What went wrong with your wedding?

[RaggedyAnn]

Oh, this brings back memories...

My headpiece was never ordered. I called the day it was supposed to arrive and they couldn't find it. Then they said they did. I told them I hope it wasn't the one on display, because there was something wrong with it. It was. I took it anyway. It fell apart during my rehearsal hairstyle. They sent it in to be refurbished. When I went to pick it up, let's just say it was horrid looking. They had to redo it because the flowers were different and different colors. They painted them and got paint on the pearls. It looked fine in the end, but it is not the same headpiece as I originally picked out and there is no way it can be used as a first communion headpiece anymore-which is why I picked it out in the first place.

My hairdresser of 8 years tried a new hair coloring technique 5 days before the wedding. Let's just say I had a bright red strip of roots with auburn hair. She redyed it. It was still two different colors. I had to leave to go pick up my rings, so she had me meet her first thing in the morning to redye it again. When dry it looked the same color pretty much--not when wet-and wouldn't you know we were going to the Bahamas?

I couldn't figure out why the pieces of wedding cheese cake were so small at the reception. We had bought an extra large tier that wasn't on display. Well, neither the cake or reception people know what happened to it or the container of fruit that was left to add to the top of the cake. Oh yeah, the top of my cake was mixed fruit and I was missing like half of it. It was good though and the one complaint was that everyone's piece was too small.

The reception hall decided to modify my seating plan-which had my inlaws sitting across the hall from each other because they were in the middle of a nasty divorce-not next to each other! Luckily I had a great DJ who swapped tables around. I wondered why my second uncle and third cousins were sitting at the table next to my parents! It could have been MUCH worse.

And finally the photographer-though if they miss you coming into the church, the husband standing at the front of the church, the first kiss and your MIL coming into the reception with you ring bearer and flower girl, would you honestly call them one? Or having to ask to move because you are looking straight into the sun and everyone's face is squinted up? Let's see, we are going on 5 years and have yet to get our wedding album done. We can't even find good pictures out the lot. I'll spare you the details on how the ones he did take came out.

Our guests had a great time though. Everyone is still talking about how great it was. Our DJ was first rate and got 4 contracts that I know of out of it.

[ComradesTrue]

I did the traditional church wedding. As the organist started to play my processional music, dad and I moved toward the door to go in... not realizing the danged wedding coordinator had her foot on the train of my vail.

So... vail comes tumbling down, taking down half my up-do with it.

This whole time the door into the church remained closed. It took one-and-a-half stanzas of the anthem for the wedding coordinator to get the vail back on, and my hair partly put back together.

Meanwhile, my poor husband is standing up at the front sweating that I wasn't coming. He still gives me a hard time about it 4 years later.

[sageofages]

I was a wedding coordinator at our church for a long time...and a darned good one I would like to say!

I learned how NOT to be from the witch who was the coordinator at my baby sister's wedding. My sister was married at a church where we were not members because our church was just a little small for her financee's LARGE local family.

I made my sister's wedding dress. It had a very detailed and specially beaded and embroidered train. The wedding coordinator kept saying that right before my sister would go down the aisle she would adjust her train, and my sister would tell her EMPHATICALLY "NO, my sister made the dress and I want her to do all of that". It got to the point where my sister talked to the minister about this and he had to intercede with the wedding coordinator about this issue.

SO...I am 5 months pregnant when my sister is married and already quite big and a bit off balance. My sister is standing in the doorway of the sancutary about to head down the aisle. I bend over to adjust her train and that
(&%^%$ wedding coordinator puts two hands on my rear and SHOVES me forward onto my hands and knees! Fortunately, my sister had started walking down the aisle so I didn't land on her dress.

I politely closed the door and ripped that person a new one (poor Mr. Sageofages he was mortified!). After the wedding, my parents sent a letter of complaint to the church about her attitude.

[srmom]

We had the full blown huge wedding planned down to a T (my mom did the planning while I was still in college, I got married 3 weeks after I graduated). We had 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen, 6 ushers, plus a ring bearer and two flower girls - so a large wedding party.

Part of the plan was that the attendents would park their cars at the club where the reception was being held. A limo service was taking us all from the church to the reception, we had ordered 4, and then one limo would stay and take me and my husband to our hotel for the night (we were leaving the next morning for our honeymoon).

The wedding went of without a hitch, it was beautiful. So, after the ceremony, we all stay behind to have the pictures taken. This takes quite a while, so the church is deserted. We walk out to go to the reception and NO LIMOS. The only cars that were at the church were family members who had been in the pictures. Somehow, we piled in, everybody sitting on top of each other crammed into these cars. I was sitting on my husbands lap in the front seat of his dad's car (2 door sports car) - mind you, I had a stiff satin gown with a cathedral length train and veil - try cramming that into a front seat!

It was absolutely hilarious when we got to the reception, watching everybody come piling out of cars, like some comedy skit.

[srmom]

OH, and one more thing. I was wearing this strapless bra/slip thing. Well, that thing was squeezing me to death. I couldn't catch my breath, I thought I was having a panic attack or extreme anxiety. As the night went on, it got worse and worse. Finally, I went into the ladies lounge where I laid on a chaize. One of my mom's friends found me and thinking that I needed to calm down, gave me some valium pills.

I did feel better, but immediately crashed the minute we hit our room that night - how romantic

[Scully]

Considering all that COULD have gone wrong, our wedding went pretty smooth! And really, once your day begins, there is not much you can do, so just roll with the punches...

• It was raining lightly when I woke up and went with my mom to get our hair done - but I think that's good luck!

• The florist delivered our bouquets and boutonnières to the house, but managed to forget my throw-away. No problem, I used one of my girls' at the reception instead.

• When our photographer was placing us on our front lawn for pictures, I was sandwiched in between my mom and dad, my mom put her hand around my shoulders and found something sticky! Apparently, I had been pooped on from above! But I think that's good luck, too!

• One of the towncars we ordered from the limo company failed to show up to pick up the groom's mother and my parents for their ride to the church. No problem - DH and his groomsmen made room for his mother in their limo and my girls and I all squished in with my parents. It actually made for a fun trip to the altar!

[AGDee]

I'll post my first wedding now. I was pretty much a Bridezilla that day and things didn't go as I wanted. I was much more relaxed about everything the second time around. First wedding: After dinner, we had gone around to all the tables to greet people and the photographer was bugging us to get portraits taken. I was mad because we'd had 4 hours in between the ceremony and reception to do portraits and I wanted to be enjoying my reception. Someone commented to me that my veil was askew so I went in the bathroom to try to fix it. Well, part of it had come unsewed from the headpiece so I was frantic. My aunt happened to have a sewing kit in her purse (thank goodness for her!) so I sewed the veil back together in the bathroom. While I was sewing, someone came in and said that the photographer wanted me for portraits and the cake guy wanted us to come out and cut the cake and I was feeling pulled in too many directions at once and started snapping at people. The only two dances I got to dance that entire night was the bridal dance and the dance with my dad and I had really wanted to be out there dancing, not taking care of all that bs stuff!!! I had a horrible time

[aephi alum]

Great thread.

Nothing major went wrong with my wedding, but there were a few minor things.

- DH and I had arranged for a room at the reception hotel for the night before the wedding. (The honeymoon suite on the wedding night was part of the package.) First they sent us to a room that had one twin bed instead of the king bed they'd promised. When we asked for a different room, they gave us a room that had a king bed... and was occupied. Finally they found a room for us - two twin beds, but hey, it was only one night and we did have the king bed for the wedding night.

- I forgot my shoes!! I said I'd walk down the aisle in stocking feet, but DH insisted on driving back to our apartment to get my white shoes.

- The band forgot that my MOH was going to give a toast. So, my mom and in-laws do a toast, the best man does his toast, and the band starts playing! Well, you don't mess with my MOH - she made it quite clear that she had a toast to give too.

- It rained, so our photos had to be done indoors.

- DH is a klutz, so I joked before the wedding that I was going to arrange with the rabbi to have white wine, not red. DH said, no, the wine has to be red. So, at the ceremony, the rabbi handed me the glass of wine (the glass is metal and therefore opaque), and surprise - the wine was white. I took a sip and handed the glass to DH. DH did a double take. Later, our best man told us that he thought DH had gotten last-minute cold feet and was about to run away!

But nothing really bad happened

[pbear19]

My mother in law decided at the last minute not to come, sending word an hour before the ceremony that she had nothing to wear and would not be in attendance. Then, after being coerced by my brother in law, she showed up at the last minute and left right after the wedding, so that my husband danced the mother/son song with his sister.

While it is unbecoming and I am embarrassed about my feelings, I can admit that 7 years later it still pisses me off.

The only other bad thing was after the wedding. I have no idea how, and it sounds like I made up the story; but I couldn't sleep a couple of nights after the wedding and was watching the wedding video late at night. I fell asleep on the couch, somehow rolled over onto the remote and pressed the exact combination of buttons that would make the tape start recording over. It erased the whole tape - which was of course the only copy. (Hubby's friend who worked at the local news station made it and didn't make a back up copy.) And of course my relative who was supposed to film using my camera as backup failed to record the ceremony.

Overall it was an incredible experience and I really have no regrets, nor would I do it much differently today.

[Jill1228]

Originally Posted by pbear19

My mother in law decided at the last minute not to come, sending word an hour before the ceremony that she had nothing to wear and would not be in attendance. Then, after being coerced by my brother in law, she showed up at the last minute and left right after the wedding, so that my husband danced the mother/son song with his sister.

While it is unbecoming and I am embarrassed about my feelings, I can admit that 7 years later it still pisses me off.

I feel you on this one. My father didn't show up to my wedding. I haven't seen or spoken to him since--and have no desire to

[ADqtPiMel]

I was very, very lucky in that nothing really went wrong. I did forget to wear the ungodly expensive slip that made the skirt of my dress poof out, which made the beaded skirt a lot heavier and longer than it should have been. If the worst that happened was a little wasted money and hip pain, I'd say it all turned out really well.

[SWTXBelle]

Wedding #2 - basically an elopement. What could go wrong with an elopement? Well, we were going to go to the apartment of the justice of the peace and be married there (had the church ceremony later, btw). The night before, the washing machine of the apartment above her flooded both apartments, so when we got there all the carpets were rolled up and big fans were going everywhere. We had to almost jump over the big carpet rolls, and I knocked over a tray of crystal animals. Our witness didn't arrive until after the ceremony - wonder if it is legal???

[trojangal]

Hmm....let's see


1. I rode in with my parents and DH rode in with his brother. After the wedding and the pictures, everyone except my parents had gone to the reception hall. We realized that we didn't have a way to get to our own reception so we had to bum a ride off of my parents.


2. DH's wedding ring almost hit a gutter before the ceremony. As I was giving it to the MOH to hold, she dropped it and it started rolling. Someone had just opened the door, and it decided to roll out the door...down the hall, and headed towards the grate at the end of the sidewalk. I yelled "someone get it, quick!" and one of the groomsmen stopped it with his foot as he was coming up the walk.

3. Our DJ was terrible..she didn't play the right songs, and even worse, she started to hit on some of the wedding party!

4. We met up with some friends immediately after the reception so we could spend time with them..since we had the limo, we all decided to use it to cruise around. My BIL, former bartender, decided to mix MY drinks. It was not good...especially when we got back to the hotel. I was terribly sick, and one of my good friends had to help me out of my dress so I wouldnt' get sick on it. I've never let him mix anything since then. So..the wedding night wasn't so great b/c of that, and I've still to make up for it.

5. Same friends from above teased me the next day telling me they enjoyed the cheeseburger platter that I apparently ordered but didn't eat. I don't remember even ordering room service.

[Benzgirl]

One of my sorority sisters was married in downtown Pittsburgh. During the ceremony, 6 cars of the guests were stolen. The tone of the reception was a bit subdued. Maybe that was a foreshadow that the wedding barely lasted a year.

[Nanners52674]

So this didnt happen to me as im not married but it happened to my big sister. . .

Her husbands brother was the best man and his toast was horrible not only did it go on for 15 minutes guest started sitting down and his father had to come up and tell him to stop talking but his toast included such gems as saying that when he first met my sister he figured she would just be a one night stand or short term relationship and that she came along at the worst time in his brothers life. . . To this day no one has really talked about it front of my sister but the rest of the family jokes about it from time to time. . .