know ladies, as well as get a slightly better feel of the sorority (of course I should not base this on the couple of women I meet though)
I would not have wanted to be in my legacy sorority if I did not feel comfortable or if it fits. I really felt that it did fit, however, I could be wrong, since of course I am not apart of the chapter and it was only first impressions. There are a few other sororities that I am looking at as well, which I would be comfortable joining.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by brokengymnast75

Thank you for the pointing those items out.

I would not have wanted to be in my legacy sorority if I did not feel comfortable or if it fits. I really felt that it did fit, however, I could be wrong, since of course I am not apart of the chapter and it was only first impressions.

There are a few other sororities that I am looking at as well, which I would be comfortable joining.

Ok, YOU may feel like you fit, but they have to feel that way too in order for you to get invited to join.

It's good that you're being open-minded though.

[brokengymnast75]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Ok, YOU may feel like you fit, but they have to feel that way too in order for you to get invited to join.

Sorry, that is what I was trying to say "I really felt that it did fit, however, I could be wrong, since of course I am not apart of the chapter," it just did not come out right. If they did not think that I fit, that is fine.