need advice..

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by kddani

Sounds like money is just an easy excuse and not facing the real issues. If money were the real issue there are plenty of ways to work with that and figure that out. Since you've dismissed those ideas, it's pretty obvious that the money is just a convenient excuse.

If you dislike the sorority so much that you want to leave, why do you care so much about when you do it and what people think? You're leaving either way. You don't like it, don't want to be in it, so quit and open a spot for another girl who wants to be in your chapter and participate.

I wanted to say this so badly. Glad you did.

Are you only sticking around because you've already paid, and you at least want to get your money's worth? It just seems crazy to me to not want to talk to any of your sisters about this. I would be DEVASTATED if I thought I had to drop, and I would definitely feel comfortable enough to confide in at least one sister about it.

[LucyAnne17]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

I wanted to say this so badly. Glad you did.

Are you only sticking around because you've already paid, and you at least want to get your money's worth? It just seems crazy to me to not want to talk to any of your sisters about this. I would be DEVASTATED if I thought I had to drop, and I would definitely feel comfortable enough to confide in at least one sister about it.

I also wanted to say this. But it would have been a little bitchier coming from me.

[icelandelf]

Originally Posted by chicky3829

this has all been great advice.. but i really honestly cannot afford it so i dont need advice on how to TRY and afford it. i can't afford it. simple as that. what i was asking advice on is when i should let the chapter know that i will be dropping out...
thanks..

ASAP.

[Just interested]

Don't let the door hit you on the way out. Maybe your chapter has someone in the wings that would love to be a member. Give them that opportunity. Get out now.

[libramunoz]

I suggest that you look at all the reasons that you want to leave your sorority. Everyone on here has given you great advice as to how to work out the problems that you are facing (financial) and yet, in your refusal to tell the whole story, you only dismissed what people were saying.
In doing this, it seems that your loyalty to your sorority was only superficial in a lot of means and manners and that's what you're presenting on this board.
I think you need to stop and look at yourself in a real manner and make decisions about yourself and your needs. Don't end up pulling a Madoff!

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by kddani

Sounds like money is just an easy excuse and not facing the real issues. If money were the real issue there are plenty of ways to work with that and figure that out. Since you've dismissed those ideas, it's pretty obvious that the money is just a convenient excuse.

If you dislike the sorority so much that you want to leave, why do you care so much about when you do it and what people think? You're leaving either way. You don't like it, don't want to be in it, so quit and open a spot for another girl who wants to be in your chapter and participate.

agreed. it would be nice if you spoke to your big sister and the treasurer and/or president to tell them you are quitting, but honestly, it sounds like your mind is made up, you don't want to try to work things out, so you should resign asap.