Meanest Thing You've Done/Said to a Rushee

[33girl]

Originally Posted by EE-BO

One guy showed up to a party in a knit vest

With nothing underneath?

[Hamburglar]

my school doesnt have a big, developed greek system, so I apologize if I sound ignorant, but is "walking someone out" literally just like kicking them out of a rush event and telling them that they shouldn't come back?

[SoCalGirl]

Originally Posted by Hamburglar

my school doesnt have a big, developed greek system, so I apologize if I sound ignorant, but is "walking someone out" literally just like kicking them out of a rush event and telling them that they shouldn't come back?

It's a nicer way of doing that. Especially if you see "back door", the guys are trying to be discrete about getting rid of an undesirable rushee.

[gtdxeric]

Originally Posted by Hamburglar

my school doesnt have a big, developed greek system, so I apologize if I sound ignorant, but is "walking someone out" literally just like kicking them out of a rush event and telling them that they shouldn't come back?

When you put it like that, it sounds mean, but it doesn't necessarily have to be. If the fraternity knows that a rushee isn't getting a bid, then the rushee might like to know too, so he doesn't waste his time there when he could be finding his place elsewhere. Walking a rushee out can be much kinder than just letting the rushee hang around awkwardly, wondering when his bid is going to come.

[PANTHERTEKE]

I know this is kind of going off topic, but what's the meanest thing you/your chapter has ever done to a pledge??

One guy that was pledging with me got dropped 2 days before we were to be initiated. Lol

[GooniePDT49]

Originally Posted by CrackerBarrel

Let me clarify, I'm not talking about cutting in the middle of the semester. We do a single blackball rush, and I blackballed some of these kids, walked them out, whatever you want to call it.

It comes down to this - we're a selective house, and we can't let them in just because one person wants them in, that's not being selective. People don't see the faults with their own friends, other people can. The fact that they're friends with my brother doesn't qualify them to be my brother.

Yes but the question becomes a bit more of an issue when they're a legacy. We've had a few who were legacies and were complete retards. They still are complete retards, but got in anyways cuz they're legacies.

[GooniePDT49]

Originally Posted by PANTHERTEKE

I know this is kind of going off topic, but what's the meanest thing you/your chapter has ever done to a pledge??

One guy that was pledging with me got dropped 2 days before we were to be initiated. Lol

Yeah, that happened in my pledge class cuz the guy pissed off several brothers throughout the pledge process and was pretty damn racist. He was dropped the night of initiation.

[RedRover]

One of my friends told me that his worst experience during rush was when he realized that he was not going to get any bid from any fraternity. He said that the silence from fraternity members and his fellow rushees was deafening.

[EE-BO]

Originally Posted by PANTHERTEKE

I know this is kind of going off topic, but what's the meanest thing you/your chapter has ever done to a pledge??

One guy that was pledging with me got dropped 2 days before we were to be initiated. Lol

You know, looking back I cannot think that there was anything that I thought truly mean.

The most important boss I have ever had- meaning the one person who has had the greatest positive impact on my career and my leadership style- once taught me an important lesson about firing people.

She told me that if I ever fired someone and they were totally surprised- then it was my fault because someone who is about to get fired should have already received proper warnings and specific expectations such that they would, deep down inside, know what was going to happen when they came in the office to meet me for a "chat".

I think the same holds true for pledgeship. Maybe not every semester, but at least once a year a pledge would get dropped. And yes, sometimes it was close to the point of initiation.

But I do not ever remember any of them being totally surprised about it.

So we did our job in making sure they knew before the fact that they were not meeting expectations. After that it was just a matter of them failing to fix the problem and then just waiting to be let go.

[beachsnake]

When I was rushing I had a member of a fraternity at a party pull the "race" card on me(since I'm Asian/Pacific islander) and when I asked for water they said, "You no want sake?", in a terrible attempt at an "asian" accent. I just took it as he was drunk and trying to be funny so I shrugged it off.