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chicky3829 · #1 01-21-2009, 04:58 PM

they wont pay for the sorority.. they will help me pay for my housing.. they didnt want me to join the sorority in the first place but now with different financial stuff that has been going on they cant afford to help me out with the sorority anymore..before they were helping out reluctantly because they knew it was something i initially wanted to do

and there are other reasons im dropping out but i dont think it would be smart to share it on a public forum when it concerns my sorority and only my sorority..money is a MAJOR factor but there is a ton of other factors playing into this.. not just money..
i know that is super vague and everyones gonna be like "we cant give u advice if u dont tell us the whole story" blah blah but i cant tell you it because it wouldn't be right to do that.. so sorry..
i think i have gotten what i needed out of this thread though so thanks to everyone who replied!

LucyAnne17 · #2 01-21-2009, 05:01 PM

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Originally Posted by chicky3829

they wont pay for the sorority.. they will help me pay for my housing.. they didnt want me to join the sorority in the first place but now with different financial stuff that has been going on they cant afford to help me out with the sorority anymore..before they were helping out reluctantly because they knew it was something i initially wanted to do

and there are other reasons im dropping out but i dont think it would be smart to share it on a public forum when it concerns my sorority and only my sorority..money is a MAJOR factor but there is a ton of other factors playing into this.. not just money..
i know that is super vague and everyones gonna be like "we cant give u advice if u dont tell us the whole story" blah blah but i cant tell you it because it wouldn't be right to do that.. so sorry..
i think i have gotten what i needed out of this thread though so thanks to everyone who replied!

I figured there was something more to it. If you're leaving because of hurt feelings, go ahead and tell everyone now. If you wait until the semester is over and dissappear, you will not be leaving on good terms with the sisters you still want to remain in contact with. At least with some warning maybe some will understand and you can salvage friendships.

KSUViolet06 · #3 01-21-2009, 05:15 PM

If you're going to drop out, I suggest being as up front as possible and telling everyone as soon as possible. Like I said before, sticking it out until the end of the semester gives the appearance that you are staying. No one wants to THINK their Little Sis is sticking around when she really isn't. So, the sooner the better.

chicky3829 · #4 01-21-2009, 05:32 PM

thanks to everyone for the advice!
i'm going to try and discuss it, at least with my big, so i don't drop it on her at the end of the semester! i really like her and dont want to lose that friendship! thanks for the advice!

Just interested · #5 01-21-2009, 08:18 PM

Don't let the door hit you on the way out. Maybe your chapter has someone in the wings that would love to be a member. Give them that opportunity. Get out now.

libramunoz · #6 01-21-2009, 08:44 PM

I suggest that you look at all the reasons that you want to leave your sorority. Everyone on here has given you great advice as to how to work out the problems that you are facing (financial) and yet, in your refusal to tell the whole story, you only dismissed what people were saying.
In doing this, it seems that your loyalty to your sorority was only superficial in a lot of means and manners and that's what you're presenting on this board.
I think you need to stop and look at yourself in a real manner and make decisions about yourself and your needs. Don't end up pulling a Madoff!