Rush - What to NOT do or say - Page 21

33girl · #1 03-28-2008, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by alphagamgirl06

[*]When bid day doesnt turn out the way you hoped please keep a smile on your face and celebrate your new members. You should never have a negative attitude on bid day.

Ain't that the truth....

If you got 5 girls when the other sororities got 30...make the most of your bid day with those girls. They may have friends who didn't want to go through rush or who dropped out or who got cut who would make AWESOME sisters. That's what COB is for. They will be more likely to recommend joining if you stay positive.

If you find out the girl who you and half the sorority wanted for your little joined another group instead...hash out your feelings in private with your sisters, and then MOVE ON. Yeah, it hurts to be screwed over by a rushee like this....but it often turns out that a few years down the line she's regretting her decision.

PhiSigLisa · #2 05-07-2008, 11:57 PM

Please, please respect the "bubble" of personal space. I had a PNM who I had met once before leaning all over me at a COB event. It made me so uncomfortable and I'm not one of those "don't touch me" types!

Also, school always comes first. Don't skip class to come to events (my school has a lot of night classes for certain majors) and don't blow off your work. And if you do, don't talk about it!

DDDlady · #3 05-12-2008, 08:53 PM

I am sure that this has already been mentioned in another post, but these 2 things (especially the 1st one) are things you should never say during recruitment.

1) The semester before recruitment, our campus hosts a Saturday of brunches at the houses for girls that are seniors in high school or are planning to go through recruitment. These are short, informal things that last only about 20 minutes or so. The girls come in, grab a glass of punch, and chat to some actives. Anyway... This one girl come in to our house, starts talking to an active, and the first question out of her mouth is, "So tell me about all of the stereotypes for each of the houses. Like which ones are the smart girls, the party girls, the you really don't want to be their sister house?" The actives mouth fell open, and politely replied that we do not give merit to any stereotypes and all of the houses have their own unique personalities.

2) PNMs please.... If you are a legacy to another house, that is fine. I was a legacy to another house than the one I pledged. That said... DO NOT walk into a house, announce that you are an in house legacy, you will be there on bid day, and that you hate the house you are in. That is so rude, and if your legacy falls through (which happens more and more every year due to increasing numbers), you have ruined any chance you had with any other house.

megangammaphi · #4 05-23-2008, 04:07 AM

I just wanted to say that of all the things i have read on this discussion the MOST important one for PNM's is if you do not like a house do NOT be rude to that girl and here's a reason I do not believe has been mentioned: chances are the girl you are rude to HAS FRIENDS IN OTHER HOUSES. Just because you don't like one house as much as another doesn't mean you can be mean to them, because when someone is overly rude in our rush we are urged to report them to panellenic and all other houses are told what that girl has said. So that house you liked so much more than the one you were rude to, well you can kiss it good bye.

twinkle555 · #5 05-23-2008, 11:14 AM

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Originally Posted by megangammaphi

I just wanted to say that of all the things i have read on this discussion the MOST important one for PNM's is if you do not like a house do NOT be rude to that girl and here's a reason I do not believe has been mentioned: chances are the girl you are rude to HAS FRIENDS IN OTHER HOUSES. Just because you don't like one house as much as another doesn't mean you can be mean to them, because when someone is overly rude in our rush we are urged to report them to panellenic and all other houses are told what that girl has said. So that house you liked so much more than the one you were rude to, well you can kiss it good bye.

I totally agree with this! Whenever there has been a super rude girl in our house during recruitment, she "mysteriously" drops out or doesnt get a bid, probably due to the fact that GIRLS TALK!!

ASUADPi · #6 05-26-2008, 01:07 PM

DON'T wear clothes that you can't sit in! A girl went through recruitment at ASU like 4 years ago, she was a legacy to us, and she showed up chewing gum (another no-no), wearing a backwards baseball cap and a jean skirt. The kicker was that she sat with her legs wide open and the sisters saw her thong. DON'T DO THIS! (What was worse is that it was the first round and we couldn't drop her, thankfully she dropped us, besides the clothing issue the girls hated her)

DON'T assume that your legacy house will be a "shoo-in". Too often we have read threads from legacy's who just don't fit in with their legacy house and pledge elsewhere which goes to the DO keep your options open.

Phine · #7 05-27-2008, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by ASUADPi

DON'T wear clothes that you can't sit in! A girl went through recruitment at ASU like 4 years ago, she was a legacy to us, and she showed up chewing gum (another no-no), wearing a backwards baseball cap and a jean skirt. The kicker was that she sat with her legs wide open and the sisters saw her thong. DON'T DO THIS! (What was worse is that it was the first round and we couldn't drop her, thankfully she dropped us, besides the clothing issue the girls hated her)

In the same vein, watch your tops. Don't wear a shirt to recruitment that you wouldn't wear out with your parents. This past recruitment, two PNMS wore shirts that were so low cut we ended up referring to one as "nipple girl" (you can guess why) and one as "boob girl". Cleavage doesn't help get a bid, at least from my chapter.

shellyzilla · #8 05-31-2009, 01:41 PM

i just wanted to thank all of you ladies for this AMAZING advice. i went through formal recruitment last year and i broke a lot of these "rules". i was so nervous and instead of being myself i lied to be what i thought they wanted me to be. i hope that when i go through recruitment again they can forget whatever they thought i was last year and see the real my shine through. i just wanted to say thank you.

KSUViolet06 · #9 05-31-2009, 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by shellyzilla

i just wanted to thank all of you ladies for this AMAZING advice. i went through formal recruitment last year and i broke a lot of these "rules". i was so nervous and instead of being myself i lied to be what i thought they wanted me to be. i hope that when i go through recruitment again they can forget whatever they thought i was last year and see the real my shine through. i just wanted to say thank you.

A word of advice for PNMs:

Be yourselves. Seriously.

We're not just saying that to be cliche.

LucyKKG · #10 06-01-2009, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

A word of advice for PNMs:

Be yourselves. Seriously.

We're not just saying that to be cliche.

This reminded me of a small cute story. At our Senior Tea with the local alumnae association, we were all talking about why we joined our sorority. A lot of people mentioned how they felt so comfortable and like they were with family, etc. One sister mentioned her first night of recruitment. She walked in and someone was talking about Star Wars, and she thought, "Wow, they're just as weird as me!" Obviously, not every chapter is like that but I think you get my point. Why would you want to be fake during recruitment then not be able to be yourself for the rest of the time you're a member?

alphagamgirl06 · #11 05-23-2008, 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by megangammaphi

I just wanted to say that of all the things i have read on this discussion the MOST important one for PNM's is if you do not like a house do NOT be rude to that girl and here's a reason I do not believe has been mentioned: chances are the girl you are rude to HAS FRIENDS IN OTHER HOUSES. Just because you don't like one house as much as another doesn't mean you can be mean to them, because when someone is overly rude in our rush we are urged to report them to panellenic and all other houses are told what that girl has said. So that house you liked so much more than the one you were rude to, well you can kiss it good bye.

I Agree so much and the same thing goes for actives. When you meet a pnm that you don't like don't be rude to her because you never know who her friends or roommate are. Her best friend could be your rush crush and when that poor pnm who you were rude to tells her friend about it chances are that other girl will no longer be interested in your chapter.

KSUViolet06 · #12 05-23-2008, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by megangammaphi

I just wanted to say that of all the things i have read on this discussion the MOST important one for PNM's is if you do not like a house do NOT be rude to that girl and here's a reason I do not believe has been mentioned: chances are the girl you are rude to HAS FRIENDS IN OTHER HOUSES.

So true. As an alumna, I can tell you that yes, we talk. If there was someone who was horribly rude, I had no problem telling my friends in other sororities.

KSUViolet06 · #13 05-26-2008, 12:41 AM

Something important:

Be mindful of what you post here on GreekChat.

Don't ever assume "oh sorority members from my school don't post/lurk here."

Thousands of people come to this site every day. Some of them could very well include sorority members from your school.

If you're on GC posting really specific questions and including identifying information in your posts, it's not hard for girls from your school to figure out who you are.

This is no big deal if you're just asking normal questions about rush.

But if you're asking questions like "who's the best" or saying things about different sororities on campus "i.e. I will only consider ABC & XYZ", recruitment could become VERY difficult for you if sorority members from your school see that.

A general rule of thumb about posting here: If you wouldn't want a sorority member from your school to see it, don't post it.

PANTHERTEKE · #14 05-26-2008, 03:28 AM

I know this is for sororities but I have something to add, and since you girls are always crashing the Fraternity Recruitment forum I don't think you all would mind

Anyways... Something to think about is what you say, even if you THINK no one is paying attention.

This past spring we had some guy said "If I don't get a bid I'm slitting my wrists" and a brother overheard it, so sure enough......he didn't get a bid. Lol.

KappaKittyCat · #15 05-26-2008, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by PANTHERTEKE

Anyways... Something to think about is what you say, even if you THINK no one is paying attention.

This past spring we had some guy said "If I don't get a bid I'm slitting my wrists" and a brother overheard it, so sure enough......he didn't get a bid. Lol.

I'm going to expand that to say, in general, don't mention mental/physical illness at all. Otherwise you'll get pegged as "the Ebola (or whatever) rushee."