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Originally Posted by MusicLVR
[COLOR=black] After seeking the advice of a few, I wrote the sorority an email expressing my interest and really for the first time being open about how much I wanted to be a part of their sorority. It was hard for me to do but I knew I had to have some sort of closure either way. So I got a very polite email response letting me know that the sorority had made its selection for the semester. I was encouraged to try again the semester that followed.
I was in shock (although come on- NO calls, No emails I felt the truth in my gut), I was sad and basically felt like I had no idea what had just happened. The whole thing was over in an instant- I mean it was FAST!
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MusicLVR,
I know this is kind of late and I'm a little behind. I just wanted to advise you. I had a very similiar thing happen to me. I am an Alpha Gam legacy and while I love everything about Alpha Gam there is not a chapter at my school. My freshman year I attended some informal rush parties just to find out what sororities were like. Then, the following semester I participated in formal rush. I'm at UNCG-in NC and it's not horribly competative here. 5 NPC sororities and 4 NPHC sororities and Theta Nu Xi (I'm not sure which category they fit into cuz they are our only multicultural greek org here.) I did not get invited back to pref night and I was crushed to say the least. Being in a sorority was what i wanted more than anything....I had prepared for it for weeks. After that ended, the sorority I was really interested in had not met quota through formal recruitment (gave out 25 bids and only got 12 girls) so I attended their informal rush parties, but never heard anything back. I was amazed...I have an excellent gpa, was VP of a student org....I was involved before recruitment...to say the least. Following that, I contacted greek life and extension and whether or not I could begin the Alpha Gam extension process and even though I had the support of local alumnae and my sisters school, my campus was not open for extension.
I am here to tell you that it is okay. Everything happens for a reason and you will find you home, I promise. I have always had a strong interest in music, even though I am not a major. I studied voice privately for 5 years and auditioned and was admitted to the school of music. So, Sigma Alpha Iota seemed like a good place for me to try. (It's an international music frat for women founded in 1903.) I rushed, was given a bid, and was eventually initiated. It was probably the happiest day of my life. Like I said, I've always been uber involved in everything. So, the semester after I was initiated in SAI, I rushed Phi Sigma Pi (it's a National Honor Frat founded in 1916 on the tripod of scholarship, leadership and fellowship). I was extended a bid and began the long, long pledge process. *If you know any Phi Sigs, you know what I mean.* I love Phi Sigma Pi more than anything. As a brotherhood, we are so close. We are always there for eachother and it's just amazing to know that those are my bros and they always have my back. I also love love love all my SAI sisters. They were the first org to take me in and I will always love them for that. This upcoming year (2007-08) I was elected as corresponding secretary and editor!! SAI is also an amazing organization of women. Everytime I experience our ritual it reminds me of how lucky I am.
I guess, what I'm trying to say is that, don't give up. You will find your home. It may not be with an NPC sorority. It may be with a service sorority, or local sorority, or special interest sorority. Heck, maybe even Phi Sig (you have to have a 3.0 gpa to be considered for membership). I'm not going to lie...sometimes I still wonder what it would be like to be in an NPC organization and do all the stuff that they do. Sometimes, I think about rushing again. But, juggling 3 orgs...I HAVE ENOUGH TROUBLE WITH TWO! If a sisterhood is what you are looking for, don't give up. Check out other orgs because I promise, you will find the place you love that also loves you. YOUR HOME IS OUT HERE! And, do what I did. When I joined each of these orgs, I promised myself that I would work to make a name for each of us on campus. And, my SAI chapter, though we were chartered at the school of music in 1999, had never completed the university affiliation process. AND, NOW WE'RE AFFILIATED. This year, I wrote a letter that won my chapter of Phi Sigma Pi the human relations award through the office of multiculutural affairs.
YOUR HOME IS OUT THERE, MUSICLVR! I CAN'T STRESS THAT ENOUGH!! PLEASE, DON'T GIVE UP.
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