Meanest Thing You've Done/Said to a Rushee
 

Just something to bring some life to this Forum.

Blackballed a number of kids that guys in the house had come by for rush, like friends from home.

^^^Why would you do that to a friend?

I remember one time this guy had come by the house in the middle of the day to check our fraternity out, well the guy had this ugly tat that he couldn't finish because he didn't have the money to finish, who knows why the hell he was trying to rush a fraternity. So, a couple of us went to get beer, and asked anyone if they wanted any, and this guy said he did. So we went, picked up a couple of cases of beer for ourselves, and picked up this guy a Colt 40. He drank the whole thing too, which by the time he got to the bottom must have been really hot. He still tried going through formal rush, and I think after that he got the picture.

Let me clarify, I'm not talking about cutting in the middle of the semester. We do a single blackball rush, and I blackballed some of these kids, walked them out, whatever you want to call it.

It comes down to this - we're a selective house, and we can't let them in just because one person wants them in, that's not being selective. People don't see the faults with their own friends, other people can. The fact that they're friends with my brother doesn't qualify them to be my brother.

Did you say anything afterwards to the guys that had invited them?

I do know where you're coming from, we had a girl who kept inviting some of her friends even though no one else in the chapter had any interest in them at all...I guess she thought they'd "grow on us" or something.

Yeah, I explained why I didn't think that they should get a bid or if I thought there was a house they would be a good fit at I told them to point them that direction. There have also been some where I felt bad about it and just told my brother to try to guide their friends elsewhere because I was going to walk them out if they kept coming by our rush.

So in other words, you were a lot nicer than you sounded in your first post. :)

convinced a drunk rush to throw his shoes in the (lit) fireplace...then blackballed him the next morning.

If it's a kid I just plain don't like when they come through, I'll walk them out and tell them to go somewhere that they could get a bid because they won't at our house and are wasting their rush, whether they were invited or not. I will still at least tell their friend why I did it though.

If it's someone who just isn't going to get a bid that I feel sorry for, I'll try to get his friend to stop bringing him around first, but if that doesn't work I'll still walk him out.

sucks for that kid.

I would have loved to have been there for this. It sounds hilarious.

Oh man- good thread.

I was pretty blunt during rush back in the day. One guy showed up to a party in a knit vest and I told him he needed to go home, change and come back. He got an attitude about it, so I just told him to leave for good- and he did.

But it is really kind of lame to just tell some kid he sucks. It is a lot more fun to really draw it out and teach him a lesson.

My favorite tactic with a substandard rushee was to get him to start talking about everywhere else he was rushing. Often such rushees would take the bait and talk about the other houses they liked- and the higher their favorite was above their real chances, the better.

And then once we had this info, we would tell the guy we got a call from someone at that house and that he needed to go over there right away and hang out since he had a real shot.

You would not believe how often guys fell for this.

It does not really work so well during summer rush, but at Roundup or other times when all of the houses are having rush events- it is lots of fun.

The craziest thing that I knew that happened at W&L was one of my friends got a phone message (this was freshman year before most people had cells!) from a house that was just the "Na Na... Na Na Na Na... Hey Hey Hey Goodbye" song over and over again. And then at the end they were like "This is XYZ, don't come back." That was pretty harsh. And I know it's true because I heard the message.

More commonly kids got walked out/asked to leave parties/told not to come back.

Stuff like that makes me happy I'm a girl. :D

So true. I see it too often in sorority rush. One member's best friend since forever and everyone else who knows/met the pnm can't stand her. The active takes it as a personal insult. She can't see that if we did cave to her pressure/drama and extend the pnm a bid, that pnm would never be happy. Nobody can stand the girl and her life would be miserable. Is that what you want for your friend? The pnm's much better off finding another group where she fits in with many more people than just the 1.