Disappointed mom - Page 3

KSigkid · #1 10-19-2008, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by BadCat25

I assume Disappointed Mom lives in the South and unless you do you will never understand how she feels. The social pressure down there for your daughter to join a top chapter is huge and the total bummer for her to join a low tier chapter let alone God forbid be a GDI. When I was in HS one of my friends older sister had a rush disaster and everyone treated it like it was the end of the world. Like I said, if you are not from the South you will never understand.

I think that's going a bit too far. Every part of the country has some setting where social pressure is intense. Even if it's not in the Greek Life context, people in other parts of the country could at least equate that situation to something particular to their region.

UGAalum94 · #2 10-19-2008, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by BadCat25

I assume Disappointed Mom lives in the South and unless you do you will never understand how she feels. The social pressure down there for your daughter to join a top chapter is huge and the total bummer for her to join a low tier chapter let alone God forbid be a GDI. When I was in HS one of my friends older sister had a rush disaster and everyone treated it like it was the end of the world. Like I said, if you are not from the South you will never understand.

Maybe. But you wouldn't post it here and admit it.

Tippiechick · #3 10-20-2008, 12:39 AM

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Originally Posted by BadCat25

I assume Disappointed Mom lives in the South and unless you do you will never understand how she feels. The social pressure down there for your daughter to join a top chapter is huge and the total bummer for her to join a low tier chapter let alone God forbid be a GDI. When I was in HS one of my friends older sister had a rush disaster and everyone treated it like it was the end of the world. Like I said, if you are not from the South you will never understand.

I think this is a sockpuppet.

BUT, come the fuck on. The entire South DOES NOT LIVE AND DIE BASED ON RUSH RESULTS. I am from the South, bless your heart. Maybe you should consider hanging around people who don't look at rush results as evidence of a person's worth. Look around. There's plenty of us.

I just find this whole thing so funny. I mean, here people are bashing this thread, yet they kiss the ass of a mom on here who did the same thing. (Even though she may never cop to it...)

ASTalumna06 · #4 10-20-2008, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by BadCat25

I assume Disappointed Mom lives in the South and unless you do you will never understand how she feels. The social pressure down there for your daughter to join a top chapter is huge and the total bummer for her to join a low tier chapter let alone God forbid be a GDI. When I was in HS one of my friends older sister had a rush disaster and everyone treated it like it was the end of the world. Like I said, if you are not from the South you will never understand.

This is kind of irrelevant.

Whether you're from the north, south, east, west, or anywhere else in the entire world, you should support your child's decisions and leave them be if they're happy.

The only way I can see the OP getting involved/needing to be concerned is if this sorority was hazing her daughter, was into heavy drugs/drinking, etc., etc. You get the point.

If this is simply a sorority with a smaller chapter and a sparse social calendar, and her daughter is happy, then SHE SHOULD BE HAPPY FOR HER. And that applies no matter which state you live in.

BadCat25 · #5 10-20-2008, 09:38 AM

I am not saying I agree with it but as a Southern girl I am just trying to tell you how so many people in the South feel. My local newspaper lists the rush results for the local girls and it is a big topic of conversation. I go to college in the North and my university has deferred rush. The women in the local Panhell association were bugging my mom to let them know how my rush went so they could put it in the paper. When it was published a lot of her friends called her with congratulations. It was like this was more important than the fact that I was going to a very highly ranked university, only that I made ABC. My mom, by the way, thinks this is so stupid. She didn't care if I joined a sorority or not.

Munchkin03 · #6 10-19-2008, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Xidelt

Is this mom for real?

Yeah, I can't get all invested in this to reply because it's probably fake.

UGAalum94 · #7 10-19-2008, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Xidelt

Is this mom for real?

I feel the same way. Seems more trollish than real to me.

I doubt anyone who could recognized everything mentioned by that post would ever post it. It's too transparently all about the mom.

dvs-dz · #8 10-19-2008, 09:39 AM

Have you considered that your daughter may have found a group where she is accepted and wanted? Where she has found friends she will have for a lifetime? That she wasn't just settling because she chose to continue to their pref and accept their bid? That maybe the other sororities (which would make you proud) may have treated her shabbily?

I take it your daughter must take after her father more than her mother.

AOII4ME · #9 10-19-2008, 10:03 AM

To the OP,

You can't help how you feel. You might consider that everyone is different and chooses differently. For whatever the reason, your daughter has chosen to see this through. I think it is true that sometimes moms get so wrapped up in the choices our children make, we can't separate what is their choice and what is ours to choose. I do think she will sense that you are uncomfortable with her decision and that will hurt her. I have several children and have tried to live the 'whatever they are is good enough, and hope they are able to apply it to me, and everyone in their lives. And, the truth is, it's not about you. If you just love her and help her with the choices she makes, it might help you both. Good luck.

kddani · #10 10-19-2008, 10:15 AM

Thank God your daughter found a place where she's happy and that's supportive of her. Because you're certainly not. You're a sick woman. So happy that your daughter is away from you now and with people who can teach her what it's really like to have people who care about her and her happiness, not just what social ladder she'll help them climb.

Bamamom13 · #11 10-19-2008, 11:29 AM

Ok, I'll bite, although I have my doubts that this is real.
OP, you wanted to hear from other moms, well here goes...
As a mom I think it is my job to raise happy, secure, self-confident individuals. It seems that you did your job. Now it is time to back off. Your daughter sounds like she is happy, she is secure where she is and she had the self-confidence to continue through rush when you had no confidence in her. It seems that you did your job well. As for the rest of your post, shut up and let her be her!!

Army Wife'79 · #12 10-19-2008, 12:22 PM

Your Greek letters down here are like the difference in driving a Mercedes or a old rusted out jalopy. For 99% of the posters on this thread they may as well be in Happy Rainbow Pony Land if they think it's not like this. Yes, unfortuately a stigma is placed on the "Mom" who, Bless her heart, couldn't even see to it that her D got into the right group. Women have stopped attending Junior League and charity functions after an unsuccessful rush for their daughters. I've only been here 2 years but I've overhead enough at social functions to realize there is Greek and there is "Southern Greeks".

Elephant Walk · #13 10-19-2008, 12:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Army Wife'79

Your Greek letters down here are like the difference in driving a Mercedes or a old rusted out jalopy. For 99% of the posters on this thread they may as well be in Happy Rainbow Pony Land if they think it's not like this. Yes, unfortuately a stigma is placed on the "Mom" who, Bless her heart, couldn't even see to it that her D got into the right group. Women have stopped attending Junior League and charity functions after an unsuccessful rush for their daughters. I've only been here 2 years but I've overhead enough at social functions to realize there is Greek and there is "Southern Greeks".

Sort of what I was thinking.

ComradesTrue · #14 10-19-2008, 01:02 PM

While this one woman may be a troll, unfortunately I have personally known women for whom these thoughts and feelings are true. I grew up in Texas and now live in SEC country and trust me, there are plenty of women who are like this. So the OP may be real, she may not be. But sadly she is representative of a segment of the population throughout the South.

I am *not* defending her/them at all... their whole attitude makes me want to puke. But- they are definitely out there.

magichat · #15 10-19-2008, 01:06 PM

While I don't exactly agree with the original poster's sentiments, I understand why she is upset. It is a shitty situation for the mother I suppose, but if her daughter is happy then so be it. I suppose the original poster needs to weigh whether she she would rather her daughter be GDI or be part of a bottom tier group with reputation such as it is.