need advice..

kddani · #1 01-21-2009, 05:59 PM

Sounds like money is just an easy excuse and not facing the real issues. If money were the real issue there are plenty of ways to work with that and figure that out. Since you've dismissed those ideas, it's pretty obvious that the money is just a convenient excuse.

If you dislike the sorority so much that you want to leave, why do you care so much about when you do it and what people think? You're leaving either way. You don't like it, don't want to be in it, so quit and open a spot for another girl who wants to be in your chapter and participate.

KSUViolet06 · #2 01-21-2009, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by kddani

Sounds like money is just an easy excuse and not facing the real issues. If money were the real issue there are plenty of ways to work with that and figure that out. Since you've dismissed those ideas, it's pretty obvious that the money is just a convenient excuse.

If you dislike the sorority so much that you want to leave, why do you care so much about when you do it and what people think? You're leaving either way. You don't like it, don't want to be in it, so quit and open a spot for another girl who wants to be in your chapter and participate.

I wonder if this is an apprpriate point for an "Oh snap."

I think this is probably the truth of the matter.

kddani, you need to come back and be around here more often.

violetpretty · #3 01-21-2009, 06:20 PM

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Originally Posted by kddani

Sounds like money is just an easy excuse and not facing the real issues. If money were the real issue there are plenty of ways to work with that and figure that out. Since you've dismissed those ideas, it's pretty obvious that the money is just a convenient excuse.

If you dislike the sorority so much that you want to leave, why do you care so much about when you do it and what people think? You're leaving either way. You don't like it, don't want to be in it, so quit and open a spot for another girl who wants to be in your chapter and participate.

EXACTLY. I'd say the overwhelming majority, if not all, of women in my chapter who withdrew their membership "because of money" really did so because they were unhappy/apathetic with their membership. I can't think of anyone that withdrew that was super-involved and dying to save her membership.

ASTalumna06 · #4 01-21-2009, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by kddani

Sounds like money is just an easy excuse and not facing the real issues. If money were the real issue there are plenty of ways to work with that and figure that out. Since you've dismissed those ideas, it's pretty obvious that the money is just a convenient excuse.

If you dislike the sorority so much that you want to leave, why do you care so much about when you do it and what people think? You're leaving either way. You don't like it, don't want to be in it, so quit and open a spot for another girl who wants to be in your chapter and participate.

I wanted to say this so badly. Glad you did.

Are you only sticking around because you've already paid, and you at least want to get your money's worth? It just seems crazy to me to not want to talk to any of your sisters about this. I would be DEVASTATED if I thought I had to drop, and I would definitely feel comfortable enough to confide in at least one sister about it.

LucyAnne17 · #5 01-21-2009, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

I wanted to say this so badly. Glad you did.

Are you only sticking around because you've already paid, and you at least want to get your money's worth? It just seems crazy to me to not want to talk to any of your sisters about this. I would be DEVASTATED if I thought I had to drop, and I would definitely feel comfortable enough to confide in at least one sister about it.

I also wanted to say this. But it would have been a little bitchier coming from me.

FSUZeta · #6 01-21-2009, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by kddani

Sounds like money is just an easy excuse and not facing the real issues. If money were the real issue there are plenty of ways to work with that and figure that out. Since you've dismissed those ideas, it's pretty obvious that the money is just a convenient excuse.

If you dislike the sorority so much that you want to leave, why do you care so much about when you do it and what people think? You're leaving either way. You don't like it, don't want to be in it, so quit and open a spot for another girl who wants to be in your chapter and participate.

agreed. it would be nice if you spoke to your big sister and the treasurer and/or president to tell them you are quitting, but honestly, it sounds like your mind is made up, you don't want to try to work things out, so you should resign asap.