Wedding planning - Page 2

mu_agd · #16 04-09-2007, 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by RitaMae1908

Some devious brides or wanna-be-brides have started trouble by contacting another bride's vendor(s) and cancelling contracts, making unauthorized changes, etc...

Are people honestly that bored with their lives??

ZTABullwinkle · #17 04-09-2007, 07:52 PM

Thanks for all the advice so far. Keep it coming. I am sure that I am not the GC'er who is wondering about this.

DSTRen13 · #18 04-09-2007, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by RitaMae1908

Some devious brides or wanna-be-brides have started trouble by contacting another bride's vendor(s) and cancelling contracts, making unauthorized changes, etc... not meant to scare you away... but anything you save under your "MyKnot" section cannot be viewed by the public so it's safe there. But as an additional precautionary measure I established a secret password with all my vendors for any business I do by phone (so they know it's really me calling)... that way evil ex-girlfriends or troblesome hateful FMILs can't spoil your Big Day!!!

Oh wow ... I have never heard of this ... that really freaks me out ...

To the OP --- I wish I had some better advice, but I am still trying to figure this thing out myself! I have an "idea scrapbook" of things that I like, articles from bridal mags that are helpful, that sort of thing - it's been really good to explain to vendors what I'm talking about. We set the date before anything else so we would have something to tell vendors, then secured our location, then did dresses, then the photographer, and now we're working on invitations --- anyone have any advice on those??

BetteDavisEyes · #19 04-09-2007, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by ZTABullwinkle

I am newly engaged. I have seen the threads on wedding dresses and engagement rings. I am stuck as to where to start with my wedding planning. My thoughts are so scattered and overwhelming that the thought is pretty daunting.

First of all, Congratulations!

Now, to answer your questions. I was married in December of 05 so it wasn't that long ago. I hope to answer your questions as best as I can.

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Originally Posted by ZTABullwinkle

We have yet to set a date, since there seems to be many things to take into account...such as:

my best friend is my maid of honor, and I am in her wedding on June 28, 2008. So how far apart do you plan your weddings so you don't go nutso with both weddings?

You can pretty much plan them as close or as far apart as you feel comfortable doing. It really depends on how hectic you think hers is going to be and how much stress do you really want to be in if your wedding is only a few days or weeks after hers. My .02 is to give yourself some recovery time from her wedding to your own so that you can focus on your life and not have to constantly be planning a wedding and being a maid of honor for her at the same time.

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Originally Posted by ZTABullwinkle

getting married during September or October here in Virginia Beach means that an uninvited hurricane may be coming.

You take the good with the bad. If you're that worried about it, then don't do it in a month where you'll have to look at the weather bulletins on a daily basis. Still, if you have your heart set on a fall wedding, go for it. Just have a contingency plan prepared as a "just in case".

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Originally Posted by ZTABullwinkle

getting married in late July or August is going to be HOT!!!

If you want to get married in these months, have an indoor wedding at a location with great air conditioning. Or have an outdoor evening wedding if it gets cooler there at night. I've never been to Virginia Beach so I'm not really sure of the weather there.

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Originally Posted by ZTABullwinkle

So, any advice would be extremely helpful!! Thanks!

Other advice is to know ahead of time what you want, your budget, and what fits your style the best. Stick with your vision of what you want your wedding to be and NOT what others thing your vision should be. Finally, ask your groom for his help. He may not want to help it but it never hurts to ask and you may be surprised. He may be willing to help you out a lot...or he could just tell you to let him know when & where.

Hope this helps!

~B

James · #20 04-09-2007, 09:50 PM

What is a Bridezilla?

carnation · #21 04-09-2007, 10:57 PM

A terrible, screaming, control freak bride.

CutiePie2000 · #22 04-09-2007, 11:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ZTABullwinkle

getting married in late July or August is going to be HOT!!!

So, any advice would be extremely helpful!! Thanks!

Congratulations on your nuptials. Can you get married in Spring: April, May or June 2008? Or is that too soon? Or is everything booked already? The weather might be cooler.

AlexMack · #23 04-09-2007, 11:53 PM

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Originally Posted by James

What is a Bridezilla?

My sister for a time. Also what carnation said.

CutiePie2000 · #24 04-09-2007, 11:57 PM

PS Since you are a Zeta, I found your cake topper:

Jill1228 · #25 04-10-2007, 12:12 AM

This is a great site to read about bridezillas from hell.
Etiquette Hell

I read these and told my bridesmaids "if I ever start acting like these hos, feel free to slap me!"

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Originally Posted by James

What is a Bridezilla?

Jill1228 · #26 04-10-2007, 12:16 AM

Congrats hon!

First, relax. Make sure you have the wedding YOU want, not the wedding the parents want.

Unless they say that they are paying for something and SHOW YOU DA MONEY, assume you are paying for it yourself

The wedding is just for one day...it is just the start of things

if something goes wrong, take a deep breath and calm down

Learn to delegate! Do not try to be superwoman and do everything alone.

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Originally Posted by ZTABullwinkle

I am newly engaged. I have seen the threads on wedding dresses and engagement rings. I am stuck as to where to start with my wedding planning. My thoughts are so scattered and overwhelming that the thought is pretty daunting.

We have yet to set a date, since there seems to be many things to take into account...such as:

my best friend is my maid of honor, and I am in her wedding on June 28, 2008. So how far apart do you plan your weddings so you don't go nutso with both weddings?
getting married during September or October here in Virginia Beach means that an univited hurricane may be coming
getting married in late July or August is going to be HOT!!!

So, any advice would be extremely helpful!! Thanks!

Jimmy Choo · #27 04-10-2007, 12:17 AM

Congrats on your engagement!!!

My best advice is once you set a date and decide if you want a big or small wedding your next call should be to a wedding planner! He/she will help you keep your sanity and help you deal with all the nit-picky details that will come up. In the end you are the one calling the shots but they deal with the fine details. Good luck!!

RitaMae1908 · #28 04-10-2007, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by mu_agd

Are people honestly that bored with their lives??

You would be surprised!!!

RitaMae1908 · #29 04-10-2007, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTRen13

Oh wow ... I have never heard of this ... that really freaks me out ...

To the OP --- I wish I had some better advice, but I am still trying to figure this thing out myself! I have an "idea scrapbook" of things that I like, articles from bridal mags that are helpful, that sort of thing - it's been really good to explain to vendors what I'm talking about. We set the date before anything else so we would have something to tell vendors, then secured our location, then did dresses, then the photographer, and now we're working on invitations --- anyone have any advice on those??

I have a scrapbook as well... well more of a binder separated into sections.. bakery, flowers, attire, etc.. when ever I finish a task or make deposits on something, etc. I put the reciepts in my binder. It makes things easier to find when you have everything all in one place!!!

And congrats to you sistergreek on your upcoming nuptials!!!

KSUViolet06 · #30 04-10-2007, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by RitaMae1908

Goodie. It is a life saver for me!!! But beware of posting specific info on any of the public forums. Some devious brides or wanna-be-brides have started trouble by contacting another bride's vendor(s) and cancelling contracts, making unauthorized changes, etc... not meant to scare you away... but anything you save under your "MyKnot" section cannot be viewed by the public so it's safe there. But as an additional precautionary measure I established a secret password with all my vendors for any business I do by phone (so they know it's really me calling)... that way evil ex-girlfriends or troblesome hateful FMILs can't spoil your Big Day!!!

WHOA. So you mean another bride will call a vendor pretending to be you and make changes to YOUR wedding?

I can just hear that phone call, "Hi Happy Wedding Cake Company? This is Becky. Yes, Becky Jackson. I was just calling to ask if we could change my cake flavor from regular lemon to stewed prune please? Thanks so much, bye!"

*hangs up, makes evil laugh, and rubs hands together*

I can't believe people could be THAT stalkerish. Good thing vendors usually call you and double check any changes before they get started on them.

Seriously, my only advice for anyone who is getting married is to just BE NICE. The lady I babysit for is a wedding planner and I've met some of the brides she's worked with. There were a few nice ones, and those were the ones that she went the extra mile for and really went out of her way to get them good deals. The rest of them were real Bridezillas.

I remember one lady who came in one day to see a preview of her centerpieces. The candle holders were not to her specifications. So what did she do? She whacks them and they fly across the table. I just happened to be sitting in the next room and I heard this loud CRASH. This lady was seriously NEAR TEARS over candleholders. I mean, seriously? It was crazy.

And for goodness sakes, be nice to your bridesmaids. I've been in weddings for girls whom I LOVE to death but wanted to STRANGLE for the entire weekend of the wedding because they were just complete bridezillas.