Be a good big!

[Bella796]

This is my first post just found this site, but I had to comment.

My big and I were best friends and were inseperable. Some of my favorite memories of college involve her. We did everything together and it was sort of hard because when someone invited me they had to include her and vice versa. It was great but I was older than her and was the more responsible and reliable one so I was sometimes the big. While active I then took 4 littles but was never as close to them as I was my big. Unfortuantly my big and I had a huge falling out and we don't really talk but I will always cherish our memories and I am happy to have had her in my life because she introduced me to my GLO.

I did have a problem because I not only worked, double majored, participated in nearly every club on campus but I was also on exec and president of my sorority. It was really hard to handle everything and I did not have a lot of time for my littles. I had one little that was jealous that I was president and actually told me so (she dropped) but we are still friends and she regrets her decision I think.

I do wish that I did spend more time with my littles, but in my oppinion being a big sister is to be a good example of what your sorority and a strong woman stands for. I had a tradition that after initiation, I would take my little out and we would reflect on the iniation and go over the meanings and how it affected her. I was always there if they had a problem and I am still always there for them. I can't wait till one day they are my bridesmaids, as I will be theirs.

[Thetagirl218]

My big sister and I are friends, but we lost touch about a year ago. We still talk occasionally, but we are not as close as we once were.

I adopted both of my littles! They actually asked me to be their big sister. It not be "official", but we don't care and everyone in my chapter knows who my littles are!

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Bella796

This is my first post just found this site, but I had to comment.

My big and I were best friends and were inseperable. Some of my favorite memories of college involve her. We did everything together and it was sort of hard because when someone invited me they had to include her and vice versa. It was great but I was older than her and was the more responsible and reliable one so I was sometimes the big. While active I then took 4 littles but was never as close to them as I was my big. Unfortuantly my big and I had a huge falling out and we don't really talk but I will always cherish our memories and I am happy to have had her in my life because she introduced me to my GLO.

I did have a problem because I not only worked, double majored, participated in nearly every club on campus but I was also on exec and president of my sorority. It was really hard to handle everything and I did not have a lot of time for my littles. I had one little that was jealous that I was president and actually told me so (she dropped) but we are still friends and she regrets her decision I think.

I do wish that I did spend more time with my littles, but in my oppinion being a big sister is to be a good example of what your sorority and a strong woman stands for. I had a tradition that after initiation, I would take my little out and we would reflect on the iniation and go over the meanings and how it affected her. I was always there if they had a problem and I am still always there for them. I can't wait till one day they are my bridesmaids, as I will be theirs.

Sounds like you were a very good Big Sis, Bella. I would have loved for my big to sit down with me after initiation to discuss the meaning. In the end, I taught my big sis ritual! Ha! She was a great big sis but in different ways.

Originally Posted by sororitygifts

For making that big/little relationship more special, I know that some sisters enjoy making handmade gifts. I have a blog called Sorority Sisters that is mainly centered on offering ideas, pictures, and directions for sorority gifts that you can make yourself. Since we all often have a little more time available to be creative in the summer, I thought y'all might like to look at some ideas for inspiration so that you can start early by making some gifts for next year. I read all the comments on my blog, so if you have any suggestions for content you would like to see, leave me a message and I will see what I can do to help.
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[Senusret I]

I done tol' her.

[UGAalum94]

I had a good sister mother and I was a decent one myself, I think.

Looking back, I think if possible it would be a great idea to have the big sisters be people living in the house or on the hall if you are a campus that does that as much as possible. My experience was that folks living in were always more at the center of things than those who weren't and I feel like maybe it would tie people in deeper to the organization as a whole. And since I think a lot of places people live in as sophomores, it would mean that the relationship could fully develop over time, even if it formally ends at initiation if that's the case.

[MontanaTheta]

My big sister is amazing! We didn't really have too much in common at first, but as we got to know each other and spend time together we realized the similarities we do have! With her ebing so involved in the house (she is our president and my grand-big was the president before her) it has inspired me to be more involved, hence my taking on the rolls of Recruitment Chairman and Facility Manager at the same time for 2008! I can't wait to become a Big and inspire girls to become involved in the house and set positive examples, like my big has!

[sarahsmilehawk]

I have a pretty mediocre big.

The first problem was that they assigned my someone I'd NEVER met or even seen around. She was on food duty during recruitment, so while everyone was hugging at diamond sister reveal, I was introducing myself.

Then I found out how busy my big really is. She is rarely at the house, never at chapter (some kind of conflict), and misses most of the non-mandatory events. She is also less enthusiastic about sorority life than your average big. Even today, I'm not 100% sure why she's in a sorority at all.

The good news is that my big is actually a really cool person and we have a lot in common. It just took me a long time to figure that out because we so rarely saw each other or talked. This year I'm moving into the house and she'll be living right across the hall, so I think things will get better.

But it does motivate me to be a dedicated big. I can't wait!

[Buttonz]

I think some of you might have heard my story in the past but...

There was this girl, lets call her Jessica. Jessica knew she wanted to pledge us but just didn't have the money, and she was friends with a lot of the sisters. She knew she'd have the money together in the fall, and she only wanted SDT, and the sisters wanted her as a sister as well.

The two girls next up for littles, let's call them Sarah and Melissa. It was clear that Melissa and my pledge sister were great together and would be big and little. Sarah wanted to wait and take Jessica the next semester. The little I saw of Sarah before big/little night I didn't like and didn't want her as a big. She was basically told if she didn't take me she would give up the chance to have a little and she still might not get Jessica in the fall, so she took me.

I had more contact with Melissa then her and was closer to Melissa and other sisters then to Sarah. I don't think I even spoke to her at all during the summer. Fall came and Jessica got a bid. Due to circumstances, Sarah wound up taking her as her second little, and treated her great. I have to admit, I was jealous at initiation seeing all the gifts that Jessica got that I didn't get and seeing how great she was to her, but I was happy that Jessica got a good big.

Jessica disaffilated not even two weeks later, saying now that she was engaged to the guy she was dating, she didn't have a need for a sorority anymore.

Break came, and Sarah, myself, my pledge sister and another sister signed up for the school's leadership retreat. Sarah and I were going to be sharing a room so I knew I'd somehow have to get along with her for three days. I invited her out for a slice of pizza and offered her my house to spend the night in, as it's closer to school and easier to get to in the morning. She agreed, and we had a blast. Ever since then, we've been close. Maybe not super close, and I never had the chance of having a big that I was close with through pledging, but I value the relationship that we have now.

As for my little, once I transfered schools she refused to answer my calls, e-mails or IMs. It hurt me a lot at first, because she started pledging, de-pledged because of family issues, and then re-pledged the next semester and we were close. However I speak to my grand lil from time to time, and I have other sisters I'm close with so that's what counts.

[ree-Xi]

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[PhiMuGirl07]

My Big and I are not best friends but she is a great big! We hung out quite a few times before big and little reveal and I knew I wanted her to be my big because I really respected her and looked up to her. I was looking for a role model not a best friend. She has always made it very clear that I could talk to her about anything and she always makes an effort to hang out with me. I hope when I'm a big in the fall I am able to be as good of a big as she is. I think less emphasis should be put on being best friends and more emphasis should be put on being good role models.